first sexual experience and im confused!

I think that before you go and throw your virginity away you should make sure that this is the girl you want.
If you've decided THAT, then alright.

First of all, calm down- her interest in you should be enough to show that she thinks you're attractive enough to talk to.
If she's telling you that if you give her a drink, you might get lucky; I'd play with that a little.
I'm 16, and a female- but I also know that if I want to hint to a guy I'll joke around and flirt.
I wouldn't jump her bones immediatly.
Go have a good time at the party, and then when you feel you're loosened up and relaxed, and you feel like she's loosened up and relaxed-
ask her if she wants to take a walk, or go wherever you planned to go to do this.
If she says yes, then take her out-- and read on.
If she says no, you have a little more waiting to do (assuming she's interested) and don't push her into it.

When you do take her around back or wherever you plan to go to make love, reach for her hand. I know you may feel insecure about your hands but really; it's nothing to worry about many men AND women have that issue-- the more self-conscious you are the more stressed you are going to feel and that can affect your ability to 'harden up'. So relax, reach for her hand- if she grabs it YAY! That's great. Toy with her fingers, rub her palm with your thumb. Be CASUAL, not horny. It's stressful your first time, try your best to clear your head and don't think about anything but her. Imagine there will be no consequences and no negative effects.

Sit her down, talk for a little ('a little' being long enough for yourself and the young lady to feel comfortable) and then maybe slip your arm around her waist. TELL HER THAT YOU LIKE HER. Above all else let her know that; that way she's not going to think this is just some drunken fling. If you don't have the nerve to do that, I suggest pecking her on the cheek to test the waters, and then maybe moving slowly to her lips- if she allows you.

The rest SHOULD come naturally. Just remember these small points
-move at your own pace
-remain calm, tender, and subtle
-DON'T BE SELF-CONSCIOUS
-if she tells you to stop, stop
-light touches go a LONNNG way
-the neck is your friend, most women (about 97%) enjoy their neck being kissed
-always go for breasts before the lower-half, it gives her time to emotionally prepare

THE BIGGEST POINT OF ALL TO REMEMBER:
Being it your first time, I'm sure you've heard of premature-ejaculation. It happens to every man at least once in his life, very commonly during the loss of his virginity. WEAR A CONDOM, and don't feel embarassed if you climax a little too early. It's no big deal, you have the rest of your life ahead of you.

Above all, enjoy yourself.
Stressing will only ruin the experience for you.

Good Luck, Hunny-
-Logic

 

I just love how some peole call him creepy! Shut up! He might think a lot but he's like that. I relate to you because I'm like that too

 

I don't know. To be honest, things like this never work out how you plan them. You may expect to have sex at that party, but don't be too sure. Are you two even going out? And if not, isn't she being a bit of a slut? I don't know...I would be interested to hear what happens after that night, just to hear how things went

 

I love people like you. So nice.

 

That sounds like some great advice that everyone should hear. You should be a sex therapist or write a book on intimacy or be a psychologist for young men.

I never really go flaccid after ejaculating, at least not for a few minutes. If I'm still in the mood and being stimulated it pretty much stays rock hard. I can bust back to back occasionally but it NEVER takes more than five minutes before I'm ready to go again unless I'm at the end of a marathon. Is this normal? I always wonder why cumming early makes people think it's over, squirt that shit out and get back to business.