Hugging and Kissing?

Why do hugs feel less natural, Megara?

Peace & love

 

for guys you mean? *shrugs* Probably because i grew up doing something else.

i like the idea of a nice firm handshake and the curt little nod that guys do.

if other guys want to hug, have at it

 

It seems that this society has frowned upon men showing physical affection towards each other; therefore, society teaches men at a young age not to show that affection through hugs and kisses. There is an underlying message of "that's not what boys or men do" and instead are raised with the handshake.

Personally I was raised in a very non-affectionate family. Hugging, let alone kissing, never really happened. I feel stiffled by my childhood expierences. It was only until I lived with an affectionate family that I learned the disadvantages my childhood brought. I understand that this is a male issue, but as a female raised in a similar way, I understand where the un-naturalness can come from. I am sorry that males must be indoctrined with that sexist bullshit. (Hugging is for girls)

Peace & Love

 

Because Guys rarely hug each other, it usually means something when they actually do.

Making something overly common can actually take away from its meaning.

 

hey..i don't believe that is so, i hug my friends all the time, probably most days, and i do not feel like the emotions have become less meaningful. same with family, when i hug my mother and father, there is still the same amount of love there always has been and that connection still reflects that.

by your logic shouldn't shaking a hand, saying hello become unmeaningful?
lovex

 

Hahah, I don't see hugs as gay. A lot of my buddies will surprize me with a hug sometimes and we think nothin' of it.

I also have a friend that lkes to trick the smaller guys. He says to them, "c'mere I got somethin to tell ya. ..c'mere.. " then when they get their ear close enough, he kisses em on the cheek. ah, it's so funny to see their reactions. One guy just kinda walked away rubbing his face gently while staring at him. Probably gay. lol Not that the act is overly gay or anything, just the way the kid handled the situation. Like he was ashamed to enjoy it or something.

 

LOL...shoot, if hugs are gay, what's that mean if me and my older brother pinch eachother's nipples and slap eachother on the butt sometimes? Anyway, I think hugs are fine...my step-bros girl friend, who I just met the other day, went to shake my hand...and I was like "We don't shake hands in this family, we hug!" and I like pulled her into a hug. Family and friends get hugs...other people get hand shakes.

 

Midget I agree with you.......people who I connect with I hug, those I do business with I shake hands.

If I am not hugging someone it means there is a distance there.

 

Yeah that is weird, i was raised to believe that a non-firm handshake is a sign of dishonesty so i all ways give a firm hand shake... keep in mind its not a competition to see who can brake who's hand either...

 

It's not a competetion? Oh...and yeah, I agree, firm handshake or no handshake.

 

Shaking hands is meaningless. Its etiquette, not communication.

Since I was 12, I've had exactly 5 hugs with guys, and I can remember each one. Well, not counting when I was fucking hammered, but ya know.

 

fair enough, but to me personally, hugging and kissing means so much with me and my friend/family, and it hasn't ever lost its meaning

 

There is a pretty big cultural gap over this in Europe vs. NA tho.

 

yeah, i do not believe their is a right or wrong, its just culture you know. its interesting though, learning of others cultures and traditions.
i'm in N. America for about 12 weeks this summer, so i may learn some more, and maybe have to hold back when greeting

 

There is nothing to enjoy about North American Culture anymore.

Consume more, you'll get the gist of it.

 

lol, i would HIGHLY suggest not just hugging random people...a lot of people will find it highly offensive

 

The general rule for me is
-if i dont know you and i have no wish to know you, get the hell away from me (stranger in the street or whatever...i cant stand random people standing really close to me, invading my space. Its threatening.)
-If i dont know you but am about to have a formal meeting with you, shake my hand
-If i dont know you and im about to have an informal meeting with you, kiss cheeks
-If i know you well, or youre family, cheek kissing, hugging and kissing on the lips is fine.
This applies for both men and women. I believe my boyfriend has the same policy. I see him kissing his brother all the time. Its cute.

Xx

 

Actually about this whole hand shaking side to this all, It is important to realise the origin, the extention of empty right hands clasping eachother was a way of demonstrating you didnt have a weapon or atleast didnt have one ready to kill the other person.

 

throughout time,,, our bodies etc have been sexualized in every way shape or form,,,, right down to breastfeeding our younguns,,,, dunno if you are old enough to remember the rage a buncha scmhucks in the states made a few years back bout breastfeeding in public places,,,, clothing,,, cover ourselves thorughly because showin a bit too much "turns folks on" it wasnt originally this way,,,,, ,,, guess to many high holies in the world deemed it sexual to expose body parts or show love and affection,,,an us well trained sheep in general followed,,,

why have we all heard growing up through the years,,, hippies,,,.... them dirty, naked ,, freeluvvin ,potsmoking , drum totin, dosin folks .....

kinda odd to me how we must take things deemed as "drugs" in order to show affection n not have to explain it in someway,,,,

why is laying next to someone cuddlin n holdin somehow sexual ,,,,

 

I don't see a problem with it.... but in the U.S. and what not, it seems like it's not widely accepted...ESPECIALLY amongst other men.

I noticed that your own sex, seems to judge you more than the opposite sex, but that's just my observation. I've NEVER had a guy call me fat, or ugly, or a whore.... but I have had countless other females say that to me.

But man, affection is for everyone, not just the opposite sex, or a certain age.... hugs are a wonderful thing

Everyone is so uptight about shit all the time, and always bashing affection as if affection is something horrifying like death and war! Please. The world would be a better place with more hugging and less fighting Who cares if a guy hugs another guy; much better off that than a guy beating the crap out of another guy, hmm?