Does it make you mad?

Call me sometime and we'll talk about it.

 

i wouldn't say i get mad, but it can be borderline on some things. rarely will anyone else know about it though...

i work hard at staying in the present

 

Really? Be careful with your words. You never know how they might affect others.

 

Don't let a few words you disagree with take away from the overall message. I have no idea what's happened to you, but being abused and taken advantage of are two different things. The core of my post holds, in either case: get over it.

Edit: Oh, and this:

definitely implies at least partial accountability.

 

Hmm I can't really think of times I was took advantage of personally, and I didn't get revenge somehow.

I think I've got more of the opposite problem- I sort of commit to a war, when I shouldn't have bothered.

Sometimes, I can't change the ways of the world.Or sthg didnt turn out like planned.So nowadays, I want feedback on things asap.So I don't risk having a load of shit.

 

I would take your post seriously if you attached some kind of cognitive technique to 'getting over it'. Telling people to just get over it though is highly ineffective.
Although, I think it's the first time I've heard it. I had to think of ra minute how to react.

 

I am mad at myself for my choices, mad at others for choices they decided for me, which I had no choice in. I am just mad and sad.
I had a balance bar and feel a bit better. Now I'm just mad and sad, not mad, sad and hungry lol.

 

Now, what is this threads subject again?

 

I should have gotten revenge. I am sure good at getting revenge with myself for my choices.

 

Yourself?
I think self-destructiveness and self punishment are alarmingly common traits.
Sthg I may've been guilty of in the past.

On this, I separate "personal" grievances and just general hassle.
eg a fraudulent purchase order wouldn't bother me.Unless its from someone I know to some extent etc.

 

I'm goign to go take a really long bath and ponder this underwater stoned.

 

Sorry if I sounded brusque there, but by "get over it" I mean what has been said in a few other posts in this very thread.

Don't allow bad shit from the past to eat at you in the present. Let it go. You're not gaining anything at all from that kind of thinking, it only serves to create negativity in your life.

How you do that is up to you, and it is most definitely easier said than done.

 

You have the ability to make different choices, better choices, based on what you've learned from your past. You can use your past as a positive tool in making your future a better one, however, don't beat yourself up for what's done and over with. You're a different person now, right? Lay that anger and disappointment to rest, it's not going to do you any good to worry over things you simply cannot change.

{{{Hugs}}}

Enjoy your bath.

 

You can't change the past. live in the moment and if you hate how you were, don't be like that anymore. The past is in the past, don't let it eat you up inside. Learn from it, that's what it's there for. You're in a happy situation right now, embrace it and don't torment yourself unnecessarily. Be REAL with yourself.

 

See?!! Zilla knows.

 

zilla for the win!

thinking of the past and all the times i've been taken advantage of doesn't make me angry
it makes me sad and extremely cold hearted
so obviously i try not to think about it
my heart has been in alot of pain lately

 

Thank you . I feel a lot better now. The bath was awesome. I smell like cucumbers and jasmine now. I only had one bar left of that soap I made, but I broke it out.
All of you are right, even tthough your opinions are different. Writting this out will help me. So this is for me and to you, to let you know your words didn;t fall on deaf ears. i am moving in a couple of weeks and it's likely my husband will be deployed immediatley, leaving me with no friends or family near by, in a brand new city. So, if I come back with more problems, or lots of sadness, it's not because I didn't take your advice or enjoy self-pity.
Just get over it-This is a good point. Just worded differently than I am used to. Did you mean 'fake it till you make it'?. That tends to work well for me. I am sorry I jumped all over you. Sometimes I come froma defensive place when I am hurting inside.
Live in the present-Do I have to enjoy everythign I am doing int he present to Enjoy and be int he present? I tried reading 'A New Earth', but it was a very difficult read for me and sits, only half read in a pile of books on my nightstand.

 

I also have questions:
What do you do to soothe yourself that works?
Anyone think pot perpetuates mental health problems?
Supplements and food, anyone have any that work and help your mood?

 

That's it. Why do I torment myself?

 

Do something nice for someone without them knowing about it. It takes you out of yourself and keeps you humble.