We are a senior couple and sex is a huge part of your lives. I am very lucky that I have a wife that is so sexual active and it doesn’t take much for her to get wet. That said, sometimes she needs a little help accepting my cock. Like when I take her unexpectedly. I am very aware of this do not want to cause her discomfort. During those times, I use a water based lube only on the head of my cock. I rub it on my clit before I enter her. I do not go balls deep until I know she is ready. The point is to only use a very small amount and let the natural wetness of the vigina to work. Too much lube makes it too sloppy and I am not well endowed.
It does. I've had a fairly big guy complain I feel loose when I used lube and I felt like a tramp because his dick was alot bigger than I ever took in me but it does obviously loosen up the vagina for easier penetration. Rather have him muff you
My wife is older, but still produces a good amount of natural wetness. On the occasions when we do a spontaneous quicky, I might have to apply only a small amount to the head of my penis. The key here is a small amount and then I don’t just ram it in. I rub her clit with the lubed head of my penis and then enter her opening. I do very shallow strokes until I feel her juices flow. Makes it more enjoyable for her. Sometimes I coat the head of my penis with my precum. That work great too. I produce a good amount.
We use toys most of the time so there's always a bit of lubricant leftover. I never have to worry about her going dry due to this and she feels great to me, she has never complained about it being sloppy or to loose. She went through menopause years ago and does not produce as much natural lubricant as before her change.