How do you feel if -

Man, i can so relate.

Im typically not girly or emotional, in any way. When it comes to men i rarely take them seriously enough to get any feelings for them. Lets just say i have high standards. And when i do get let down i take it pretty well.

however, recently i began seeing someone who was just a friend. I always had a really good time with him but we both agreed to be friends. he just didnt see me in that way i guess. The more i got to know him the more i began to feel for him but he completely blew me off, and i just dont get it! we always had such a good time. My feeling for him will fade though, as they always do

feeling inadequate can suck, until i remember that i am too pretty for him anyways =p

 

umm.. lol.

 

I've had that happen twice...the first time it bothered me for a bit. It was worse because he ended up dating a good friend of mine. I got over him and a year or so later he started liking me and I didn't care about him at all.

Second time...ok this is weird but I'm slow emotionally sometimes. I felt that way about my ex. Yeah...I broke up with him because it was hurting a friendship of mine and I always choose my friends first. Anyways....I noticed the mistake I made but he was too angry at me and so we fought all the time for years. (I was still crazy about him and thought he hated me) Once he was in a serious relationship he admitted that he still liked me, always would, and that if I hadn't broken up with him we would probably still be together. I was not amused. I still talk to him from time to time. He married the girl he was with when he told me all that. So yeah....He is the reason I hate it when I get soft feelings for a guy friend. He had been a great friend first, I fucked everything up and now we are awkward around each other. It sucks.

 

Im always the temp guy. I play my role very well. But recently I have learnt to hate, so that my change.

 

I was just thinking about this today. This is my top problem with my relationships.

YOu get to know someone so awesome from time and time and you feel like its going great on the first day and hes happy, you're happy. but when that date ends and you're stuck waiting for another one, so confused on what went wrong

try that over and over lol. I totally agree with you that it has potential to destroy someone

and you will think that next relationship or next guy you extremely like because it turns into a psychological problem

I cant give you the best advice because Im still the same way. "Am I good enough?" Surely though, eventually, when the guys start playing mind games with you, you'd dump their ass quick and move on.

Just try and think positive thoughts and play hard to get even though its really hard when you really like them.

but yeah I rather get my ass kicked then to feel that way lol. its brutal

 

I just wait for people to invite me out

It does not happen much

I worry less like that so it is ok

 

hahahaha! yes I look for that too now. I freakin hate hearing it from a person that i like. or "youll meet someone" I was interested in this guy and i thought he was too and I mentioned that I was ready to date or somethin and he says "oh youll find someone soon" I wanted to die lol

 

the worst is when the feeling IS mutual for a while, then for whatever reason, the other person changes their mind. decides you're not really that great after all. :cheers2:

 

What if he was being shy?

 

Great post. I will just pontificate that it's not necessarily their loss either. Some people just aren't compatible romantically. It's not a who's-gooder-enougher-than-who kind of thing, naamean?

 

Nah he didnt see me as a girlfriend and in time, I didnt see him as a boyfriend

 

then i feel it's time to find soembody else to waste my time on

 

ha ha ha.

yeah.

i don't know. i don't really care that much.

but thats cause i'm good looking.

how good looking are you pris?

 

I do okay.

PS, nowadays I wouldn't care. I was talking about an experience that happened about 4 or so years ago. Just sayin' it's a pretty fucked up feeling to know that no matter what you do, you can't make someone feel the same way about you.

 

It's ok to care, Priss.