How many friends do you have?

I'm not sure what to label the people I may consider as friends

 

How many?

Ummm ...

One, but then that's all there really ever is to be real about it.

 

Not many.

 

I only have 1 and he's my best friend. c:

 

I have a best friend + about 3 or 4 other good friends.​

 

I have a best friend + about 3 or 4 other good friends.​

 

You got a friends here Mel

 

I make friends everywhere I work

 

Whether 1 or 10 billion it's still the same. A friend is a friend is a friend. It's like men and woman and children and grandchildren, and great grandchildren, etc. It's all still 1 … It's called a family. So no matter if I have 1 or many, it's still just one to me. Friends are family and family are friends. It's all the same and one whole, but also two wholes. When you're a friend to I'm a friend to you and then we can be one too. When it comes to friends 1298847748 + 837465838 + 84747488949 + 8578484748 multiplied by 84757484483 = 1

 

Same to you

 

I read that 25% of millenials (gen-Y) have no friends at all.
The numbers are 15-20% with X-ers and Boomers

Sad, but I can totally believe it. I think social media, fake e-friends, video games, and smartphones are the main things that caused this. People need social interaction. Loneliness and isolation can drive a person mad.

I was friends with a guy who whined all the time about having nobody in his life except his cat. He was miserable and complained about being lonely all the time, even when I was around to hang out with him. I stopped hanging out with him because he was trying to drag me down to his level. But even after that he just kept posting video monologues on facebook about how he has no friends. It was pathetic.

There's also a social stigma that most people just wanna be left alone while in public, but it isn't the case really.

I've trained myself to be more social with strangers in bars, coffee shops, and public places in general. 90% of the time, people are open enough to chat for a little bit, and are usually happier that I talked to them.

 

Thank you

 

that's the exact same percentage that insists the sun revolves around the earth. coincidence?

i would love to be left alone in public. but it doesn't happen, which leads to me avoiding being in public a lot more than i want to.

 

It's almost like two swords in one isn't it? In one hand, the "life sucks, I have no friends, people in the world are mean, and I need an outlet" In the other hand is a sword of another kind, another outlet in which to find, others who may be lonely too. Some places are full of toxin, others are ooh la la, and others still are like sit a bit, grab a beer, and enjoy a fun kind of conversation.

In-between the swords in hand, where life is lived as a woman or man, where people can meet and greet and then, maybe find themselves happier than … if they chose a sword in either hand. Left side right side the in-between where life is lived instead of being ... isolated in this or that, they might could live a happier life than that... imagine that. A happier life than that.

Thanks for your thoughts 6 eyed shaman. The seventh eye had to give a shout. Tomorrow I'm back out from where I came into the sometimes cold and rain, but one day soon I'll get back up to where I need to be. I'm sure I'm not alone. This much I know. Thank you again.

 

My husband and I are best friends with another couple that we've known for over 20 years. Drop everything for them kind of friends. I got a call while they were on vacation in Florida that he was put into the hospital for diabetes and his organs were starting to shut down. I was on a plane in less than 18 hours to get there to drive them home. (he's ok BTW). They have done so many things for us also. More like family. We are 2nd parents to each others kids. I've parented their daughter on numerous occasions and even officiated her wedding.

Besides them I have a handful of best friends that I've known anywhere from 25-35 years whom I still speak to every day via text. Then I have a 3rd ring of friends that I see on occasion and that's enough.

 

Where have you been? The people of this world have already been driven mad way before social media. Perhaps the only real path towards sanity is to be driven mad or insane in the eyes of everyone else.


Blessid are those who continue to pursue their dreams and passions and can be still live happily without friends, family, or relationships.

 

yeah i do this now. i used to think if anyone wanted to talk to me, they'd talk to me. i was a very shy child and assumed everyone else found talking easy.
then i realisation about 5 years ago that lots of people feel shy in public, of strangers, even if they are "confident" with friends.
So now I often start conversations with strangers and you can see how people enjoy it.
and i enjoy these short interactions that don't have to lead into any serious friendship, and i can retreat back into my hermit cave when i want to.

on the other hand when i meet people like you i can usually pick up after a few sentences that they aren't the type who want to talk, and i leave them alone : )
it's people who cannot seem to pick up on the cues of people who want to be left alone that cause trouble.
usually because the talkative ones NEVER want to be left alone so they don't know the cues.

 

I like talking to strangers when I'm in a relaxing environment...a bar, coffee shop, concert, parties, etc
But when i'm running errands ...dont talk to me and ruin my efficiency. I have a mission to complete
Plus I'm more likely to meet people I vibe with when I'm in environments I enjoy. Rando conversation with Karen at the grocery store? Will probably be tedious and filled with polite fake laughter

 

Sometimes it simply comes down to, and as was stated above, a mission and a rush, and a I don't have much time to. Like mother's with little ones, and a need to provide, not just for the little one, but for all by her side. The same is true for fathers too, and this much I know. It's difficult when we haven't been able to be a friend, even when we want to more than they know. So, hussel and bussel off we go. We do our best with what we have, but what we have isn't always what we wish to grow. Like hardships and poverty, sadness and sorrow … are these the things any want for tomorrow? So with a fading smile some part, longing for our work of art to manifest in similar way.

 

I'm pretty sure that's this guy's job. To help the him in me become all I was meant to be, and in like manner the same is true, for him to become all he can be too.

 

Does anyone else enjoy the arrow arts?