i am not gay, but i want to have anal sex with a man

i suppose the easiest way to get it, is to find a gay guy, and explain to him that you just want some anal sex. i'm sure you'll get it if you earn the trust of him. of try going to a gay village. the easiest way would be definitely to find a gay guy who understands

 

how could i meet a guy though...i dont know of any gay clubs around where i live and i just want to be fucked in the ass...its not a lot to ask for and i am sure there are gay men that would want to, but the problem is finding one

 

as I said go to www.gay.com and register, it is free.

then go to the section where you live ie: central US, select the state then the city. go into chat and make a post that you want someone to bust your cherry/fuck you in the ass .. what ever and you'll prolly get lots of reply's. having a pic would really help.

 

I met her in a club down in old soho
Where you drink champagne and it tastes just like cherry-cola [lp version:
Coca-cola]
C-o-l-a cola
She walked up to me and she asked me to dance
I asked her her name and in a dark brown voice she said lola
L-o-l-a lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola

Well I’m not the world’s most physical guy
But when she squeezed me tight she nearly broke my spine
Oh my lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola
Well I’m not dumb but I can’t understand
Why she walked like a woman and talked like a man
Oh my lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola

Well we drank champagne and danced all night
Under electric candlelight
She picked me up and sat me on her knee
And said dear boy won’t you come home with me
Well I’m not the world’s most passionate guy
But when I looked in her eyes well I almost fell for my lola
Lo-lo-lo-lo lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola
Lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola

I pushed her away
I walked to the door
I fell to the floor
I got down on my knees
Then I looked at her and she at me

Well that’s the way that I want it to stay
And I always want it to be that way for my lola
Lo-lo-lo-lo lola
Girls will be boys and boys will be girls
It’s a mixed up muddled up shook up world except for lola
Lo-lo-lo-lo lola

Well I left home just a week before
And I’d never ever kissed a woman before
But lola smiled and took me by the hand
And said dear boy I’m gonna make you a man

Well I’m not the world’s most masculine man
But I know what I am and I’m glad I’m a man
And so is lola
Lo-lo-lo-lo lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola
Lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola lo-lo-lo-lo lola

 

Here, here, there's nothing wrong with it but just call it what it is, homosexuality or bisexuality.

 

Just how are you defining "gay"?

If you want to insert objects into your anus, that's not necessarily gay. If you want that object to be a real man's penis, that's gay.

The fact that you don't want any other connection with a man doesn't stop you from being gay. There are all sorts of gay men in bath houses and bars who don't seem terribly interested in getting to know a gay man as a person.

I'm gay and I'm interested in men, but anal sex doesn't appeal to me and I'm still gay because the people that attract me romantically and sexually are men.

If you decide to use words with brand new definitions of your own, you can expect people to be confused and to react negatively to you.

 

Anal sex does NOT equal gay sex!!!!

I'm so fucking tired of people who come on and assume that one is gay just becauswe they like to receive anal sex! if a guy fucks a girl in the ass, she's not a lesbian afterwards. Nor is the guy gay for doing it to her. Remember, us boys have a prostate. It can feel good if stimulated, whether you be gay or straight.

There are plenty of straight men out there who have had their girlfriends play with their asses. there are plenty of gay men who refuse to do anything anal.

And just because one wants to have an experience in this doesn't define their sexuality!!! Just take it for what it is. Sexual experimentation. Besides, fantasy and reality are two very different things. This guy might get off on the idea now, but might get repulsed once in the bed with another man.

Shame on people like spacer, skeeter, or juggla for relying on stereotypes and misinformation like this. Open your eyes and open your mind. Don't be in a rush to label someone whom you know nothing about.

Sex and sexuality are not the same thing!

 

Wanting anal penetration isn't necessarily a gay thng. The fact that Axion wants this from a male sounds to me more like he is Gay or Bi but, as has been said before, anal sex isn't necessarily gay sex.

Sure if you don't get it from a male's penis it will have to come from another source, like maybe a woman with a strap-on but I am willing to bet that either one will stimulate your prostate really well.

 

Anal is a fetish. Homosexuality isn't.

Can you spell "yawn"?

 

It isn't though, is it. I mean, the guy'd be behind him, he wouldn't even have to look at him. Homosexuality has fuck all to do with anal sex, it's about being attracted to your own sex. You can have either one without the other.

 

I think what PhotoGra1 is saying (Please correct me if I’m wrong here PhotoGra1) is being gay is who you fall in love with, who you are attracted to aside from their "tools".

Most people are capable of separating sex from love. Many of them don't realize it or don't admit it but I am pretty sure I'm right about this even if it's just something that popped into my mind & I have no data to uphold it. I can't believe that every time a sex worker has sex they are in love for example. Or what about (OK, I'm going to date myself again) the swingers parties & the general orgies that have taken place throughout history? On such a mass scale as either of those have been it has been sex for sex itself.

