F.m.l.

I think this is worth considering.

 

haha! thats hilarious, yet disgusting at the same time!

*sighh... she just called me to say the painters finished patching the whole that was in my wall, and they will be back tomorrow to paint, so she will be cleaning out my room tonight :/ all i could say was "tonight? but... cant you just wait until tomorrow?" then she got suspicious like "why, is there something you dont want me to see in there? maybe i'll go up there right now" i think she was kidding though, all i said was "noo.. i just dont want you throwing out some important papers i have in there.. thats all" hahahaa! fml im screwed

 

Does anyone have any good excuses i could use for when she calls me to tell me what she found? Specifically about the alcohol, I don't see why it would such a big deal since its legal and all.. well not legal for me since i'm 17, but somewhat? haha! I dont think i can go threw with mustlivelife's idea... i dont know, i just cant confess! i'm not that kind of person, for some reason i always deny deny deny then make up some dumb ass lies and excuses, and usually she falls for them... i was thinking about saying i found the bottles in the trash and i kept them to make some experiment.. hahahaha.. she would believe something like that i bet, if there also wasnt a shot glass beside it, which there is... hahaha! hmm... anyy excuses?! I refuse to confess.

 

it sounds like you already missed the best chance you had

you should have just been honest

 

I would think that if she's destined to find the stuff anyway the reaction will be far less severe if she doesn't get the sense that you are being dishonest. A hastily concocted excuse will be transparent and trigger the "I wonder what else he's hiding" reaction in her mind. I still advocate the preemptive confession approach.

 

Consider this your chance to learn how to man the fuck up in order to change a long pain into a short one.

Any excuses? No. She will know what it's all for, any excuses will make you seem more immature and dishonest and you will fail the test that's in your mother's mind.

I'm sorry but I really dislike your mindset and I think you need to do some serious work on yourself, spend some time looking in the mirror and having a good hard think. If you can't be honest with your mother then who can you be honest with? It will come to a point when you realise you're not being that honest with yourself.

 

How am I not being honest? I never once said I had nothing in there, its just i never said I did either, if she finds it she finds it. And how am I not being honest with myself? I know what I've done, I know whats in there, I just don't want HER to know whats in there, obviously. Who would? I couldn't give a fuck less about being honest right now, I just don't want to get in shit over stuff that isn't even a big deal. What teenager goes up to his mom and says "Sorry, I have alcohol and drugs in my room, forgiveness?" Just so i can get yelled at? Fuck that, if she finds it... ohwell, if she doesnt.. good! Or if she does and doesn't care, then whatever

 

It's easy for all you to tell me to confess, but think about it... what if it was you? and you were a kid again (if your not now) would you seriously call up your mom and tell her you were hiding this all in your room? when theres still a small chance she wont find it? I dont think so, but maybe thats just me.. if she finds it, then sure i'll confess.. but until theres evidence im keeping my mouth shut

 

Nobody seems to realize, Summer school= drugs and booze next your bed. Perfect opportunity to cool it on the shit and finish up school on a good note. Tell your mom youre doing your best to stop partying and getting serious about your life. Dont be like me man do your best in school! I dropped out and now im fucked! Go to college and make something of yourself. Your mom will understand, we all partied at some point.

 

Considering where I was at that stage- absolutely not... because I'd be scared shitless how she'd react to it- so yes- I do understand where you're coming from... without the benefit of hindsight that clues one in to the likelihood that ones parent cares more about core components of good character like honesty on a more profound level than whether there's experimentation with weed and drinking...

 

You're not being honest because you're planning on lying to your mother if she finds them with a half-baked excuse. Honesty is so much better than a half-baked excuse, please think about that.

I am suggesting that you preemptively tell her that you have them, before she finds them. Not just suggesting that you admit these things. You made me think that she would find it, no doubt. Now you say there is a small chance that maybe she won't find it. A small chance she won't still means there's a big chance that she will.

I have already mentioned that I reverted to the honesty method before. It paid off, I didn't get in trouble, I got a bit of respect and asked what the cause of this was. I got help from my mum, not a bollucking. It is my experience from lies that I have told to others in the past that, ultimately, I was lying to myself more than anyone.

Those are questions you should ask yourself, not me. Take that look in the mirror.

 

Perhaps we do but realizing that the vodka and cough syrup bottles are empty means any lecture would be a tad late. Chances are pretty good that the Mom's reaction will be somewhat negative for the very reason you've cited but being open with her before she uncovers the reason that her son has been stalling... assuming she doesn't already know and is trying to spur a confession out of him to spare him the indignity of her confronting him.

 

Well, IF she cleans up my room tonight she will definitely find everything. But, theres that small chance she will just be tired and not feel like doing it, which would mean she wont find anything... And, I don't know, I don't see my mom giving me any "respect" for telling her this, she just might be a little confused, then go check... I dont think she will get to mad, I dont really think she'll mind... that much. What i'm afraid of is she will tell my dad, she always does, even when she promises she wont she does, and my dad will freak out and be extremely mad, and there is no reasoning with him, at all

 

In that case, I withdraw all my advice and can only wish you well as you face the inevitable. Have fun being a young American, sport.

 

yep..typical kid..wont listen to the advice from those who have already been through this

 

Yep- I was just as hard headed myself. There will always be variables that us outsiders would have no way of knowing... communication between (separated/divorced?) parents... o.m.'s history with his folks; has he been escorted home by the po-po at 2am in the morning... has he performed ritual animal sacrifices for other than meal preparation... you know, the standard bill of fare for bright and growing minds blissfully bereft of foresight which is partially crafted from hindsight. I only got my clues when reality kicked me in the ass and not the well meaning words of caution and advice from people I assumed that I was at least as smart as...

Reality has a way of driving points home far more effectively than any of us can posting on a discussion forum. I wish the OP well.

Then there's this very good point. Maybe originallymasked might consider taking a break for a while...

 

maybe she'll find the weed and smoke it and forget about whatever else she finds

or the guy who fixed the wall stole it and then theres just empty bottles

 

Canadian* haha but okay, thank you

 

I wish i could take the advice and confess, but i cant! but.. its 8:40pm now, and i havent gotten a call, so maybe she wont clean it today? If i dont get a call by 10, then i'll know she didn't clean it, or shes just waiting until tomorrow to tell me what she found, in person... That will be the most horrible thing ever, i get home and check my room, just to find it all missing.. i wouldnt know what to say! *sigh... i hate getting my room painted lol

 

Having been in a verry similar situation just later year with more serious stuff i would say just be honest like your 17 your old most old enough to do what ya want so just be honest with her.
When i got caught i pretty much just cryed the whole time&told my parents everything they asked.
After i got done being a baby my dad pretty much told me that i should have been honest&he would have respected me alot more.
&iget that so now im like mostly honestly with my parents about shit& imean i get in trouble for shit sometimes but oh well at least my parents trust me so when i actually didnt so anything wrong they believe me.
Trust me if you lie once to your parents there gonna have trouble believing anything you say.
&you pretty much sound like your already busted so you should just confess get some honesty point.
Take the punishment
&learn to hide yopur shit alittle better.
I mean its all a learning experinces.
& it feels good not to have to hide shit from people.
Good luck with everything.