Give the gift back

Life isn't about fighting over the little stuff.
For what every reason she gave it and for how ever you felt getting it. Giving it back will change nothing. Give it to someone and move on.

 

Seriously Matt, there are amazing women out there and you need to stop going after the lame ones.

 

I know you already gave the card back but I would have donated it to the Humane Society. They are always looking for money to buy gas to keep their vehicles on the road.

 

The Visa consolation and fruit cake thing sum it up better than any words can.

Could have been worse. She could have given Matt a $25 certificate for a prescription of Viagra.

 

Acting upon your principles seems like the good thing to do always but as always there's a line you can cross and then it's called being anal about things. Of course it is up to the individual to draw that line most times but it's pragmatic to be aware of how your actions could be perceived. I feel I can often identify myself with mr. Darcy (Pride & prejudice) while others view me closer to an autistic nitpicker...

 

People saying he should have donated it need to realize that they are asking him to also donate his dignity... Not fair. The girl needed to get the message.

 

Not such a bad idea for innocent animals to benefit from the venting of someone else's relationship frustration.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2v4_GyUB5fM"]Be My Valentine, Charlie Brown clip - YouTube

 

The old saying of never dip your dink in company ink is good one to live by.

This situation has already happened and this is not directed at you personally but when it involves a place of employment the rules change.

While giving back the gift card may have made you feel better it could cause conflict in your work environment that has ramifications that HR would then have to deal with. Never wise as people are terminated for those reason with just cause under the law.

In future it might be wiser to simply let the situation go and simply be work place social instead.

 

EXCELLENT idea! Too bad a genius couldn't have thought of that...

I think that is silly...Why not provide her with a "receipt" or similar where she was shown that the $25 was donated to a worthy cause...if "dignity" over basically being stood up is the reason for all of this :bigcry:

And lastly, since this thread has just gone on and on...I think to get offended because someone gave you a $25 VISA certificate is bordering on the ridiculous...so WHAT if they basically stood him up? (Good Lord!) Being "stood up" 99.9% of the time does not involve being given a money gift certificate. Or does it? I've NEVER heard of it!

 

she could have broken into his place a robbed him while he was waiting for her

 

yeah, but that is really the only place most adults could possibly meet someone.

just have to be smart and mature about it.

 

Exactly.

Rule#1: Never date co-workers.

Yeah I know for most thats really the only pool you have to chose from, I just think it means you need to get out more. Get a hobby, go to the library, hang out in bar and clubs.

 

I agree that mature and smart about it do come into play but they rarely go hand in hand with the ending of a relationship.

In the case of workplaces then it becomes an issue that usually both parties end up regretting as it can seriously impact their employment and or careers.

 

Ouch.

 

Tell her to give you a blowjob next time.

 

Dude really? Stop shitting where you eat.

 

I just read the whole thing. The work context makes this difficult with sexual harassment and all, I don't know her. But if you followed it up tomorrow with something like "unless you are coming over to give me some ass I don't want anything from you"

I guarantee she'd be all over you by next weekend.

 

http://finance.yahoo.com/news/6-ways-profit-lame-gifts-105136726.html

"6 Ways to Profit From Lame Gifts

Whether it’s a tacky sweater from a relative or a useless knickknack from a co-worker, it doesn’t have to go to waste. Unwanted gifts can be turned into everything from karma to cash."

 

could have been better to, she could have just cancelled with him.