Friendzoned again

how do u expect her to know u like her and want to be more than friends if u never told her?
i think i already said that in another thread, but jeez guys, if u want to be more than friends with a girl, dont act like u're her best friend forever.

 

i mean i've hooked up with her before
we stopped hangin out for a while and we just started hanging out again...i guess i have missed opportunity. makes me feel dumb

 

not only ignore her, but forget about her. it may be hard at first, but worth it.

it may also yield some enjoyable results.

don't go out of our way to avoid her, but forget who she is.

"treat a bitch like dirt, she'll stick to you like mud"

 

tough quote man, so sad I have to agree with it , damn , shit like this happens all the time, girls like a man who treat her like shit

 

no way. I would never like a man who treated me like shit

 

get over it big guy

 

That's good, at least there's hope

 

lol.

 

This ^. There is nothing whatsoever else to say. If you don't wanna be friendzoned, don't be her best friend. You say that it's dumb to be friends with her rather than nothing, since you would have to stifle your feelings, but didn't you "be friends" with her in the first place to land yourself in the friend zone? Think about it. Friend zone doesn't just happen magically, people don't become close friends with other people unless there is a lot of friendship stuff going on. Turn off the friendship faucet, turn on the sexual faucet, and if she ain't thirsty, then you got to rain on another woman.

You hooked up with her once already? What does "hook up" even mean, I hear this so much from a million people and it's anything from 3 seconds of making out to a weeklong sex binge.

If you already had sex with her you need to get back to that mental space with her that allowed you two to see each other as sexual partners. Honestly just be forward about it. You've already been inside her. Just take her aside and seduce her, look her in the eyes, tell her you would love to do more of that, everytime you see her you wanna jump her bones, you wanna make her cum all night long. Whatever! Just get back to the sexual. Stop giving her ammo with which she can construct the friends zone.

 

lol


i never had sex with her, and i think that it would be wise to ignore her...but it's hard to when she's tryin to see what i'm doin BS

egh and comin down from a crazy MDA experience at incubus :O all i need is to bone and my night is 100%

 

because it's not just being friends with a girl you're attracted too..it's being friends with someone you have feelings for..who doesn't return them.

honestly I don't understand how, a lot of, women don't understand that.

But it does seem to be a difference in the sexes..

how is it not unhealthy? he'll be miserable seeing her hookup with other guys, ALWAYS having to hide and fight that...it's more trouble then it's worth. Why should he put himself through that? maybe it's just easier for women to detach themselves from their feelings..who knows.

best thing he can do, if she's not interested is distance himself from her..maybe completely...but ideally at least until he no longer has these feelings for her..because as long as he has these feelings he's going to be miserable as friends.

and, again, being friends with someone you're attracted too is NOT the same as being friends only with someone you have feelings for...not by a long-shot. think about it.

 

^right. i'm good friends with a girl that i used to have some major giddy feelings for and even still things get awkward because of my past emotions for her...it's not the worst, but i don't want to have multiple friends that put me in those situations

i feel bad though, because i've been ignoring her. she wanted to take a ceramics class with me and i REALLY don't want to. even if i were open about my intentions i wouldn't want to have a class with her - if things went sour the class would suck.

gghghagahghghgh she was trying to get me to stand with her at a concert we were at when she was with her ex-boyfriend, then started texting me at 1AM trying to see what I was doing...it feels like she is still trying to give me chances, which i may take up - but i think that it is necessary for me to distance myself to remain out of this friend relation (though i do want to be FRIENDS with her, just more than that as well)

she asks me to move with her out of state, she says i'm a really important person to her, and all this shit - but she hardly knows who i am...she isn't dumb about this stuff either...i don't know what to think - distancing is all i know

once i get in my school groove maybe i'll try again...hopefully i'll have other girls from school to keep me distracted too

 

To the OP, today I was put in the friend zone , and its the worst feeling ever. She have been giving me mix signals all this time, and she says she like me, then she says as a friend. Then she will say she like me.

Just like you said its best if you keep your distance.

 

get naked and do the chicken dance... just as friends.