Doesn't it kind of suck when...

then they're not a good friend of mine. I'm not going to hate them but I'm not going to be bff's d: with them either. The few close firends I have and I always check in with each other before we hang out with somone we both know but aren't close with. A good friend of mine from high school recently looked me up and I won't be friends with her again because she talks constant shit about a very close friends of mine. Plus I mean if you're good firends with somone or in a relationship with somone and they don't like somone you have to think of why I mean they must have a good reason. it goes the other way too. this chick who was a mutual friend of me and my friend called me a whore in front of a bunch of people on st patricks day. he's not friends with her anymore adn neither are my other close firends.

 

I don't expect my friends to like or dislike the same people as me, but then I don't hang around in packs, if someone doesn't like someone who I'm fond of I expect them to at the very least keep it to themselves, them bitching about him or her is of topic, in return i won't go on about how great they are
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hmmmm, it doesn't really make me rethink why I dislike someone, but it does make me be courteous around that other person if our friend is around too. Not buddy buddy, but not cruel, because that just causes unnecessary stress

 

On St Paddy's day????? The nerve!

I agree with you regarding real life friends, but on Hip Forums there are just so many personalities it would be impossible to keep friends with your friends' friends.

Not that any of this is remotely real anyways. But yet... often too real.

 

so the people who agree with this if I don't like them my friends shouldn't ethier.
what do you do if two mutual friends fall out, do you diecide your not going to be friends with ethier and what about your friends with a couple then they split up.
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happy birthday!

 

I know!!!! we just ran into her weren't with her and she likes my friend Jay and he's my ex and still kinda likes me and she was just shitfaced and called me a whore ): on green beer day ):

 

I'll read this closer later... maybe.
Just one question til then - are yall discussing HF or grade school?

 

some of the people on here that im closest too cant stand each other and basically that is their business... i like who i like and i dont care if no one else likes them... i make my own decisions and dont gossip.

 

it seems pretty childish to me to expect your friends to dislike someone just because you don't like them. it's also childish that these relationships could cause a conflict. sounds like some stupid teen movie from the 80's...mature people can manage to be around each other without getting into fights. i won't tolerate my friends speaking badly of each other, because i AM a very loyal friend. but it's my very deep loyalty that keeps me from blowing off a friend i've made just because he or she clashes with someone else. love me, tolerate my friends. they're like family to me.

 

haha i know right. this thread kinda reminded me of being back in junior high. i dont care who my friends like or dont like just as my true friends dont care either. we are all adults and make our own opinions based on our own experiences.

 

i think when you start placing conditions on your friendships, you don't really have any true friendships. people don't always bring out the best in each other, sometimes they only bring out the worst. but when you can't go to a bar with your friends without someone getting into a tizzy about who such and such was flirting with or some drunk idiot called you a bitch, then you've gotta seriously consider making some changes....

 

there is maybe an exception to that though now that i think about it... say i had a great friend and then there was someone that did something HORRIBLE to wrong me- rape, etc... and all the sudden my "great friend" wanted to become friends with the rapist... id have to seriously evaluate my friendship but other then that.....

i could give two shits who my friends are friends with

 

yeah exactly- some people just dont get along. i have a couple friends that cant get along with each other just from the way their personalities clash... i get along with both of them though so that's fine (and none of these people care cause luckily they are mature enough)

 

yeah, i guess that would be a special circumstance, since it would put you in harms way again. that's pretty severe. but if your friend is dating the ex of some other friend and that other friend is all offended (even thought it's NONE of their business who their ex dates) and blah blah blah ad nauseum, they need to get over it. that's just stupid and childish.

 

hm if i got divorced and one of my best friends would start dating dan right away... i wouldnt talk to them either.

 

for example my husband and my best friend pretty much despise each other. she's like my sister and we occisionally fight like sisters. but i'd no more abandon my sister than i would my husband. i don't get along with his sister all the time either, and i don't expect him to cut off all ties with her, that would be totally stupid. once people become my friends, it requires pretty strong circumstances in my personal relationship with them for me to cut ties with them, and i'm not going to do it just because another friend dislikes them.

 

exactly. that is way too fickle and anyone that is like that prolly isnt a friend to begin with.

 

well, you know, people hace to find a little joy & a little love in this world. sometimes the timing is painful to someone else, but you can't pass the chance at something right because someone else is going to feel a little bruised over it. i've been in a couple failed tries at relationships where my ex and a friend found perfection together. i can't hate them for that, and i can't expect anyone else to do that for my sake, either.

 

I don't really appreciate seeing a monkey taking a dump everytime you post. Do you want to see me pinching a loaf too?