Have you found your Soulmate?

Opinions have changed the world

 

As has stupid shit....

 

I agree but something being regarded as stupid is still an opinion.

 

So? Does that make our opinions and what we do with them less or more meaningful? Seems that stupid shit affecting the world makes them matter only more.

edit: potentially of course Our opinions can matter a lot. They don't always matter.

 

Soulless Mate would be a better term. For those who are unsure or don't believe in a soul. Maybe i'll start a different thread: "Have you found your soulless mate?"

 

Yes but she tells me we are "twin flames". I did not think all that hippy dippy signs from the universe stuff was 100% true until she came. I don't know everything lined up just right so I met her and I know I love her. Sure, we sometimes disagree like all couples but we don't even seem to fight like other couples I see. Twin flame it is.

 

One in a million events happen at least once per month

No, but seriously, this is great. I am happy for you!! Tell us more about her (if you want).

 

She is a nurse and really likes helping people. I could never deal with blood and other fluids like she can. I wish she had better hours and I am really concerned about the Corona virus but it's what she singed up for. She is very scientific and medical but also a pretty hippy type of women with crystals and believing in ghosts. I find that interesting.

She's the calmest kindest person I have ever met. When she gets upset I know I should listen. She kind of reminds me of my grandma who spent a lot of time raising me. Grandpa is stubborn and grouchy like me but somehow she deals with it. But don't cross her at the same time. She cover both ends. I have mild autism and I'm happy she can tolerate that even understand how to deal with me. I don't really care what anyone things but her. I know plenty of people think I'm strange or stupid and she sees more.

She is pretty old school feminine and likes to cook and what not yet also does not want to be boxed in. I do have to admit that old expression is true "the way to a man's heart is his stomach". I would never tell her to cook but I don't stop her. She probably just won't eat my food lol. She has taught me a lot about letting things go even if I do still care about some things a lot. I'm sure Freud would love to have analyzed me. Am I dating my grandmother?

She was also a model once so yeah what man can complain? She is fond of turning our house into an animal shelter. Sometimes that is a bit much but I like animals too and she is good friends with a local cat rescue so we are a cat rescue.

I am marrying her because she said we should. I don't know she used to be OK with just living together or maybe I misunderstood. It was strongly suggested to me that I do this so her mom and dad would be happy and she can have her special day. OK, fine I will rent the tux and shower just tell me where to show up. We are having a small gathering. I'm glad it's not one of those invite 300 people things.

 

Thank you so much for sharing--she sounds like an ideal partner, in many ways! I love when people can straddle that line of scientific but also earthy and open minded. Congratulations! How long have you known her for??

 

My soul mate is actually a long time ex. We have both been with numerous different partners since we split up but always remained friends. We both make it clear to our various others early on about our platonic relationship to assuage any jealousy nonsense. We are absolute proof that a guy and a girl can maintain a close relationship without any sexual expectations.

 

Lots of interesting comments here on this topic. Obviously some believe and some don't. For me I did meet my soul mate in junior high school. Saw her walking to class near the end of the first semester. I was totally taken by her. We are in our 60's now, but I still remember her wearing a rainbow shirt with tan bib overalls. Back in the late 70's that looked cute. Anyway start of next semester I found her sitting in the assigned seat behind mine (we were seated alphabetically). I couldn't believe it. I was way too shy to just start up a conversation with her, so I made fun of her small writing. So she wrote her name really big next time as she handed forward her assignment to be turned in.

We dated off and on for the next 4 years until we graduated high school. Then I went off to college, and when I came back I went to visit her. We live in California and I was in Ohio going to college. I would always call her and talk to her about my problems with other girlfriends. And at some point it finally hit me. I had the best person right in front of me the whole time.

A few years later we got married and we have been married for over 38 years. We are insync almost all the time. We are an awful lot a like in a lot of ways, but we don't have the same tastes in everything. A sort of yin and yang thing. But together we are whole and I wouldn't trade for anything. We are together until one of us departs this world.

 

I don't believe in soulmates. But, sadly, I thought I'd found what I considered to be the most realistic approximation of what people mean when they use that term. Then it crashed and burned with spectacular dispatch. It's fine. As they say: All's well that ends with you sobbing so hard you go weeks without sleep.

 

I think there’s any number of people you could be very happy with, if you met them, and at the right time.. we’ve been married 35 years, and together 37.. we still get along great, and make a good team. Neither of us believes in soulmates, or ‘the one’..

 

I did believe in this fairytale for a long time. Now that I am in my mid-40s and pathetically single again, I have just given up on the belief. I have someone in my life that I love and want to be with, but we can't be together so there's that. Maybe I am cynical old woman now, but I think the whole thing is just a farce.

 

I know there are many y posts on this and honestly, I only read a few and Lady Shadow's really caused me to think deeply. I am 62 and looking backwards, I mostly agree. The twist I offer everyone to ponder is, what if you widened your view on what soul mate means and how relationships are defined and accepted. I know how cruel it is to love someone who is "taken" . I guess I question like many people the idea of marriage and monogamous relationships. If we accept the premise of polyamorous relationships, there are more options. However, it comes with great effort and the need for excellent communication skills. I know I have been guilty of falling in a rut, taking things for granted and assuming more and communicating less and clearly the big problem of avoiding uncomfortable discussions.

How do you all feel about these thoughts. If you wish, start a private conversation with me.

Peace and love,
Mark

 

You make some good points. Unrequited Love is the worst love there is I think - especially when someone strings you along and you don't have the strength to leave. I have posted before about how I have never had a healthy relationship - and in that the common denominator has always been me. I am the common thread through all the failures. So yeah, if that soulmate is out there, I may not even know how to receive his love because I am too busy chasing someone else who isn't even attainable.