F.m.l.

To me that seems like her way of coming out and saying she found your stuff without actually making you think she found your stuff. And it was her way to give you the opportunity to confess and come clean before she actually has to confront you about finding your stuff.

Ya ask me ya already blew your chance to at lease escape with some leniency. Time to face the music and chalk it up to lesson learned.

 

So, how did it go?

Are you still a child or have you become a man through your integrity?

 

Okay, well... I got caught, but I feel bad cause i made a bunch of half-ass lies to make it sound as if i did nothing wrong... It was all opposite than what i thought to, my dad didn't even freak out, he didn't even seem that mad, just disappointed... my mom on the other hand, flipped shit, she called me at about 11pm and started screaming, then this is when i just dug a deeper whole for myself, she kept saying "put your dad on the phone" and i didn't want my dad to know so i refused to put him on the phone, by saying stuff like "why..? why do you need to tell him.. he's sleeping, no i can't... no.." which just made her madder, eventually I did put him on the phone though.

Then I made up some retarded excuses, my mom didn't believe me at all, and I don't think my dad did either, but he was still calm at least, he said "I'll believe it when you prove it, but if i find out your lying to me your dead"

And now i just feel guilty for lying about it all, but no way i'm going to say i lied now... My mom already said i'm "grounded" and i've never been grounded before! hahaha! apparently she is now doing weekly searches in my room? and if she finds anything again my phones getting cut off :/ I think i'm punished enough for something that shouldn't be a big deal, if i confess i'll just get in more trouble now... so whatever

 

Glad to see my suffering gives you pleasure

 

I'm aware that this is of little comfort to you but this is not the end of the world. You were correct in assuming that she'd have flipped had you told her, but I'd wager the consequences would have been far less. Unfortunately you did what most of us did at that stage and dug a deeper hole by lying to try and cover up- as well as being evasive because in doing so you've basically said that you could not be trusted in general. The best thing you can do is to sit down and talk with her once she has calmed down- and at least apologize for being dishonest and evasive. I'd suggest also apologizing for not being up front about what she was going to find that would have at least given her the cue that you were willing to deal with any situation rationally.

You really blew a chance to show her that you had matured. JMO

 

It's not suffering...It's learning

and yes..it is funny to see people learn lessons that we've already learned....especially after we tried in vain to help

 

I think i'm just going to leave it alone, and not bring it up again... although apologizing may be good, if she's calmed down i think its best if i just let her stay calm, eventually it'll all be forgotten and done with anyways

 

Touche lol

 

Trust me.. if you don't try to own up to some responsibility and apologize for the drugs & the deception, she isn't going to forget.. she might calm down, but she is going to look for every opportunity in the world to not trust you, overly inspect you, and search through your things while you aren't there in order to find out what else you are keeping from her. Remember, not telling the whole truth is still considered lying.

 

It's never too late to tell the truth. You will feel better for it and it will really help the situation. The more you ignore it and keep quiet, the more your mum will be imagining what you have planned and what resentment you might be harbouring for her. It won't be long until you hear about this again unless you put it to rest.

At the very least talk to her and your dad (he is begging for you to own up - hence the being dead if you're lying) so they know you are not angry or holding them responsible for it. You have to show you're responsible, that you're an adult. An adult with these vices is commonplace so they would have an easier time accepting you for it. An irresponsible child with these vices could be a danger to themselves and those around them.

Seriously, take that look at yourself. You're being really nice with us but I really think your attitude towards your parents sucks. It sounds like you don't respect them as people, you just want to have to deal with them as little as possible as you go on getting high. And that's how they'll feel.

Reach out and touch them.

 

Well, I talked with them both today, and they both completely believe my excuse... I can tell when they actually do believe it, I didn't do anything else to convince them, they just trust me I guess..
and theres no reason they shouldn't, im generally a pree good kid, I dont go out partying getting wasted, I dont get into trouble, I dont really do anything wrong... I only have a few drinks before i go out and do something with friends (because i'm somewhat shy and it helps a bit) But i dont even drink with them, they dont drink. And i only smoke weed occasionally at home at nights, or a few times at school with a few close friends, and I've only done dxm a few times, safely in my room when every one else is asleep, just for an experience.
Which is why i don't think i really did anything wrong which is why i didn't want to confess because i didn't feel like i deserved to be in trouble...

 

To me, the failure in your logic is that if you don't feel you're doing anything wrong then you would have no problem being open and honest about it.

 

He feels he isn't doing anything wrong. But his parents wouldn't agree with that, so that's why he is not being open about it. He just doesn’t want to get in trouble for something he feels is not wrong

 

Exactly