Family members contributing to body issues?

i'm known for saying such thngs as "i can't look skinny, but i can look beautiful." thanks to me mom.

 

Oh my. These girls want so badly to fit into a smaller size that they're willing to shoehorn themselves into an ill-fitting pair of pants. It makes them look larger than they actually are....If they just put on well-fitting, tasteful clothes, they would probably look very lovely indeed.

I have encountered a size 12 girl in size 5 jeans at a store I frequent. It made me cringe for her. Then when I couldn't find any size 5's, I got mad because she probably took the last ones.

 

My mom was the same way when I was younger and it screwed me up pretty bad. I ended up battling anorexia for many years. When I got down to 68 pounds, my parents put me in a hospital. I still to this day struggle with weight issues because of it. I would tell your mom ( nicely) to back off. She should just be supportive of you without judging.

 

I have had to tell my daughters' grandmas not to go on about how fat they think they are in front of my kids. Why do some women feel like when a bunch of women get together they all have to talk about how fat they think they are? My little daughter, who is not anything resembling overweight, was trying to diet at the age of SIX!!!


So I told my mom and my mothers-in-law to stop talking about how fat that they think that they themselves are. It's damaging to my kids.

 

And I just wanted to add that at 160 pounds, unless you're three feet tall, you're not obese.


My grandma used to do the same thing that your mom does to every woman in my family. When I got boobs and a butt because of puberty she decided that I must be ballooning out of control. She was cruel and horrible. I was actually underweight at the time.

My mom told me how to deal with it, though. She said that every time my grandma asked me how much I weighed, I should say that weighed 125 pounds because that's how much my grandma weighed. then she couldn't get on my case. It sort of worked.

 

ahhh I'm sorry you're going through that. My family is nuts when it comes to weight too. here I am sick as a dog and I am told I 'look fantastic' because I've lost weight from not being able to digest food properly or keep it down for that matter. It's really sick and makes me realize how silly this superficialness in our society is that it's better to be sick and thin than overweight and healthy-it really sadens me and if I ever have a daughter I will not allow that corruption of self-image and vainess to happen to her because it makes you so ugly.

 

my mom is trying to lose weight,
but she is skinny!!!!
she told me; i'm too fat so thats why i'm losing weight,
at least i was never as fat as you!
so i said; mom, you don't need to lose weight, it's unhealthy.
and, do you think i am fat? and she said; well not really fat,
but i thought you didn't mind that you're a bit fat
cuz otherwise you wouldn't wear those clothes...
(i was wearing a skirt)
she also always says; omg those breasts of yours! i'm so glad my tits aren't big
if they were as big as yours they'd hang on the floor by now!
and she just yells that when we are shopping for clothes.
or she will try on some jeans and say; my butt looks good in this, wouldn't look good on you though, thats cuz i'm only 55 kilo's and you are 65 kilo's maybe even more!

 

I don't think you should care that it'll upset her to confront her. She's attacking you, and then very obviously pretending she's trying to help you. As far as I am concerned, she should be crying her eyes out because of her own actions. You don't treat people that way.