Friend has exhibitionist tendencies at nude beach

I've been a nudist for almost 10 yrs. I've been to many of California's nude beaches. I've seen all kinds of sexual activities at these beaches, more at some than at others.
It doesn't happen often, but I have been approached by women who just want to chat. None, so far, have hinted at or expressed any sexual desire. I wish I could say the same about the men.

 

40 Years ago I was trim and athletic. No TomCruise or Brad Pitt- or whomever- just cute (I was told) and fit. Now a 60s version of the same. There were less than a dozen instances that would qualify as what I described. If the women were already at the beach, I put my towel a respectful distance away. But the women opened the conversation and invited me to come closer. In each instance I minded my own business until the women broke the proverbial ice. In 1981 two women beached their canoe about 100 feet from my towel on a sandbar in the Wisconsin River while I was in the water. Before I got out I told them that I was nude and they said, enthusiastically, that it was fine with them. (They were in swimsuits.) Soon after I got to my towel one of them came over and asked me to put suntan lotion on her back! What can I say?!

 

But for a woman or women to approach you just out of the blue like that there has to be some sort of attraction from their point of view. Listen I have trouble getting a waitress to take my order at a restaurant. Women don't talk to me ever. It's just so strange for me to hear guys say women approach them especially in a nudist situation. Maybe it's been so ingrained into my head everywhere I've ever been that a single male nudist is like the plague and he's to be avoided at all costs.

 

I get it Ace65. Thank you for your candor.
I never meant to boast. The main point was first, that seeing nude women at the beach, while surely enjoyable, was not nearly arousing enough to cause an erection. Young and healthy though I was. I consider it unfair to men to assume that if we're erect on a beach that we're all "hot and bothered" by the women. Secondly, that I didn't "approach" women unwanted, spatially and/or communicatively.

Ironically, I've always looked much younger than I am. In my teens and early 20's, tall dark and handsome was definitely the ticket! Short, blonde, youthful, and cute, not so much. But oddly enough, being nude seemed to level that particular playing field. I was an avid runner back then- now I walk- and in my late 20's/early 30's fit, tanned, and cute did seem to cause women to in some instances enter my "space" and/or initiate conversation.

Then, as we got acquainted, conversation, looks/glances, and "body language" would often become more flirtatious. Not overtly sexual, mind you. But enough to lower my guard, so-to-speak. The third point was that when I then became erect, it was "appreciated" in some way, often non-verbally, but was never a problem or considered unwelcome. Go figure...

So to summarize, was I sometimes erect on a nude beach or similar venue? Yes. Did I "flaunt' It? No! Did I offend anyone? No! Was it in some way appreciated by the woman/women in my immediate vicinity? All indications were yes.

 

I too have had similar experiences at nude beaches. Granted, most women are there with other woman or their families. Very few are there alone. I don't know if women perceive me as being non-threatening or just a nice cute guy or something else, but, like JIM270, I have been approached (just for chat) by women. It's a bummer ACE65 has not had a similar experience.

 

Although chatting solo with women has happened; it's been mostly circumstantial. For example I was staying at a resort overnight one time, my wife had decided to call it a day and was resting in our bungalow; I couldn't sleep so I decided to soak in the hot-tub. A young lady came by; and we struck up a conversation that lasted for quite a while. The interaction had nothing to do with any "attraction" or "prurient interest"; it was simply because it was just the two of us in the hot-tub area. I've had a few other encounters like that; and it's been no different than "sharing a smoke break" outside a bar with a woman. It wasn't because I was found attractive; it was merely because we both were both outside smoking at the same time.

Being married obviously makes being approached by women much more frequent. Solo women will usually approach my wife first and will trust more that I will "behave" since my wife is standing right next to me. Not that I would ever misbehave.

 

As a senior guy I still get erections on nude beaches. Most of the time my wife is there as well and use to tell me to hide it but now she just accepts that I may get an erection now and then when in the presence of other naked people.

 

I'm also a little late to the game on this forum...

I agree there is often hidden games being played but maybe not in plain sight.
I know there have been times when a guy is just creepy and has made my partner at the beach feel uncomfortable right out of the gate. Often just in their Vibe.
Thankfully not often and I will usually address it.

However there have been times when guys, girls, and even couples around us have been very warm and friendly, admiring, attracted, and flirtatious with us.
It has on a few occasions lead to discreet exchanges of flirtation that may cause a guy to get an erection. The guy stands up for a stretch with a semi for no other apparent purpose than to allow my partner to admire his wares in its growing state. I have seen women displaying a glistening wetness that is far more than sweat from the heat, after such exchanges.

It has never been an issue and even a little thrill for us and we will often play along and provide some added stimulation for them, as long as we can do it very discreetly and under the radar of most others on the beach. A little sensual lotion application or fun with the drips of a cold water bottle. My current partner is a little more liberal and we have shared some pretty exhilarating afternoons in the sun with a few discrete single male admirers in our immediate vicinity, as well as couples on a few occasions. (even better as they will reciprocate with a little teasing that I can enjoy too). It has happened on a number of occasions and at different beaches and with different partners, so I agree the sexual atmosphere is there, maybe just not always in your face obvious.

So if there is a little consensual and discreet game being played without offending anyone, then so be it. Its an enjoyable way to spend a day.

 

Depending on how "senior" you are your wife might simply be happy that everything remains in "working order" (so to speak).

 

If I'm at a nude beach and a guy lying prone has an erection then all is well and no one is offended (most, men and women, will steal a glance, truth be told). If he walks around the beach erect then he's simply and wholly inappropriate, announcing himself to be a pathetic jackass. If children are anywhere in sight then he is obligated to lie on his stomach until he's no longer hard. People who go around declaring that they have a "right" to do this or that seem rarely to recognize that others also have "rights."

 

We'd tell him to move on before he'd need medical help to achieve any further tumescence. I was raised in a nude-friendly home and have lots of experience with public nudity in appropriate venues. Erections don't offend me and I don't immediately interpret one as an act of aggression. I don't believe that men need be embarrassed or concerned if they get hard from time to time. For a man to approach strangers and strike up a conversation while erect is, though, of an entirely different order. From my point of view such a socially and situationally inappropriate action is tantamount to sexual assault. In many hundreds of visits to nude sites I've never experienced or witnessed such offensively juvenile behavior. I'll be shocked if I ever do.

 

I remember a guy anchored right off a textile beach, vigorously "flaunting it" on the bow of his boat.
He must've been too drunk or too stupid to realize that the folk on the beach with cell phones weren't just recording his antics, but his boat's registration number.
Now he's a registered sex offender.

 

I can understand this. I grew up nudist and would invite a friend over growing up. Most were very respectful, but one was a bit of a class clown. We had him over to our pool a couple times then invited him to a nude beach. He made a complete fool of himself. We felt like such fools and ended up leaving early.

 

A win for the guy friend and then one for the rock?