How many times a month do you and your partner have sex?

Married with 1 kid who is less than 2yrs old - damn close to never!
Sometimes I wonder how the fuck I have kid to begin with!!
Literally in almost 2-1/2 years - 4 times!! Not happy

 

Because I have to initiate sex every time, I don't always get it. So it's a 50% chance I will get it when I want to. Nothing worse when you are feeling horny & your partner tells you they aren't in the mood or they find a bad excuse or a poor reason & you are left feeling unwanted or very disappointed & let down badly. That's when you wonder if it will happen the next time you are feeling horny & what they will say - yes / no ?
So sometimes it may be only once a month we have sex - twice if I'm lucky. Depends sometimes when & how I initiate & if she feels in the mood to.

 

At least every other day. 15-20 times in a month.

 

Seriously I envy all you "healthy" couples out there. My wife (or should I say roommate) refuses that there could be a hormone issue or that something else is bothering her. Every time i ask what the issue may be, her constant answer is "I don't know"
Nothing in this world pisses me off more than that type of answer!!
Absolutely everything in the world has a fucking answer!
I try to get her to come out with an answer but she clams up.
Wish like hell I would have seen this prior to the kid. Financially I can't leave now. Prior to baby ( we got married only 2 months prior to getting pregnant) I would have left her. No healthy individual should be held in a marriage of nothing but work.

 

We have sex most Friday and Saturday nights. Always one or the other, and usually both. Rarely on weeknights when we have to work the next morning. The best is when we go on vacation - then we go at it every day.

 

Jeez I feel like a sex crazed maniac after reading this thread. I have sex with my fiancé once and often twice a day. Usually around 3-4 am, I get really horny. Then again after I get home from work / and or before bed. Weekends we will sometimes just lay in bed for a few hours and go between having sex and watching a movie or just laying there half asleep or talking. It also happens randomly when ever the mood strikes, but always at night and in the middle of the night/early early morning. Maybe I should change my name to nympho-chick. If the math works out, that would be an average of 45-50 times a month. :blush5:


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^like all women, youll get over it

 

Ya I don't think so, I have a really high libido. But maybe you should stop generalizing "all" women into one category as frigid bitches.

 

hello nympho chick,he ,he

 

twice a week we,ve been married 20 years and together 25 years, we used to only have it every 7-14 days before, but iam sure she gets hornier over the years, she NEVER refuses the cock night or day and would imagine she,d take it more if i wnated but iam happy as it is

 

Nzmale- I'm in same boat. I stopped even trying if its a weeknight, day my wife hasn't showered (hint!), any time during last week of the "month," any night there is someone else in the house or we're in someone elses house, any time my wife shows the slightest sign of fatigue or stomach/headaches, anytime during daylight... These other people don't know how good they've got it!!!!!

 

To compensate and because cheating is wrong, I jerk off every morning before she's up and any other time she's gone and kid is asleep or gone

 

never, she has her lover and we don't

 

we've really made an effort to have an active sex life after having a baby. We don't do it every night but we at least do it every other night so it probably averages out to 4 times a week. Even if I'm exhausted and don't really feel like it I still do it (he always feels like it haha) because its so important to the relationship to have that connection.

 

So for girls, would you say or recommend that they do it even if they aren't in the mood? Also if things start rolling despite the lack of mood from the girl, how is the quality of sex for the girl despite lack of initial mood? Or is the mood triggered as events play out ?

 

It doesn't take much to get me in the mood. I realized how that sounded after i posted it, but sex is never a chore or something i do out of obligation. I wouldn't recommend that anyone have sex just because they feel like they should, but I think its important for new parents to make time for sex no matter what and to not push their partner away just because they don't feel like it. I always give my partner a chance to get me in the mood when I'm not in the mood instead of pushing him away with an excuse automatically.

so to answer your question, for me the mood is triggered as events play out.

 

Jeez I can only wish. . .
The other night I wasn't trying to initiate anything. Laying next to her and for whatever reason just looked at her. Within 10 seconds - "I'm goin to sleep" I say ok goodnight blah blah and I'm laying there and it clicks, she probably thought I was looking for it.
Even when I'm not looking to start I get an excuse/turned down. It's always something. And it's all bullshit. I firmly firmly believe with every ounce of my being that she took me for a fool and played me. She got what she wanted. A house and a baby. Now I'm left as the fucking paycheck. I don't want to leave though cause of my child. I don't want to mess her up with a broken home. (More so than it already is)

 

We find it tricky to find the time with kids and general madness of day-to-day life - but we try as hard as we can to find the time. Probably average 4 times a week with no action during time of month (which lasts a week) - so we probably squeeze in 10-12 session each month.
We would like more of those sessions to be longer and more relaxed - too many are quickies at the moment - but still we can't complain too much

 

I can't say how many times a week yet because we both own our own homes and we both have businesses so right now it's as often as we can but not as often as I would like and he knows that. Once he moves in it's gonna change but for now I must be patient, we both like the same things in sex so it should be awesome as it is now. He is a tease as am I so I know he wants it as much as I do and I am hoping for nearly every day.
I never had kids so nothing has slowed me down except for when being in between a relationship.
I feel for you guys who do have kids and are not getting as much as you would like and especially sorry for those who said they are trapped in a relationship doing without. It bothers me if we go, three days without.

 

We have a very active sex life at least 4 times day, we have a kid and have been married ten years, we work together so it's easier for us to go and have some afternoon fun, we make time for each other and take time off, and go away just the two of us