How do you deal or handle Rude or Disrespectful people?

I like to say I ignore them, But - have a sub-conscious mind-set to "rarely forgive and never forget"
I always feel drawn to raise a Spartan shield, hold and push back.
I have found, bullies do not like to be challenged back - But, for a number of people and/or in circumstances, this is not always possible - at the moment of time,
- and when the dish of revenge is placed in storage,- for a well timed retort.
This being said, I cannot stand-by when others are bullied, and found myself in harms way when the weak, vulnerable and/or discriminated are put upon.
In these circumstances an immediate intervention ensues.

 

Grin and bear it, since I try to follow the Biblical advice like Judge not, lest ye be judged,
and Vengeance is mine, I will repay, (saith the Lord).
I figure that every person sins (all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God), and every person's sin is between him or her and God, therefore not my concern.
I have enough to worry about without worrying about other people's shortcomings!

 

the kind of world we all have to live in is all of our concern, because the statistical sum of our priorities is what makes our social experiencing of it what it is.
this is not a matter of judging anyone as a person. the harassing of one person by an other is an act of choice, not a default condition.
(and not one i believe to represent the will of any god nor anything that resembles one in any way)
one that does not require rocket science to avoid. gods and bibles, nor daemons nor any of the rest of it, having little if anything to do with it.
appreciate the good intentions of all religions beliefs, don't get me wrong, but anyway, respect is not something anyone owes me as a person,
that's not even what its about at all. the kind of world we all have to live in, and how we make it so, is.

its not what we are, its how we act. consideration is the one morality, lack of it, is the one evil.
every offensive, unacceptable form of behavior, has and is at its root, aggressive inconsiderateness,
and it is that, and that alone, that is the only thing wrong with this world.

 

Different strokes, I guess.
Either way, you're right. Whether one behaves as they do because of religious sensibility or our inner moral compass, or the lack thereof, it is the behavior of the people who populate the planet that cause the existing conditions.
One thing makes me most happy to believe in the Biblical explanation...the bad conditions, I believe, will have an end, and peace will prevail when God takes a hand in the situation. Revelation 11:18 assures me that God will "bring to destruction those who destroyeth the earth". This, I believe will happen, WHEN is something nobody knows.

 

well i really believe people need to stop convincing themselves it is somehow biologically imperative that the human species can't do it without a big daddy god,
and i do have to blame religious beliefs, not just christianity, (but the aramaic family of religions, christianity included) for propagating that belief by using it as its ultimate recruiting tool.

i am only able to believe god is good, by also believing that most of the biblical authors, really didn't entirely understand what they were talking about.

as for the next installment, even as christ followed moses and mohammid followed christ, may well have actually happened in 1844, as the templars interpreted scripture to predict.
that the great dissapointment wouldn't have been a disapointment at all if people had been looking in the right direction with the right eyes, and depending on myraculous improbabilities.

much has changed, the whole world in oh so many ways, has changed since then. well things like technologies and forms of government have.
but humanity's greatest threat is to itself, not by lack of belief, but by lack of universality of the priorities of its cultures and what they fail to take into consideration.

what is not known is not known. not prevented by being unknown, but not known none the less. humans, not gods, wrote every religious book humans have.
the mineral processes of a nearly entirely mineral universe, are seldom so moved by what humans would like them to be, but they are inexerable and indifferently impartial.
what gives me great hope is that among them, and among the minority that is all of live, is that their diversity is unassailable as well.

 

I believe that the Bible is the true word of God, who used humans as secretaries to transcribe it, under His direction.
After all, when you receive a letter from some government official, you see that communication as being from that official, not from his or her secretary.

 

you also see a signature, an item conspicuously m.i.a. from the document in question.
aside from that, how is the vengeance of anything, supposed to contribute in any way, to any kind of world i would wish to live in, in any life?

i'm sorry but i do not and cannot buy goodness and the desire to be feared (and what else is vengeance then the desire to be feared) as being anything other, then absolute binary opposites?

WE are the danger to ourselves and to whatever there might be of the rest of the civilized universe, and we have the choice not to continue shaming ourselves by continuing to be,
by continuing to pretend that a universe that is almost entirely mineral, in which life is little more then an afterthought, was somehow crated solely for the amusement of our own species.

well i'm sorry but i believe your bible is the word, no more nor less, of the humans who wrote it. the only indication of its representing the will of any god, being only that no god appears to have prevented its publication.

now i'm not denying that god may have from time to time, once in a thousand years generally, chooses one among us, to be channeled by, and for the last three years of his life, your christ may have been one of them, just as moses mohammid baha'u'llah and the rest of them, buddha, krshna and lau tsu and many others.

but that is entirely a seperate matter, from claiming any of the books of any belief, as acurately depicting the will of that or any god or god-like being.

and again, i can only believe in a god being good, by believing vengence and the desire to be feared, something humans came up with on their own.
otherwise, evil in the name of good, is evil twice. and people telling each other what to pretend about what is not known, is no good nor harmless thing.

all things are possible, that's fine, because the unknown being unknown prevents the existence of nothing, but telling people what to pretend about it,
is simply dishonest, whether published in a book or carved in stone.

 

I tend to flip out and cause a big ghetto scene.

 

Why not kill them with... whatever. Just kill them.

Seriously though, I have had plenty of toxic jobs and sometimes all there is to do is find a better place that isn't so toxic. Also people will tend to be more disrespectful if they think they can get away with it so a certain amount is just about how you carry yourself.

you can have the best advice in the world and conduct yourself perfectly but people will still be disrespectful so you do have to have a certain amount of judgement about the kinds of situations you let yourself into. if it is a toxic workplace then you can totally find another. it doesn't matter how many coping skills you employ there are some people that will just get under your skin and stay there and you shouldn't have to live like that.

 

If someone is trying to be insulting to me, I will tell them that to be insulting they need to say something that rings true. If they are just being abusive I will tell them that I will say my prayers for them. In my experience a lack of respect for other people indicates a lack of experience in the workforce.

 

Simply with rudeness and disrespect.

 

vengence does nothing useful to me. i want the offending behavior to stop and stay stopped. only then can it be forgiven and forgotten.
the entire point of law, is not to wreek vengence, it is to deny the perp the opportunity to repeat their offense.

as for beliefs, which are otherwise fine, but it is precisely that those who are rude, offensive and harass others, believe themselves to have the mandate of their beliefs for doing so.

 

Give them a slap

 

The sage is kind to the kind
The sage is also kind to the unkind
For the nature of the sage is kindness.

 

I just start laughing at them but it's pretty rare as I tend to get the nickname "Otis", mostly for appearance sake.

Otis B. Driftwood

 

I usually keep quiet in the moment but begin planning my yearslong revenge scheme that will end with someone being walled up alive in the catacombs while on a wild goose chase for some amontillado.

 

i don't want them to hurt. i want them to get their head out of their ass.

evil is not an identity. it is a form of behavior. aggressive inconsiderateness is that form of behavior.

its not about trying to be a saint either. there simply is no other point then for them to stop.

 

We are not the consequence of other people’s opinion of us, where would we go with this ? Anyone can ruin us ? No, what anyone says will never determine who I am. I know this so be as rude as you like, I have not given anyone the privilege of being in charge of my emotions.

 

vengence and forgiveness are equally beside the point. the point is for the offending behavior to stop.
things like not romantacizing and rewarding as we too often see in entertainment contribute to the problem.

they say amusement is good, but if it encourages degrading the kind of world we have to live in, i have to question the goodness of when it does.