First love

^^^ **hugs**

 

my first love broke up with me a little over a month ago..... right now i can't stop thinking about us.....it's driving me nuts, i wish i could get over him but i don't think i can

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You won't get over it luv, sorry to say that but what I have learnt is that you have to deal with it. The rest of your boyfriends you may be able to get over, but not the first. The first has taught you how to love, and you have grown because of it. Orright, I have no idea what I'm talking about but I think that's what I've found. I haven't been able to get over not being with my first love - but I have been able to deal with it.

 

I don't think you ever get over your first love. After a time, however, the pain begins to fade, and in it's place grows a fond remembrance...a time you can smile about the time you shared without crying.

 

it took me a lot of time but i finally did.

 

I think there's a difference between being in love with someone, and with love.

Your first infatuation, first boyfriend, first kiss, first... you can fill in the blanks however you please but that's being in love. Maybe it's true love & maybe it's not, but even though the feelings are there, it might not necessarily be love.

Now your first real & true love... you'll know when that comes along. And no, I don't think there's any outgrowing or getting over true love. Like a few others have stated, if you can get over it, it wasn't there to begin with. If you've ever seen Fran Drescher in The Beautician & the Beast, she talks about getting "the utz" in the pit of her stomach... that's not quite it, but it's along the right lines. True love is something you don't have to wonder about. If it's there, you know.

And maybe I'm terribly biased here. I am 30 years old, and married to my first & only boyfriend. I've never had an ex... nor even so much as kissed another man. I don't know if that makes me a natural at finding true love, inexperienced at love, or just plain lucky. But all the same I do feel that there's a difference.
love,
mom

 

hey thanks mama!
thats a great post.
youve helped me see something important
thankyou!

 

I think you are really lucky. I tought I was lucky too. But he broke up with me about a month ago after 4 and a half wonderful years and a lot of planing for our future together. I thought we were going to be together forever, he is the only one that undersdands me and the only one who listens to me. I feel really empty and lost right now. I don't think you ever get over someone you love. But I hope the pain will go away some day. Any words of advice for me? Anyone?

 

I have never been in love before..
I have a hard time believing in it..

 

you are not alone ya know. It's ahrd to believe it until you feel it. I'm sure you'll feel it.

 

im still pretty confused about it all

my first love was a hard and long relationship but it ended a while ago and now im with someone else who i love.... i still care about my ex but i think the guy im with now, our love is truer, if that makes any sense. i did love my ex but it was totally different. i guess its different with everyone. i dont know.

 

I haven't had a first love, yet. I don't think the feelings I had for my last boyfriend were really deep love, and the guys before that were out of the question.

 

Do you ever really get over your first real love?

I don't think we ever forget them...but still love them ? Perhaps in some small way. But you have to move on,and do!

If we never get over them then first love is starting to sound to me like malaria..it just never goes away. Is this why Dali painted The Persistance of Memory ? I love the painting, but would not want to be trapped forever in its landscape.

 

i got over mine, by falling in love again.. it happens here and there, and when oyu least expect it.

maybe be happy that you felt the pain, at least you know your alive

 

...and again, and again, and again. I must be an optimist!

 

hmmm and i think there are various levels of love as well. Often first loves are hard to get over because they contain the zest of youth with it as well. Like you remember how it felt to be young and in love too and that in itself is quite euphoric.

I ended up falling in love with a friend. We are married now and all that, but 7 years ago we met and formed a friendship. She says she loved me from the minute, but it came about slower for me...like the more time we spent together the more I started to crush on her and then full on love her.

The problem though is that we can fall out of love all the time. I do, we do. Once you love someone I don't think you can ever unlove them. I just think people stay angry...but never really stop loving deep deep inside.

 

I think some people have a different definition of "first love" and "get over"....anywho...

My first love was around 17 years ago...I still think of him often, and though I am very happy now and wouldn't want to change anything, he has a special place in my heart.

 

hey good one.

 

LoL Then you'll love this one...

When you are young, love is like a night on the town. You know it's gonna end, but sit back and enjoy the ride!!!!

....and don't complain about the hangover; it was fun at the time!

 

wow, that is completely true...... great way of saying it
we certainly need a cure for the hangover though, because i've had an extremely bad one for about 3 months now......

love hurts.....