Girls,why is that...

I think that society is to blame for women ( and men) caring sooo much about their appearance. While I do understand that, as bothersome as it is, people do judge other people ( not entirely) on their appearance. Honestly, I don't wear things to show off my body. My boyfriend tells me that I have a beautiful body and that I should show it off, I prefer to remain somewhat covered just because I like being modest. I want someone to be drawn to me because I am intelligent and interesting, NOT because my boobs are hanging out. Anyway, I feel more comfortable with myself ( and slightly humbled) when I am not all made up. Though I do sometimes wear make up, for really special occasions, I prefer the all natural look.

 

yep

 

I never wear small tops, even though I'm not fat, I wear oversized t-shirts most of the time.

I only wear make-up if I'm "going out", like to a bar....

YES, I admit, I'm obsessed with my weight because it fluctuates so much. I'm also getting older which means I MUST think about my weight more.

 

Hey, it's natural to wish to have a good looks. And who is the society some of you are blaming? Don't those people have their own minds?

 

yehh its natural to a certain extent but not when people base a big percentage of their lives on thier looks making it their main priority ,then when they feel their not archievhing this goal they get low self esteem and start to hate or cut them selves or some shit like that.

if there was a song for this thread i think itd be that thing byr lauryn hill

 

Yes, true. But this is more psychology then a social issue

 

I believe the root of this is Christianity and Islam, and possibly Judaism; all are religions that do not allow women to have any kind of social status, and neither of them allows women to get high rankings within the church.

As time went on, these religions gained more and more power in the world's societies, and shaped the societies we live in today.

 

Whatever vanities I have are done for my satisfaction. I rarely got out flaunting myself and when I do, I'm safely attached to the man I'm with. Dressing like that and going out alone only attracts the kind of attention I rather not have. When its hot out, I wear lil tank tops. I'm just old enough that I still look good and don't give a shit what I'm wearing as long as I'm comfortable. Weight is an issue as I've gotten older, but its for health reasons as well as overall appearance. I think weight is the only thing I've ever really concerned myself with.

 

If you don't like it, you don't have to buy in. If females didn't participate and keep the thing going, it would not happen. Don't blame society, blame yourselves. You are the ones perpetuating the stereotypes. Not all females perpetuate the myths. Some are real. The ones who complain, and still do what you've described--self-hating at worst, self-stimulating at best.

 

Becaue they are worried about getting a partner for life. 54% of the U.S. population is wemon and 46% are men.

 

HA-that is for me to laugh at.....

 

I agree..... I *know* of course, somewhere in that back of my mind that it doesn't matter at all what I look like, that I am fine the way I am, but still...
I'm not sure it is mostly about making men happy and having babies though at least not where I live. Here, a woman, I guess, just has to be perfect in every way -- she has to be smart and well-educated, nice, succesful professionally, preferably while at the same time organizing a house-hold perfectly, and above all, BEAUTIFUL.... according to the (rediculous) standards Hollywood has.... Babies are not a must anymore, though

And even though I, and many other women *know* that it's rediculous, and actually really prefer natural beauty and a normal and healthy figure..... it's still so hard not to try and live up to the expectations...

But, like honeyhannah, I only wear long skirts, no tight tops or shirts, and never wear make-up

I completely agree with you -- it's sad but true
If we want those standards to be changed, it's up to us.... so let's do something about it, shall we?

 

i wear comfy clothes and im not shallow. but sometimes i just enjoy "getting pretty" i hate girls that cake on base and have inch thick eyeliner. i dont even wear makeup normally.

But honestly, sometimes i just get the urge to put on hot clothes and go out.

 

Oh I get where you're coming from, like most men you want a bunch of whores to look at and your woman to be covered up all the time...give me a break....sure you can bitch about it but you answered you're own question....you could always make a point not to look but you don't feel that strongly about it do you? You just want to call women 'shallow' and whatever else, even though you like it!

 

well, the "whores" WANT to be staired at and i would want a woman that WANTS to be coverd up

Basically,what my Q was getting at was why do woman show them selves of just because they know men like it.....so what are you saying,just because men like looking your tits that you feel you have to give them a little preview (you may not be one of theese woman but for conversations sake, it doesnt matter)

im not going too lie to my self...I LIKE AND WANT LOOK AT IT and no, i dont feel that strongly about it.what i feel strongly about is why dont woman feel strongly about it. Theese woman are always complaining and stereotyping men on how they have no respect for them and the like, when you (woman,some woman) dont even have respect for your selves.

please,what do i get out of calling all you woman shallow,i just want to talk about something besides G.bush and what the poster above me said.its not like im trying offend anyone,the only reason why people would be offended is because they are one of theese females that im talking about and that someones actually confronting them about it instead of being hypnotized by there breasts.You should take a look at honneyhannahs response and compare it to yours and remember this is a conversation and not a contest.

im sorry if it sounds like im stereotyping woman but its hard to talk about it with out constantly explaining my self.

 

*sigh* look I'm sorry if I came across as pissed at you...it's more or less just a frustrating issue...I'm not one of the women who likes to show stuff off, so I don't actually know why women like to do it...well I mean I know they want attaention but I guess my point is they won't stop unless guys start to give them a reason to not dress like that...like ok, if a girl wants attention she knows she can get it by dressing revealing...if guys would pay attention to girls who aren't dressed revealing then maybe they wouldn't do it so much...but you know a lot of guys will bypass a respectable looking girl to talk to someone who's dressed very skimpily....what are girls supposed to think????

 

quote: it is an easy way to control them and destroy their minds by making them believe that all of their focus has to be on how they look, if you don't use your mind it stops working

The only blame can be placed on women in my opinion. Someone else cannot make you look a certain way. I think that many of these women enjoy the male attention, otherwise there is no way in hell they would go out in skimpy clothes knowing that a bunch of dog-like men were going to follow them around panting.

This is not to say they don't have the right to dress however they want to, and no, I'm not saying anything like "she was asking to get raped," nothing like that, just that they know what effect it has on moronic guys..they aren't going into this blind.

I also think it has a lot to do with competition among females.

 

PS. If you are looking for a guy to have a deeper relationship with, don't stick your tits in his face right away

 

I think we burn that mentality into our daughters at a young age when we buy them Barbies..

 

Dude...I'm a girl and it makes me sick. I wish there were more guys like you who accepted women as people and not just objects...

-I do not wear make up (mostly because I'm lazy but I do sometimes when I'm pale, and/or my mom makes me)
- I have larger legs so the longer the skirts the better...and even if I didn't...I abhor those little short skirts...what's a skirt if you can't sit in it?
- I wear shirts that cover myself...mostly because its too cold not to...and if its warm...its too uncomfortable not to...
- I used to think about my weight...but I realized that was my mother...I accept that I was given this body type...and its genetics in my case...I'm a healthy organic little vegetarian girl...but it matter's not because I am not my body...and as long as I take care of my personal "temple" than I'm good to go.

Why are girls obsessed with those things? I think it has to do with the media...and I hate to also say...a lot of men...or at least the MEDIA makes it seam so...its all BULL... We women need to stand strong and be beautiful! You can be beautiful, clean, healthy, and comfortable without having half your skin hang out...sometimes I think that's a little disrespectful...I mean I guess you could show your legs a bit (its not the 1900s) but I don't want to see your bum....or your boobs... but that's just my opinion...