For those who love a married man.....

No offense, but it sounds like you meant that you would like him to get rid of his wife and kids for you. The majority of the time, if someone is messing around with someone who is married, they will end up being the one that is heart broken. Not to mention that there are plenty of other unmarried men out there. you definitely should find another one and not even think about it. and people were saying the stuff about being a homewrecker and a whore because if you interfered with someones marriage like that, that is what it would make you.
just try to think about if you were this guys wife and how you would feel. If I was married, and some woman was trying to or even thinking about messing around with my husband, I would kill her. I'm sure you would feel the same.

 

or at least do not do anything until they are completely divorced

 

Everyone's been vocally against this and I don't blame them. However, I've found that you can't judge something unless you're involved in it. 'In love with a married man' just sounds horrible, but every situation is different. I don't know about yours but be careful and don't lose your head.

 

I totally agree....now, I repeat again that I'm not going to do anything until they're together , but actually, even if I would like to stop thinking of him, how the heck do I explain my heart :"stop loving him, he's married" ? I don't believe love is a thing one can control.

 

so what? love you can't control, but you can control what you do with your legs, not can't you?

 

True, you can't control who you fall in love with... I didn't want to fall in love with the guy I loved... and when I had to move away for an internship and didn't see him (as friends) anymore, I was literally sick it hurt so bad... didn't come out of bed for a week. But I still didn't go after him, I was friends only with him and tried never to even let it show. He was pretty perceptive and I'd bet he knew something was up, but I never told him and I don't think he knows just how strong I felt. And in time I got over him, I'll dream of him maybe once a year or so but I've had others I've loved since then & I rarely think of him 'cept when this kind of topic comes up.

 

all i know is that i wouldn't waste my time being someone's dirty little secret. i wouldn't waste my time on a man who can't respect promises made, or can't completely break off one relationship before cultivating the next. obviously he has no respect for the woman in his life (his wife, not you, you don't count yet) OR his children, therefore the odds of him having any respect for you and any children you may wish to have in the future are slim to none. you may not mind playing second fiddle, but i have way too much self-respect for that.

 

Ehm...but...once again....nothing has happened between us,I think he's not going to betray his wife, children, and so on...so why do I have to think that he's that kind of man ? Even if there is a possibility that he would consider me, probably he would clear things up with his family before anything happens...I tell you, he's not that kind of man, I'm sure .

 

You have got some growing up to do.

-Litos

 

Oh, really? Well maybe you could also explain better what you mean.

 

then, hun, why don't you move on with your life?