How can we avoid all this bickering?

...and there's not even definitely anything completely wrong with that in itself either. I can say, "I think backcombing is way better than twist&rip", someone may disagree, and I maybe shrug, give my reasons, say oh well it worked for me, and leave it at that. It's possible to do all those things, as in a discussion, without causing an argument by being offensive or ignorant in some way. Yeh?

 

yes! exactly.

 

No matter what you say on these boards your gonna be going by your own opinion. Just dont take it too Seriously. SE always says when it comes to dreads, take in the good comments and let the bad ones pass you by. well something similar is needed when it comes to these boards. take what you want out of them, but who cares if someone has a seriously different opinion on something and wants to fight about it. just dont reply to them. All bullys stop if you dont give them any fuel

 

:cheers2:

 

It's an online forum and stuff like this happens all the time. I choose to just not read the parts of bickering, it's like the entire dreadlock forum is just one thread all discussing the exact same thing. Don't bother reciprocating. Anyone that is a member of the board generally knows how each person stands and if you do not agree with the advice being given, simply pm the person asking the question and point them to a different discussion answering the question. No one is going to win, so the convo will continue to circle and cycle.

 

Sometimes when someone believes religiously that they are in the right it might be difficult for them to see how everyone else doesn't feel the same way. In those cases it might be easy to assume superiority, or in moments of frustration, be condescending or hostile. In a state of high-strung emotion, reason and common sense can be difficult to use.

It's part of how we're wired as humans, I suppose, and it doesn't only happen on the internet.

 

Guess I just am more proactive and want to try and fix it rather than feeling alienated from almost every thread on some days. Doesn't feel right to me to ignore someone and let them think it's ok to go on offending and insulting people *shrug* I think I find doing nothing harder than doing something maybe

 

hey, i've always found this statement (though slightly offensive) to be very accurate "arguing on the internet is like participating in the special olympics; even if you win, you're still retarded".

 

I just laughed when I read that, I must be a tosser. Amy what have you sparked off here?

 

i dont get it.....I missed something else??

Whats going on? I been playing hula hoop in the beautiful sunshine today

And last night I made friendship braclets with my little girl......
Anyway i guess i better go read shit....

 

lmao!

I think one of the reasons the arguments never seem to go anywhere other than in circles is that they're often a case of "You just insulted me" vs "No I didn't", at the most basic level, rather than "You just insulted me" followed by "Shit, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to, I just meant.... etc etc" but it rarely happens that way due to a frustrating inability to acknowledge fault or appreciate that there had been room for misinterpretation or offense in what was originally said.

 

is that photo you? if so, your hair is sexy.

 

*shrug* hopefully something useful, but probably not, knowing my luck lol

 

Cabin fever! We're all tired of winter, bored, restless and need some excitement I guess.

 

In most cases, it is the only reason we have these on-going arguements.

 

it's been raining for almost five days straight here. and there's no end in sight. i need to get my seratonin levels up somehow.

 

blast some music and dance like a looney

 

It is isn't it? I'm not barking up the wrong tree then...

So what should we do? I think it's probably unrealistic to hope that every single person will always be able to just ignore something that rubs them up the wrong way a bit. It's a nice idea in principle, and will work for some of us. But in acknowledgement of the fact that some of us can't not respond in such situations, how should we approach them? Coz threads end up getting derailed for pages and pages, sometimes within just a couple of posts after the OP...so these things obviously matter enough to people...

What's the best course of events when someone says something insulting but fails to see that they've done so?

 

cause we all need freakin lives!!!!!!

I think these disagreements are like pissing in the wind...and you certainly cant force anyone to say the things you want them to say at all times. Its purely ego driven, and some folks just like to hear them selves speak. Like Me

However when someone starts slingin the fuck yous at me...I am gonna have to speak out. I would bitch smack a motha fucka in real life it, so why not in here.

 

persisant posters who cause trouble over and over ???? ban them