Girls Dont Even Talk To Me At University

hahhh I'm also studying chemistry in a university with mostly female students.
it's weird how all the chemistry/biochemistry students are chicks now eh? I always thought chem would be like physics and engineering, with mostly male students.

Just ask the girls for favours like help with mechanisms or questions about lab work and then they will warm up to you. It's called the "Ben Franklin effect". Once they're moderately comfortable with you, ask them questions and just don't say anything. Let them talk and make it clear that you are giving them a cursory listen.

A favourite line from the movie pirate radio:


very end - what was your secret? How did you get all them girls?

Mark:

Simple. Don't say anything

 

You said you're depressed. That means you're probably walking up to them with a really sad as fuck expression on your face. I know this from experience, when I was depressed for an entire year, people don't really want to talk to you. Go get some treatment, and turn shit around. Currently being treated for it, my mood has improved, and lo and behold, I'm making conversation with people and getting positive reactions.

 

Step up your game kid!

Research, research, practice in field, repeat until you get results.

 

what do you expect? there's not much response to make to someone saying hi.

 

this is kind of a repeat of his other thread in which I suggested cleaning himself up just in case it was a hygiene force field keeping the babes at bay.....atziz I remend you your reply was something to the effect of ''I don't wanna change who I am for some girl''....or something along that line

you must rule out the obvious first because even the most awkward of guys can get a babe if they are hygienically correct

 

sometimes 5. Only shampoo after having foods high in sodium, or fat. Otherwise girls will think you're non-hygienic

 

no one on a normal plane showers 5 times in a day....that would be severe ocd

 

lol I didn't know you were unhygienic

 

Why don't you get a girl lab partner, just to get comfortable with women in general?

 

Maybe you don't stink but they can smell your desperation. Like, why do you want to come into contact with them? Is it for friendship or just because you want to get laid? There is a reason why you can't talk to girls and why they detect something in you that puts them off already to communicate with you. Even though people may not know with certainty why you are communicating as you do, they can detect something is 'off' and they will connect it to a reason/motive. Most of the time with guys that are unable to talk to girls it is because they are shy and/or uneasy and insecure about their approach or how they will be perceived and the reason for it is because they want some thing and they don't know how to get it. This could be friendship of course, but most of the time it is the craving for sexual contact. Otherwise, why wouldn't you have the same problem with guys (it doesn't have a vagina )
Girls will detect the insecurity and desperation and wether they are right or not they will connect it to this and regard you as creepy or an uncomfortable person to be around (after all, even while girls like sex too they prefer not to have it with a desperate, insecure guy that can't talk to them like a normal human being... well same with most guys actually). Guys that are insecure in their contacts/communication with girls will be perceived as potential creeps. Everybody knows that when people are insecure there is a reason for it (wether it is legit reason like they mainly are in it for the sex and subconsciously know they're a shallow asshole which is causing them to come across as a creep or shy guy, or having hemorrhoids on your face (for instance), or an unfortunate reason like not (yet) come to terms with yourself wether you are a nice and sincere guy or not), when the reason isn't clear they will project it on them and deem you as one of the guys that is better to be ignored.

You clearly seem to suffer from sexual frustration. And women will pick up on that directly or indirectly.

 

Of course not for getting laid. I live in a muslim country. Its a disgraceful (shameful) thing to want to get laid. I dont want such a thing with them, its a muslim country. I just want to talk to girls or hang out with girls. But in this cafe, I want them to be talking with me. At least why not at universiy? If only they could talk to me in school.

 

Ok, you seriously are claiming now (after your other recent threads) that you are not sexually interested in those women and do not want to get laid? And furthermore.... the reason for that is beause you are in a muslim country? Dude, you reek of insincerity. Maybe reread your other rubbish so you at least can be consistent

 

I dont want it because its BAD,A SHAME. I mean its a shame to want girls for sex. I just want girls to talk to me. I want to be able to talk to me. Its enough for girls to be talking to ME

 

Ok, you would want the girls in your class to just talk to you like a normal person and maybe even just be friends. But still what seems to be obstructing this is your own behaviour/attitude. Think about it: why can't YOU talk to them as if they were a normal person (which they probably are ), while other guys in your country can.
Maybe you do not connect your different topics/issues to eachother but other people who noticed your different threads will. You can ignore this all you want, but it only indicates you are merely complaining and not looking for an honest answer or solution. I think this became already apparent in your other threads, hence why people were humouring you.

 

My other thread was about dating but I gave up this hope cuz I cant even talk to girls in my class so now I only think about talking, thats why I made a different thread. Wanting to date is over for me. Now I wanna talk.

 

There is a connection. You want to date for a reason. Dismissing both of these things is not constructive in any way, and make it seem you are not looking for a solution.

 

He doesn't clearly explains that as the problem neither. Sometimes he adds again that it is more difficult in his country because it is a muslim society but I know most guys in Turkey does not have a problem connecting with girls like him (not because they're conforming to the muslim mentality, boys are boys everywhere). So it is primarily a personal issue either way. Lots of secular oriented people in Turkey too, maybe he's in an unfortunate location or personal situation. In the first thread where he started rambling about his issues with his country (a thread about language) he even said he would rather live in Europe. I don't think that would solve much though, as girls would most likely instinctively pick up on his desperation/frustrations here too.

 

What do you mean you want to date for a reason?

 

That even though you gave up on dating, the reason why you wanted to date is still there. And it is most likely connected to the reason why you are unable to hold a normal conversatiion with a girl. You should acknowledge this reason (whatever it might be) and come to terms with it.