feel so alone in college.

well that's completely different. you can just buy that.

 

Just put yourself out there and talk to everyone you can. Don't be afraid to broaden your horizons.

 

I love this, facebook ruined the social life.

Best way to meet people is by going to events like concerts, carnivals, fairs, whatever. Go to one youre interested in and there will be a TON of people with the same interest. I just recently broke out of my "lonely" bubble. People dont mind being confronted, just gotta have something to say even if it is "Whats up?" you gotta get a rise out of their interest. Girls are the easiest to confront and will usually know where you can meet even more people. Try playing your guitar in public. When I street perform people my age will give me the most confused look and once in a while one will talk to me. Met a few cool people, mostly drunks with a few good complaints but its all about experience.

 

Try and be hot too, you'll meet more people if you are hot

 

fuck people

be drunk and criticize them!


just kidding. be drunk and friendly. or just friendly....i should be more friendly. friendly aka ASSERTIVELY and ACTIVELY friendly. dont wait for them, go and be friendly TO other people

 

I suppose the college experience is a bit different to the uni one, but when I was living on campus I met people by going to the uni bar... but of course the legal drinking age is 18 over here, so depending on your age that suggestion may be completely null.

The mates I've made during uni are mostly just people from my classes. Just strike up a conversation (small talk at first, whatever) and build up from there. A little charm never hurt anyone: give everybody your attention, give everybody a chance. I find a lot of people love to talk about themselves once you get them going. Make mental notes and continue to talk with people who you think you'd get along with, who fit within your personal boundaries, etc. Just be yourself and keep at it; it takes time and effort but it's worth it.

And this might sound kind of corny, but I think it's worth remembering that there are other students in similar positions to you. I know when I felt lonely it helped to consider that there are other kids out there looking for a friend, a new mate, a like-minded person, someone to talk with, whatever.

I only quit smoking recently, but I agree that it facilitated conservation, ha. But I'd say not having a cancer stick hanging out of mouth is probably going to make me more approachable.

 

Everything the poster above just said is true. You have to remember that you aren't the only one that's lonely, scared, etc. Especially when you are first starting out in a new environment, it is not that hard to find someone else that is as freaked out as you are.

 

Why didn't you say so in the OP?

I prefer pursuing sex directly if that's what I want; and socializing for its own sake when I feel like it. Mixing the two things makes me feel manipulative.

 

Yep. I'd kick anyone who tried to make friends with me, just to shag me.