How does it make you feel?

Gosh you explain things well

 

Well apparently you are the only one here who gets my point, so I will stop wasting my time for people who can't read. Like I responded to you before, I understood completely what you were saying and I do agree with it. Hot isn't the best term someone can use, but it is just a fucking word. And yes it is often used by uneducated immature people. However, I have seen many businessmen (businessmen in particular actually) who treat women like objects and pieces of meat. Almost every single time I go on a business trip this happens. Hell, they do it right in my office, constantly talking about this one's ass and that girl's whatever.

I guess it all depends on a personal experience someone has had with it. The reason it doesn't bother me in the least bit is because I know I have a lot more to give than my looks. I don't count on them by any means. Half the time I'm sweaty in ripped up clothes at the gym with a doo rag on my head. I know that I'm smart, and witty and classy. I don't need people to tell me that. I don't need people to tell me I'm hot either. But when I come down the stairs for a night out on the town with my honey, and his jaw drops and he says "god damn you look hot!" I don't get pissed off and run to a corner and cry because an evil man things that I'm attractive, and I don't get indignant and throw a thesaurus at him because he didn't say I look elegant. And when a professor tells me that I've made a good point, or gives me an A on a paper, I don't call him an asshole and run out of the room. And when my boss says I've done a good job, I don't flip out and call her a stupid bitch.

My point was more about taking compliments and not blowing everything out of proportion and making EVERYTHING in the whole fucking world a feminist issue. Which seems to constantly go on in this forum. I just wanted to prove that it wasn't as big of a deal as everyone made it out to be. But no one wants to bother to even atttempt to understand. I don't know why I bother. I guess because I'm just open minded like that.

And I still do not believe that looks don't matter, because I've been to the relationship forum, and I've read other posts and looks most certainly do matter to most of you. Maybe not in the traditional sense, but they matter. I mean you do find your spouse/partner attractive don't you? Sure, that may not have been the initial attraction, but if you were not physically attracted to that person on some level (even after getting to know them) then you would not be with them. My boyfriend thinks I'm hot because he knows me and loves me, and there is nothing wrong with that. I think he is pretty sexy too. No, guys off the street who tell you you are hot might not know you, but you won't ever give them a chance to anyway. Who knows they might have been decent guys, just not very eloquent speakers.

 

OK

Sorry, I'd much RATHER be complimented on being witty, smart, or classy...much more than to be called "hot" or even "beautiful" for that matter.

It's a woman's issue forum, what the hell do you expect?

Uh, maybe it's because we disagree with you...we have a different opinion...so sue us

Oh so you follow each and every one of our posts, huh? Wow, you must have a lot of time on your hands...Looks don't matter to me...and probably don't matter to a lot of people here on this forum...Being attracted to someone doesn't necessarily mean physically. I'm attracted to my boyfriend's creativity, demeanor, and his general presence...in fact, it has nothing to do with his looks. If he got in an accident and was totally mangled, I would still love him and want to be with him...because he will still be the same person.

 

You know its not an issuse of taking a compliment, its this issuse of being looked at as a sex object. Wheres you like the complement, some of us don't, its nothing to get rude about.

No one else made a big deal out of this but you, I simply asked what it makes you feel when someone calls you hot? Personally it makes me feel like a piece of ass, and theres more to me then that, to any women. And as DancerAnnie said this is after all a womens forum what do you expect?

But as far a physical attraction goes is if a guy is good looking but doesn't have a personality why would I want to go out with him? If the guy has a personality but isn't typically good looking standard Id rather be around him.

Someone elses apperance doesn't matter to me. But my apperance matters to me, I like to dress up on occasion and feel good about my self, but I will not go through grave lengths. But its not just about lookng good its about feeling good, and hot certinaly doesn't make me feel good. Pretty, good looking, etc make me feel better then hot.