On that presumption, Axion may well want the sexual act but not necessarily have any real attraction to the guy that would give it to him. (I am not trying to speak for you Axiom, I'm just stating a point) The guy could be incidental he is there for his equipment & can even be just his penis at that. Think of glory holes. Sure, the anonymity is the attraction itself in some but I am willing to bet that the separation of the tool from the body is also an attraction to many. I have, in fact, heard of men who want anal sex with men but the fact of having sex with men disgusts them. This is obviously from a confused, troubled person but it exists. It is the source of some homophobia.

 

The lack of gay clubs may be a problem, but I'm sure there will be at least one unless you live in Twatspasm, Alabama. Chances are you know gay people already. Ask around. If there isn't one where you live, you may have to travel to somewhere a little bigger, get a hotel room, etc. It's a little harder, but then you might try it and find you don't like it.

One thing I can tell you is that, if you do find a gay bar, and you go in wearing a T-shirt saying "I AM STRAIGHT, PLEASE FUCK MY ASS" you won't have any trouble at all finding a man.

However, if you're not into guys particularly, an alternative might be a girl with a strap-on. You don't get the organic feel of it, but it might be easier to orchestrate, with the added bonus that you don't have to put up with some lecherous fag in your house afterwards.

Just some thoughts really, without knowing whereabouts you live there's not much more anyone can do.

 

Studies have suggested that up to 65% of otherwise straight males have at least one homosexual "encounter" during their lifetime. Sexuality is an identity, anal sex is an activity. I am not redefining any terms...

 

I've never had anal sex but I am still gay. Conversely, I know someone who experimented with his sexuality (took it up the arse) and is pretty much entirely heterosexual. He has a girlfriend, and doesn't make any excuses about his experimentation; as far as he's concerned, it's something that he did, not something that he is.

 

Get real! Exactly what kind of sexual practice -- Oral, anal, whatever -- HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT. For a guy to have sex or DESIRE to have sex with other guys and still claim that he's straight is to live a lie. He's either bisexual or gay. He's definitely NOT straight -- period. I know this from over 30 years of personal experience.

-- Skeeter

 

I know plenty of people who have had sex with those of the same gender, but they'd NEVER consider dating them. Why? Because they are not romantically interested in them due to their gender. A blowjob will feel good no matter who's giving it to you, whether it be boy or girl. For all we know, this guy might end up discovering he's bisexual or whatnot, and that's okay. He might go through with the act once and decide that guys just don't do it for him at all. Or he might chicken out at the last moment once the fantasy becomes reality. We don't know and should not make judgements based on such.

Curiosity and experimentation do not define our sexuality. If that was the case, then the majority of the population would be bisexual. We've all had the thoughts and fantasies at one point in our lives. doesn't make us gay, it's just our way of exploring our sexuality and finding out for ourselves who we are.

I've been with men who have cum for me, but still decide that they just aren't into men on a romantic level. One in particular could give and receive orally, but freaked out at the thought of kissing a man. Or holding his hand, or cuddling. There is no doubt in my mind that he's completely straight, but likes sex.

Sexuality isn't as black and white as you're making it sound. Step into the grey area and take a look around. I still say that no one can define another person's sexuality. Only their own.

 

You have said something similar to this before...

I will respond, again, that you cannot define other people based on your own personal experiences.

I find algebra to be very abstract and difficult to understand. Many people would argue that algebra (and all math) is very concrete.

Your life experiences are unique to you, and do define who you are today. Humans are much too complex, however, to be defined by one individuals experiences.

 

Don't worry about being gay. I am here to reassure you that you are!

 

PhotoGra1 and monosphere: I see your points, but what about people who want sex but don't want any romantic links of any kind?

If a man wants sex *specifically from a man* but doesn't want anything romantic from anybody--either male or female--is he homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual or something else?

If a man wants sex with a man and a romantic relationship with a man, I think most of us would agree that such a man is gay. If that same man says he is not gay, many people would say that he is either in the closet or in denial.

As I see it, a man who wants to receive anal sex is not necessarily gay. The fact that he wants something up his rectum doesn't define him sexually. A man who wants a vibrator or a dildo or any similar item not part of another man's body inside of him is not necessarily gay.

On the other hand, the fact that what he desires up his rectum is another man's penis is what tips the scale as I see it. If you want something sexual or emotional and you specifically want it from someone from your own sex, that would seem to make you either gay or bisexual. A man who specifically wants sex from a man and romantic involvement with a woman is bisexual. A man who wants both sex and romance from a man is gay.

In other words, wanting anal sex doesn't make you gay. Wanting sex with a man (if you're a man) does make a difference. There are plenty of men out there who are willing and eager to have sex with a man with no romantic involvement or commitment. I say this as a man who has had sex with men who clearly did not want any involvement or commitment of any kind while I was searching very intentionally myself for just such involvement, romance and commitment. Frankly, I hope Axion finds himself just such a man.