Girl with experience

Well, to me, it sounds like she wants to go furthur with you, at the same time, she's just a little worried about what your feelings will be for her after the sex. Because women have it in the heart to reject any kind of unusual behavior in men, especially men who treat them right, so they kind of expect something to fall apart somewhere and she's probably waiting for you to change. Change into a bad person. And it's normal because the last guy she was with was an asshole. But remember that she's not use to any of this eiether.


You just need to re-assure her that your feelings for her are final regardless of what happens in the bedroom. If you really want to make it obvious to her, then hold out and don't do anything. Even though you really want to, it would kind of give her the sense that your feelings towards her are for real.

I think for you....You feel a little akward what with it being your first time and her having previous expierence. The good news is that girls don't care about that kind of thing because they can see past your dick. Where as most guys (not meaning you or anyone) usually don't. It probably actually means a lot to her. If this is even what you mean.

 

I would say surprise her after you have sex... Instead of like, going straight to it next time just kiss and caress her. No sex. Just affection

 

just wait. trust me, she'll pounce on you when shes ready...and it would probably worth waiting for. no girl likes to feel rushed into it. itll happen. give it time...youll be happy with the outcome.she just probably wants to build up trust from you.

 

If she's got a plan, go with it! Relax and let her control the pace. Don't worry about "what if"s... you're goint to give yourself an ulcer for no reason. You'll find out soon enough. And remember that sex is dessert... not the main course. That's basically what she want's to be sure you know before getting physical.

 

Well, so, nothing happened. So I don't understand why she keeps saying the things that she does. We had three nights together, and once again making out is as far as she'll let things go. I don't know....its not that physicality is all that I care about, but I mean, I am her boyfriend, and when she doesn't want to do anything else, then I begin to wonder why...like if there's something wrong with me or something...I dunno...

 

how long have you two been dating?

 

She says the things she does because she wants you to know that she likes you in that way...it's a form of flirting and teasing...

Maybe she just wants to take things slowly...maybe she rushed into things in the past and it turned out bad. I don't think you should take it personally at all. Letting her take control of this situation is probably your best bet. Don't have too high of expectations...go with the flow and don't rush her. It will make you and her more comfy...

 

We've been "dating" for around 3 months, and we've been in a serious relationship since September...

 

That's not really that long...I think if you're making out heavily right now...you're in pretty good shape.

 

3 months isn't terribly long, but it's not super short either.

I dunno, I think you need to suss out why she isn't wanting to move further with you yet. Not push for it or anything, just find out why, why ya'll can't be shirtless while making out for a couple weeks or something. Mmmmmmm shirtless making out....

 

I agree a lot with what Annie said. However I'm sure within 12 months, she'll definitely have put out. I think right now, she really just enjoys your company and she's probably not use to a guy who all he cares about is sex, so maybe she wants to take advantage of that while it's still there. I wouldn't worry about it. There's time and a perfect moment for all that stuff to happen. You could also set the mood. Like maybe invite her over, light some candles and see how she reacts. I don't think she'd runaway from you for doing that and if she does, well........thats what you get for taking my advice.

 

So I found out why she didnt want to do anything....

We were talking about stuff, and we both somehow got on the subject, and she explained why....apperantly it has to do with the fact that her parents and such are right down the hall and apperantly she has a *ahem* noise problem....hahahahaha So that would explain why....so anyways, I'm going over again the weekend after next, and FINALLY we get an opportunity to be completely alone...she's house-sitting for her aunt all that weekend, so we'll have the house to ourselves for a whole weekend. But...a problem. God must not like me, because now she's told me today that she's going to have her period next week. WONDERFUL! SUPER-DUPER! haha. GRRRRRRR My luck is teh worst, let me tell you....

 

Meh, you can still have fun while she has her period ifyou're both willing. Tampon in while performing oral, pull it out right before intercourse, wear a condom and have a towel handy, s'all good.

As for noise/people in the house... I really hate anything involving pants coming off while other people are in teh house. Even much more than making out with others around feels reeeeeeeally trashy. Mind you, my house is tiny with paperthin walls.

 

Eh, it sounded to me that she's completely unwilling to do that...lol I'm praying that her period would be over by that saturday or something...but I don't know...

 

Ah Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha........................ It's called earning your red wings!

 

Haha, well I dont think I will be, she won't do that. lol

 

But do you want to do that? Would you if she wanted to?

 

Uhhh....well I sure would try it at the least....haha