Hey mono better change your profile, don't think "male-ish" works any more. Lots of sense from Enigma. Your biggest problem is just lack of information that feels relevant, trouble is there ain't none. You just take the trip and come out different people the other side, or maybe, expanded people ! Don't forget the Kleenex.
Yeah, Enigma's pregnancy was particularly hard and I know it's not an easy ride at the best of times. I totally understand your feeling of helplessness. *adopts caveman voice* We are MEN. See problem, fix it. But all you can offer is emotional support really. It's hard to see your lover going through this and you may feel a bit sort of useless, but rest assured you're helping just by being there. You'll be able to muck in soon enough