Getting a girlfriend...

i've been doing rain dances...avoids the stupid, attracts the horny people.

 

That's what the bitter, misanthropic side of me says.

I just get sick of seeing all these happy couples holding hands when I go out. Sex aside, it would be nice just to have somebody to do things with. Everybody needs someone in their lives. Even I have come to admit this is true.

It really makes me mad when I see ugly, fat dudes with decent to hot looking women. Especially now that I have gotten into shape and look pretty damn good.

Oh well.

 

Man, I know exactly what you're talking about. Whenever I see an unattractive person with a horrible personality who has a gorgeous, adorable girlfriend I question life's fairness.

 

Well, I guess great minds think alike. They also suffer alike.

 

I get sick of that too... oh, and don't ugly (or at least what most would deem physically ugly) people need someone in their lives to?

 

Yeah, but they need to stay with their own kind.

Hahah.... joking, of course.

 

I should hope so too! lol

 

I can relate, and have, but bitter is not sexy so remain at ease. :afro:


I'm still open to meeting people, as I'm the pretty open friendly type, but I have no interest in chasing after women the traditional way anymore. Uphill battle, imo. Today I asked a chic for her # for the fuck of it, and it just reminded me how you have to create this perfect utopia of an event for it to be natural and raise your success rate -- but in fact it's fudgjing not natural.

"Hey I just met you. Talk, Talk. How'd I do? Gimmie yo #"

 

Very interesting thread with opinions all over the place and a lot of good advice. I think anyone who isn't super social struggles with how to meet new people, and the right kind of people. I've worked since i was 16yrs old very very full time and ran a business with my family, socializing was never at the top of my list. I've met people through a lot of different online means, chat rooms, dating sites, friend introducing me to a friend. I've also met people through friends. But approaching someone completely random that you don't know definitely seem like it would not go over well with most girls. You have to have something in common or something to start a conversation with unless you are going out to bars or clubs. In that case i think you know what kind of person you will get. We all just need to live our life, put ourselves out there to meet people when we can, and be a friend. Eventually hopefully we will meet someone who truly connects with our personality.

 

Go out in public. Meet people. When you meet people it snowballs quickly, and you end up with more of a selection, or at least with an idea of where you want to set your sights.

Smile. But not TOO much. Make eye contact. But not TOO much. Joke. But only if it's reallllly fuckin' hilarious.

But I tend to be a basement-dweller too, so don't listen to me.

Also, however lame it sounds if you DON'T smoke pot, if you do, it's an awesome way to meet people. Just like how anyone with a cigarette can walk up to a group of smokers, anyone who tokes can hang out with like-minded tokers, and if you have nothing else in common, at least you found a smoking buddy, and if you hit it off that's great. As long an neither of you is super threatening or anything, generally given the oppertunity (even if not regular smokers) about a quarter of the population will smoke with anyone who seems cool, if it doesn't seem sketchy or like a potential robbery. Start conversation, find that they're cool, and smoking is something everyone loves that can help bridge gaps and get things rolling, and is THE excuse to get numbers and invite people over or get invited to their place.

 

Life's fairness is very questionable indeed :2thumbsup: It doesn't have to ruin anything though!

 

It does if you're me.

lol... j/k

 

isn't being judgmental also

generally considered a horrible personality trait?

 

Denying one is judgmental is an even worse personality trait.

I have judged a lot of people, and I have determined a whole lot of them suck.

 

It depends what you're being judgemental about.... Negatively judging someone purely based on their looks is definitely a horrible personality trait.

 

according to who exactly?

 

Me, obviously.

 

thought as much.

 

well there we go.

but i'm better than you

so stfu.

 

not if you're god.