Dreadlocked dating?

alot?????
not in my experience
id say less then 1% ..and definately the 1% i would want nothin to do with

 

I think more than 1% of the people is superficial. Although even 1% of the, say, 500 million possible candidates is still 5 million.

 

did i have a wonderful date with a beautiful and sweet dready girl last night or was i just dreamming?

 

MY fantasy girl has dirty feet and dreadies, a big smile and a kind heart. And she made her own skirt and looks great in it.

so there ya go. thats why im single i guess.

 

i would date you in a snap, bird :blush5:

 

how come everyone says that dreads prevent girls from going out with them? Most girls I know love them and want to touch them. And even if a girl did have a problem with them, it's not somebody I would want to go out with anyway....

 

bah i dont know why im single, nobody seems to dig the dreads i guess lol

 

Where are these beautiful girls whom are dreadlovers? i need to find them! lol

 

I dont understand I love men with dreads women with dreads all beautiful! I love to touch them, play with them its just awesome to have your hands deep wrist deep in beautiful dreads!

 

Gah, I thought I was a minority. I am married and dreadless as of now. I got married when I didn't have dreads and somewhat hid my hippie side. Somewhat lol. Anyway, I let my hair dread and I started wearing clothes that I felt empowered me. Then he said he wasn't attracted to me anymore. I stopped doing all of that stuff and took my dreads out. It was painful on so many levels. Just this month, I'm letting some of my true hippie side shine through. I'm scared because I love him but I can't deny myself anymore. Not entirely. I can't even imagine the happiness of being with someone that loved me with dreads, hairy in the winter (because I like myself that way in winter), wearing the hemp jewelry I make and my skirts.

 

i disagree with the above u cannot sacrifuce who ya are foir the sake of anoyther you must be yourself and he will have to learn to live with that.....opr not
but it wont matter wether he does or not because being yourself ois the most important thing you can do

if you give up who ya are for him...then who are you? not you anymore..your just his...

for true happiness you gotta be you..and be accepted by him not as his____ whatever but as yourself..and then share that youness with him

 

I have finally realized that. I originally thought that I could simply change for the one I loved, but then I realized, it goes much deeper than the clothes I wear or the accessories that I buy. At first, I thought I could just change my clothes, but with changing my clothes, I changed jobs, then I changed who I talked to, before I knew it, my whole life was changing. I went to great lengths to get rid of anything hippie that I had (fortunately, I just packed it all away in a trash bag) a few weeks ago, I came back to that trash bag. I opened it, I felt guilty and sad for so many reasons. I've come to realize, like Soaringeagle said, if I change who I am, I lose myself. I love my husband very much and while I'm trying to incorporate some of the hippie back into my life, I feel scared and guilty and really panicked. I know that my husband has some issues of his own with being accepted by society as being one of his top priorities. He's so much of a people pleaser, and I'm not. I want to please God and please myself, but I've learned that I can't possibly please the world. Who needs to, anyway? So, here I am. I've quit hiding some things I hid before, I make jewelry around him, visit hipforums, and I've brought out a few pieces of clothing that I love(d). Sometimes now, when I see stuff that I used to love so much, it feels like it's all wrong now. It feels like I don't even like it, when I know I do, but I feel so guilty and scared even wearing some of my skirts now. He thinks that hippies don't take care of themselves and he says he can't respect anyone that doesn't take care of themselves. I don't want him to think that way of me. I feel terrible because I feel like the clothes I wear, the jewelry I wear, and the things I do in my spare time could ruin my marriage, when really I feel like I should just give up on showing my hippie side, but I've tried so many times and I keep going back and forth between me/hippie/whatever to trying to please him. Ugh, I'm in such a crazy mess that I've never really been able to solve. Anyway, I didn't mean to hijack this thread, but I am very thankful to be able to finally talk about this.

 

well it seems like hes the 1 with the problem if anything you should be able to ballance and compliment eachother.. you could get him to loosen up and not be so damn scared what people think and he should be able to help u take a more practicle approach to stuff like your jewlery (maybe making it into a legit business) but to me it seems you just roll over and give up and let him call all the shots from how u dress act who u talk to what ya do in your spare time everything ya do now is geared towards making sure he just blends in to the crownd and ya never draw arttention your way..

id suggest takin the whole familky to a rainbow gatherin or somethin, maybe a nudist resort or a pagan fest
somewhere where when he walks in in a suite and tie looking all clean cut and proper hes the 1 standing out and being scrutenized
hed gain a greatter appreciatoiion for your points of view

he may even realizre how his controilling all you do hurets you as a person..

if ya cant do that though, just sit him down and have a total heart to heart talk tell him exactly how u feel what u feel u lost and why and why its important to ya dont have a discussion..make him listen.. then tell him look i love yas..but i love me too so heres how its gonna be.. every day im gonna live like i wanna live do as i wanna do and dress as i wannsa dress.. and on special ovccassuions ill dress up all proper and plasy along with the whole boring housewife imaghe ..im willin to work with ya in some ways but i cant give up who i am...and who i am is who ya married so i dunno why ya would want me ti ber someone else...


you've given up so much of your strength now that ya cant even be sure u like the things that deep down u know u like

 

I actually don't feel much myself since I cut mine off. Would love to meet a dready sister though!

 

HempMama,

I must say I agree with SoaringEagle! Be your truest self, feel no guilt, and if your husband doesn't like it, that's HIS problem, his emotions. Express yours or you will go crazy. There are a million nice hippie brothers that would love to meet a nice and powerful dready mama being herself. I live on a Rainbow Family commune that would love sisters to come by.

Love and Light,
Joshua

 

geek wheres this rainbow commune?
id love to come check it oiut (come on theres gotta be some sisters there right? how can it finctuion without any sisters?

 

I just want to meet fellow uk dreadheads

 

lifer is to short to be worried about what other people think. esp. the one that you love. if your not happy woth the way you live your life because he dosnt like it or "approve", then i would have to re-evaluate the relationship. if your not happy how can you have a happy and fullfilling relationship? be yourself no matter what the cost. follow your heart and be happy. the more you try to please someone else the less you become yourself.....then one day you wake up and relize....WTF... i lost all my belifes and who i am ....for what? live happy and fullfilled... hugs

 

love ya gypsymama well said