Have any of you ever lost a parent?

watz rong with drugz an gamblin??

 

There's nothing wrong with them, I just think they're lesser priorities when you decide to raise a family.

 

Yeah...go back to your dad. My dad gambled away my college fund as well and we sometimes get into it hard because I'm working at Dairy Queen for a living, struggling just to make ends meet, and a college education just seems to be harder and harder to obtain. Ontop of that, his shitty spending habits and terrible credit score has kept me from getting any student loans period, because I don't know anyone with decent credit well enough to have a co-signer. Now he has a tendency to make me feel like a worthless piece of shit because I work fast food and my brother's going to college and I'm still not. But really, in the end, none of that shit really matters much. He still did a damn good job raising me and I'd still absolutely fall to pieces if I lost him, because I'm still a huge daddy's girl, no matter what. And in the end, since you've worked your ass off for your college education, you'll be a lot better off than a lot of the spoiled kids who got free rides from mommy and daddy, because you worked hard to get where you've gotten. You've got something to be proud of.

 

Do you think he is sorry he did it?

That would make a difference to me.

 

i go to college almost for free because i worked my ass off in high school and am lucky my mom saved money for me. ive worked hard to get where i am and couldnt have more appreciation for my mom. im not spoiled and i also dont think not having to pay for my education makes or will make me any less better off than someone like sadie. you sound awfully bitter KR

 

Yeah, but I was thirteen, and he had diabetes, and he was a drunk my whole life, so I mostly just felt happy that he could get some much needed rest form his suffering.

 

KR has it right.

Just go see him. You don't even have to bring up whatever issue is between you. Your parents care for you like no one else ever will.

 

My mother had a car accident when I was thirteen. She is brain damaged from it. She is unable to talk, walk, eat, use the bathroom when she needs to. It's like a death but not really.

Of course, my situation is different but it is forever in my heart. I feel like I lost out on a lot of who my mother was because of this.

Anyway, i am in agreement......forgive and let go. Otherwise the only one that will be hurt is yourself when you have a whole lifetime to think about things. It is far heavier to carry that stuff around as baggage then it is to just let go. Even if he is not sorry, then you don't have to shoulder it anymore.

I regret stuff I have done. I think we all do.