Husband cheating with netsluts

I understand where you're coming from deadflowerchild. It hurts that he's finding pleasure elsewhere. And, I'm sure he is lying just so you're not hurt. If I were in that situation, I'd just throw away the videos when I find them, and in the meantime, give him more sex... you guys have been together such a long time, there's no sense in giving that up because of porn. But no man NEEDS porn. He just needs sex, and you can give that to him, just don't make him ask.

 

NO actually that is not true. I am a man who likes woman so I am a 'Man'. Sex is better with my wife when we allow each other to partake in primarily sexual activities with masturbation, while keeping in mind people we do not yet have a close and tidal relationship with. Tidal as in willing to go through the bad and the good, before we attempt to see what good there is to cherish.

 

What has helped us is that we talk about how we feel and express our fears, especially the negative feeling associated with your partners interest in another person. I think once we made it apparent that it did not mean that we were incompetent sexually, but that there was something about it that made it better for us when we did have sex because we both realized that sex is best done when the heart is involved, in a physical and experiential way.

Sexual intimacy is a multifaceted experience and the primary reason it feels good is the very same motivation that creates for masturbation.

How come you do not have to masturbate to porno and he does? This has to do with sexual experiences at youth and teenagers. Psychologically speaking, most of our sexual desire is created in this time and you guys simply have had a different past experience. For example, my partners mother has never experienced an orgasm and in fact, her sexual appetite is close to nil. She was brought up in Pakistan, in an extremly conservative environment and is so oblivious to sex that my partner was able to extract this from her, without her feeling insulter or aggravated.

This desire has a lot to do with experiences. However, we all have the capacity to masturbate. If nothing else works, I suggest pulling the wild card and learn how to masturbate, as well, to porno, learn to appreciate it. Though I imagine you probably think it would be sick in some way and you have all right to feel like this, please at all costs. However, remember that the difference arises from a different experience, your partners in relation to yours was different, especially because he was a male. Males in you society are taught that it is alright to have alot of sex and sexually experience.

I mean look at the whole male 'Player' thing...it clearly shows that we look happily at males who are sexually active and we look down, or atleast to some extent still do, on females doing the same thing...go figure.

 

I personally believe that is fucking crazy - for fuck sakes, if we look up on males who are sexually active, how else are they to be smiled upon without getting some girls and consenting to some sex...its fucking crazy, but it still kind of exists lol.

 

So would you consider a man who watches a livecam chat type of porn site cheating?

 

Both. In my relationship, since my partner is not putting my health in danger and because we are able to change the way we feel, if we irrationally feel incompetent and unable to satisfy the other, in light of this type of 'cheating', then it is not cheating because it does no damage to either of us. However if your relationship does not have the capacity to change irrational feelings then this would be cheating.

The negative feeling here and why it is irrational, if you care to understand it and not jump to conclusions(this has happened a lot to me here) is because we feel threatened by our partners actions. Our mind naturally jumps to conclusions that are irrelevant to the situation, conclusion such as "My partner is not satisfied with my love, I have to change myself" However, since this not the case and your partner(depending on relationship) is probably satisfied with you, then this emotion is irrational.

Me and my partner do this by talking and mutual support. With porno, we help each other and ensure each other that we are not hurting each other and that we are not dissatisfied, but wish to simply explore our sexuality freely. It is actually a pretty fun part of our relationship. This mutual support thing is sweet too, because it also helps us feel more stable in the relationship, because we are aware of the capacity we both have to ensure that the conflicts, now or in the future, can be dealt with smoothly.

 

Aint nothin wrong with porn. maybe you're the problem =)

you could try and spice up your sex life.