How to disempower...

tell her she has small tits and needs a nose job

 

By your vocabulary (disempower), I can tell you are most likely smart. Not all bullies are dumbasses (such as Mitt Romney seems to be a bully but isn't a dumbass)...but many are.

If you get the opportunity, work up a little speech (in private)...or just a couple of really good sentences and Humiliate the hell out of them in public...preferably around ppl you both know. You may want to point out the reason they bully is because they are total idiots and that is the only way they know how to operate...or some such.

I would say be indifferent...but that really doesn't work with a true (physical) bully - someone who teases to hurt your feelings, that might work. But, as has already been pointed out - the REASON bullying works is because their victims are usually silent, and that is what they count on.

Try your best to at least not be alone when the bully is around...and I've gotta agree with learning how to physically (and verbally) take up for yourself. Whip ass!!!!: :2thumbsup: Even if you have to take some kind of self defence classes (martial arts) or if you can just find that anger that I know has to be down inside you, use that to be ready to do WHATEVER it takes to show that bully you will NOT be quiet and stand idly by and just take what they have to give out.

 

I disagree. Many times the bully will just move on to the next victim. You just shuffled the deck.

 

Hmmm, thanks for all the comments. It is an interesting one and clearly there are many ways to look at these negative situations and different approaches to trying to deal with bullies:2thumbsup:

 

That's still a benefit. When the bully moves on to someone else, the new person can do the same sort of "bully disempowerment." Eventually the bully would run out of victims, stripping him/her of the "bully" status.

 

Bring in a third party to mediate in our conflict.

 

Thanks for the laugh!!!

 

great post

 

Best way to disempower the bully is when it gets done by the 'audience', preferable first in a constructive verbal way otherwise the bully will most likely just perceive it as bullying himself...

 

Exactly. Any time I've been forced to be a part of any group of people, be that in school, family, or work, I have endured bullying. Hence why I have for a long time now tried everything I possibly can to stay away from people. Which isn't easy when you don't have a shed load of money to be able to move to the middle of nowhere...

I agree, for certain people, putting others down is a way to elevate their own sense of superiority. They put other people down to make themselves look better and more important.

As for how to deal with bullies, well... there is no easy answer to that, at least not in all circumstances. If there was an easy answer, bullying would never be a problem, as it could always be dealt with easily and simply. Which is far from being always the case.

You say the easiest way to crush a bully is socially, to get the pack to turn on them. But exactly how easy is this to do in reality? Many bullies do not bully alone, a lot of people are bullied by more than one person, even though in a lot of cases there is a "ring leader" of the bullying. Victims of bullying are usually people who have little or no self esteem, and/or have no friends who can back them up, and are not physically tough enough to be able to stand up to them. If you are in this category, aqquiring the mental strength and self esteem necessary to even attempt to socially humiliate a bully can be extremely tough. And seeing as how many bullies have a few other like minded people to back them up, getting them to be turned against by the pack can again, be very difficult.

And not all bullying situations are the same, so what might be a solution to one bullying situation, might not necessarily work in another. It depends on the bully, the victim, and sometimes a host of other factors as to what is the best course of action to take. But certainly, in at least some bullying situations, there is no easy way to deal with it. Not for the victim at least.

 

That is provided they are up to it and don't become a "real" victim. Otherwise that victim is on you.