Fucking lonely

First: Thanks everybody!

I haven't been able to find him (I dunno his last name) but well I guess I will have to run into him. I'd actually rather be rejected by him (or find out he's a loser) than never get over him.

As far as what my ex said...he said it more than once I kept asking him what he meant and he'd say "its cuz you two were made for each other ok!? and you're both-" he cut it off. So I guess he did mean it.

I guess I am going to be patient and just take care if things in the meantime (I have a lot to do). Thanks again everyone....I feel better. I just get upset about this every now and then, because I feel hopeless about moving on when nothing has happened that I can see.

 

That's exactly how I feel about it. I wish I knew his last name or a person who knows him (other than my ex).

 

You don't know his last name. Fuck. Trying searching him on fb

 

I haven't found him on FB but he has a very common 1st name and there's a gazillion of them here. But surely I'll run into him somehow?

 

Youre 30 years old. This is the age of technology. You know a bunch of people in common... this isnt rocket science. Get at it!

 

He's a friend of your ex and you don't know another person who might have his number or at least know his full name? That sounds really unbelievable.

 

That's sounds like exactly what you need to do!
Listen honey, if something is important to a guy he will make it happen, if it's not, he will make an excuse. (watch He's Just Not That Into You, really good movie about all of this). You haven't been able to move on for 3 years because you subconsciously refused to let go, not because he is just 'that amazing'. All it takes is a slight change of perception and you will see life, your life, in a different way. The way you think determines who you are and what you do. So I really think this time to yourself will be very beneficial, even if to just take a break and step back to view the picture as a whole. So, enjoy and go with the flow!

And whenever you need to talk, just pm me.

 

Yes because you didn't know my ex is reclusive as fuck he never hung out with more than one of his friends at a time. I was with him for over 5 years. If I knew anyone that might know the guy I would have asked them by now, I mean why not?

 

Oh yes been there done that...with him I know a small part of him and some things a bigger part. When I really had strong feelings towards him it started not when I was thinking about him but WITH HIM. So anyway, knowing that part of him that I so far really liked, I was blocked from knowing the rest and therefore my unrest. Until I meet one I like better I guess I am stuck with this. Thanks for trying to help, many people do that thing...in love with love. Hey I never said I was in love.

 

Damn, that's tough. When did you last see your ex? Even if it was a bad breakup, 3 years is a long time...

 

Unfortunately my ex still hasn't gotten over me...he unblocked himself from my chat recently and I started not to say anything but I did because he had a g/f. So I asked him about his friend and he said "We're not friends anymore but if you want me to talk to him I will, I just prefer not to" His g/f broke up with him and suddenly he didn't know how to get hold of him, didn't know his phone number etc. I said why don't you just let ME talk to him (duh) Nope, he's just a total asshole about that...not going to do it....probably just used that to get me to talk to him, he probably broke up with his girl...etc. So I can't ask him. I have a lot of anger towards him, I can't believe someone would be such as ass. He's fucked up.

 

He can't say he doesn't know his ex-friend's surname, can he.

 

Find him and talk to him...Good Luck.

 

I'm sure he does know that and more but wouldn't tell me when I asked, he's really a dick. I want nothing with him, he just is a waist of time...asshole.

 

3 years is a long time time to wait/look for somebody.

Think of the possibilities you may have missed waiting.

 

I haven't waited...but only found a few and didn't like them so much, it didn't go anywhere. The more I talked to them the less I liked them. One guy had a g/f so it ruined it.

 

No wonder he's ex... You know when sometimes you think of somebody or talk about them to your friends and not long after that you meet them by coincidence? I hope that happens to you .

 

Hey thanks! :-D

This is to everyone: thanks for helping me with this...I know a lot of people will wait around for somebody, I haven't done that but haven't found anyone else either...not yet but I try. I haven't got over him though and realize I need to, near 3 years is too long to be into a guy who isn't here. I feel better about this issue than I did before, there's even a hot guy at the gym I am looking into.