Getting bored of people after a whilst

I get bored of people as well. This last one lasted a year and a half, and the last 6 months I was lying to myself. Oh well.

 

Many people put too much emphasis on style rather than substance when looking for a mate, so they misrepresent their own personality in order to force a square peg into a round hole. That may be fine for a one-night stand, but absent deep friendship most longterm relationships are doomed from the start.

 

Nothing wrong with looking for what you want... just can't fool yourself into believing the one chosen for this week is going to last forever... in fact standards *need* to be kept high, not everyone is meant for everyone. Your time doesn't need to be handed to those who don't appreciate it, time is the most valuable asset to all life.

If a mate is chosen by otherwise unagreed media suggestions the relationship is nothng more than a farce. Such brainwashing may yield a false positive, see many 50+ year marriages.

My point exactly... 6 months knowing better is 6 months doing less than exactly what you want to do... and is living a regret.

I was in one for 3 years that just ended... once I woke up to the world I realized the path it was leading into wasn't where I wanted to be... came together recently, but such doubt has existed for much of this year - doubt met with whole-hearted persistence.

 

yes i often get bored of ppl
but only if i spend too much time with them...just because i need solitude most of time
or if ppl are no more mystery for me
coz ppl MUST have smth inside to be explored...

 

Would you rather the world be full of mindless sluts?

Everyone isn't meant for everybody... getting along is not love.

 

This is why many people say they end up with the wrong people... the problem is that few are aware of or even ask WHY. The answer is above, very simple.. but to most it requires a lifestyle and mentality change they aren't willing to make... and to their detriment.

Best way to avoid this is to never buy into what other folks tell you you should want... happiness comes from within.

 

I can understand that particularly if you've felt hurt/rejected a lot in the past. I've now realised that a good friend 9 times out of 10 doesn't set out to deliberately hurt you. (It probably applies to most people you meet). If I do feel hurt by a friend I take a step back and look at the situation and the reason why I was upset by their actions. I take into account what's been going on in their lives lately, what their mood had been etc. It could be many reasons why they have acted the way they have. I will then look at myself and think ok am I just being a little sensitive right now. I'll then go to bed and sleep on it and if I wake up and still feel upset by what they have done I will speak to them as nicely as possible about it.

 

I avoid romantic relationships at the moment because I know that I'll just dump the girl (unless I really really like her) after a week or two.

 

I am good at relationships

 

Define good?

 

"better than you"

 

And what does that mean?

For lack of time I'll not beat around the bush...

Being "better" at relationships is merely being better at manipulating the situation. A relationship should be natural, there is no being "good" about it.

Is that what you are implying?

 

I'm good when I'm in a good relationship :tongue:

 

No, i am implying that I have plenty of friends that listen to what I say and I them, that I am fairly close to my family and I care about them and them me, that I am pretty good at making friends that I have good times with, and friends that I can tell how I feel to

that I have a girlfriend that I actually enjoy my time with

the list goes on

No manipulation involved

 

Im bored of most things involving friends. I make an effort to hang with people, but after a minute or two i feel id rather be sleeping then interacting in such meaningless ways.

 

So how are you "good" at relationships?

If you do (insert anything here) in order for someone to feel/think/want/say anything... you are manipulating the situation... which it sounds like exactly what you are saying

I didn't say it was a bad thing, in fact, we must either manipulate or be manipulated... that is what a relationship is based on... gotta give people a reason to be around you - ya know?

 

I am good because I am good at selecting people that are interesting and fun to be around.

Just being myself is what attracts people to me, and I am also attracted to others who I simply like who they are.

I can tell this concept is foreign to you, and frankly I am not surprised at all

 

Good at selecting is not related to good at doing.

Yourself manipulates a situation by being there, you are still assigning a negative connotation to the word.

Being yourself involves a technique of manipulation that is your own... and in that there is no "good" or "bad"... only the way you are and the results of that.

 

I completely disagree

you overthink dude

 

No such thing.

I don't settle for anything but the big picture.

I sense a bit of backhanded agreement in that statement