Getting Married shouldnt people care?!

Reading this post made me think about the guy I was with when I was 18. I thought he was great. We were talking about getting married--he wanted to do it right away. I wanted to, but not yet, which is what eventually broke us up.
Now, 13 years later, i am SO glad we didn't get married. I am a very different person now than i was then, and there's no way i'd be happy with him. (Lucky me, my frontal cortex is now completely developed!)
i am getting married this year (living together for 4+ years) and couldn't be happier.

Ultimately, i think you should do what you want (and you will--you are a teenager)but i also think the BEST thing you could do is live together for a year or so, and THEN start planning a wedding for a year and a half way.

either way, good luck.

 

Wow, I think about how different I am now, compared to when I was 18. I'm soooooo different. I'm not attracted to the same kind of guy I was back then (I'm currently dating my best friend from when I was 18, after not seeing him for almost six years...I would have NEVER dated him back then!)...and had I gotten married when I was 18, I would have never had the life experiences that I have had in my life....

Sure you're not going to stop having fun, but with marriage comes responsibility and limitations...don't you want to keep your life open for possibility? You ARE so young. I grew up fast too...I raised my little sister, I cooked, I cleaned, I ran a household, at 14 I had two jobs to help my mother pay the bills, I lost people very close to me to death and drugs, I was involved heavily in drugs and alcohol myself. I thought I was mature at 18 too...but my frontal cortex has developed recently extremely quickly and now I realize, wow...I didn't know SHIT when I was 18.

Don't rush...you have your ENTIRE life ahead of you...have fun while you can...marriage can wait...there's not need to hurry!

 

first of all, congratulations. it is probably an exciting time for you and your man

i really don't know why your parents are reacting the way they are they may just need time to adjust and digest the info.

As for your ages, well some marriages work or fail no matter what the age
i know a few relatives have married as young as twenty years old. Some have found their soulmates. When you are married, alot of stuff changes and your parents have the experience to know. Maybe they are just concerned about their girl. One thing about getting married so young, is that people grow and change with age and life experience. often it is hard for one partner to come to terms with this. it can cause problems down the track

Do you really need your folks approval? Most of us want approval on some level maybe it would be good to ask yourself why? You are young and have your wonderful life ahead of you.

Maybe in a quiet moment, you could bring it up with your parents. With a bit of time, they may be able to say what's on their mind

once again, congratulations and keep us up to date