Grabbed by Another Woman

LOL... ....And LOL Once Again ....Just For Good Measure.....



Cheers Glen.

 

Our theater company owned several clubs of the type that you describe and with the drink and loud music, we called them the "grab and snog" clubs.

Most people visiting night clubs are there for a good time and hoping for some fun along the way. Very few of them are married, so the woman probably assumed that you wife was just one in the line of girls you were dancing with that night and she wanted her turn.

I agree with the posts that say you should have not been too bothered, Jane would have burst out laughing if it happened to me.
Although we avoid places like that, we would probably have ended up chatting to the woman and advising her to go easy on the drinks, rather than spoiling her night.
Life is too short to worry about how everyone else behaves. A relaxed approach it better for everyone.

 

One reason I think it is you see a pattern of someone who only responds to posts that trigger ongoing conversation plus it's not even asking for advice when you aren't even listening to anybody anyway and just carrying on, plus all quiet on the western front on the fake post topic...

 

Yeah, and how much of that has to do with bullshit lawsuits and liability insurance

 

Jane is very much different than my SO. When I say that I mean it as a positive attribute. My SO is the type that feels threatened as she feels every other woman is better than her .

The biggest mistake I made was placing a thread like this on this forum . It wasn't intended for this Forum but another . I noticed my mistake after posting it but I decided to my ill judgement to let it stand instead of cancelling it . However seeing my pint as being half full rather than half empty I have had some constructive answers and comments and thanks for those who have taken the time to post them

 

Nope.......Not Even Close......



Cheers Glen.

 

VG does pretty well to be fair. . He is just about holding is own in the Brexit thread with a debate with Balbus who I consider to be an expert in politics . Politics is definitely not my field .

 

Tis A Well Known Fact On Hip Forums........VG Is Renowned For "Holding His Own".......



Cheers Glen.

 

Its taken me a while to adjust to appreciate his ways more , if that is the right way of saying it.

At end of the day I am still relatively new on here and it does kind of take time to find your way around and get used to some of the other posters. their ways etc.

 

On this one its not just HF posters. In the real world its fair to say the majority are going to react the way you said you expected

You are never going to get people to think you getting pinched on the ass is anywhere near the same level of wrong as some young woman getting groped by some fat gross sweaty Weinstein looking muthafucker

 

I don't think that it was a mistake posting here, we are a very 'mixed bunch' and even VG can be fun once you get used to him. At least people can express themselves without resorting to personal insults and 'F' adjectives.

I understand the problem that you have and it is not easy. You need to chat more and reassure her, otherwise she will think that incidents like the one that you mentioned were handled in the only correct way.
Jane is from a remote part of Ireland, where everyone knows everyone and chatting is quite the norm. She has sat chatting to people for more than an hour when we are out and then introduced them to me as someone she was at college with 45 years ago. By that time she will know most of their history and the names and ages of their other half and children. It is totally normal for her to behave in that way and she would be very upset if I was worried, assuming that I did not trust her.
Obviously if your partner has been cheated on or let down in the past, it will have a big effect on her, but she needs to know that honesty and trust is a vital part of any successful relationship and clinging will end up spoiling things between you.
What I am saying is not all one sided.
A few years ago when work in the theater dried up, I drove a London ambulance for a few years and spent many 12 hour night shifts with a young female paramedic. Jane thought nothing of it.
I dread to think what your wife would be going through lying in bed on her own if you were in a similar situation.
How would you feel about showing her this thread, it could be a major turning point in the way that you trust each other.

 

Anyone wants to grab my arse PM me ! as long as my wife can watch

 

shit's hardly any fun if your wife isn't watching. >.<

 

I'm sorry this happened to you and made you feel so uncomfortable.

 

Sounds to me like you are concerned for the safety of your wife after she pushed the woman away. Time heals all wounds. If you've got a problem, just leave it alone and wait on time.

 

One thing you can count on here at HF is consistency. The folks that post remarks that may seem like they are being smartasses, ALWAYS post smartass remarks, LOL! If you read through what they’ve posted in the past, it’s consistent with their character, no matter how far back you go in the HF archives.

Consistency, in this case, is not a bad thing. Most of them are just having fun, and looking for some kind of reaction- and they usually end up getting what they want, which is to see the OP get flustered and pissed off. Then there are some that truly are assholes, and you’ll be able to spot them.

 

I don't think its a trust issue . In fact I can say its not as I am a Relationship Counsellor after all and would have picked up on this many years ago.

I am trying not to be vain here otherwise I will just get more smart arse comments !

My wife has stated many times the she was punching above her weight when she got me . She made all the moves and asked me out that night 30 years ago . . I don't know were she gets this idea from, as she is a beautiful woman in her own right but introvert .Then she wanted to know about all of my exces which included a minor celebrity model . I don't think this helped being honest but I am not one for hiding secrets . As my former model partner is heavily featured in a Rock Music Video of which I m not releasing any more details of and is available on Youtube, she knows exactly what she looks like and tries to compare herself to her . I also seem to attract the attention of petite blondes when out socialising and with her being 5ft 11 she thinks she is big and clumsy . Tall yes but the other attributes No. This is the reason why she feels threatened every time another woman takes a shine to me . So no its not a trust issue .If anything I would say its more of a confidence issue .

 

There's no point telling us it's available on youtube if you won't tell us what song. Now I'm just mindlessly curious and annoyed.

 

That's for me to know and you to find out

Its the same reason I wont post pictures of myself on the web( which includes the likes of Facebook) or a public forum either ,because of my professional contacts. There are some things you keep well away !