I don't want to do it

it really saddens me that you all are here debating whose fault it is. That must really suck for the OP, who came here for support and help.
LittleOne, honest, it doesn't matter if it's his fault or yours. The damage is done now. No sense in beating yourself up over it. No sense in trashing him, either. What you gotta focus on is what you are going to do about it now. If he's the type who conveniently loses his job when he moves in with a chick with a better job, ditch the loser now before you get too entangled to leave easily. There are men out there like that. Not saying he is or is not one of them, but he could be. Guys like that are real good at never taking the blame when things go wrong, it's always someone else's fault. They are also real good at reminding you how wonderful they are. Trust your gut instincts about him. If you think he's a loser, trust that feeling and get out while the getting's good. Having a baby with him will only make it harder to leave. I have so been there myself. It was a very long time ago, and I'm here now, doing just fine. But there was a decade of my life I wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy. (((((HUGS))))) No matter what you decide to do, no matter if you really are pregnant or not, it won't be easy. If you need to talk, the offer still stands.

 

I'm pregnant.

I'm getting an abortion in a week or two.
To those who blame me and insult me, fuck you.
Thanks for the support, everyone else.

 

If you took my remarks as insult or blame, that's your problem, but it wasn't the way they were meant. Given your state, I'll ignore that comment if it was directed at me.

Sorry to hear it, and best of luck to you.

 

LittleOne, I'm sorry that you're pregnant when you didn't want to be. (((((hugs!!!)))))
love,
mom

 

Thank you

 

Oh no. Im sorry. Any action you take is the right one. Its going to be okay. We will be here. Whats your name?

 

Little One, I am so sorry you are going through this. I am really tempted to prune this thread, as a lot of it is not relevant to your actual situation.

Many of us are here for you, we care and know you feel bad about the situation. Hugs and kisses.

Concealed Culture, I am not upset with you at all. Just trying to maintain some order. I agree with your opinion. druminmama is doing the same. There is no reason to attack the OP here at all, Iron Goth, I asked someone not to attack you, not please do not attack the OP anymore. I know things like this bring out people's strong feelings. Little One really is not at fault here. Writing a check for child support is no contest to having to have an abortion AND pay for it all by yourself.

 

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

((((((HUGS)))))))

 

I'm not attacking the OP.

 

w00t w00t
there is no fault at all.. dudes think now.. its better to say uh its all your fault that this condom didnt last this hard phucking and so on. dudes, get a life..
You gurl, who you think yer pregnant, take pregnancy test and chill.. as you think that you might be pregnant, then the symptoms just appear, couse your mind is working way too much.. the more you think about it the more you will be confused...
there was nothing about raping.
Gurl is just confused and angry, couse she thought dude was supposed to let him know immediately that this and that happend. well do you tell the dude as well that you were flirting with yer coworker the other day?

as you already know yer pregnant, then i suppose you should be a bit happy tho, couse you have ability to become pregnant. Many women prolly think like aww.. she is sooo lucky..
anyway you choose, your life. I understand you want to be sure your kid is going to have fulfilled life with good parents and good social level.
It seems to me that you made up yer mind even before you were sure yer pregnant. I suppose you know the best what is better for you and the people who are surrounding you

 

im sorry honey, hope your not feeling too rough. keep posting, the ladies here are great and will give you all the support they can. xxx

 

I'm ok right now. I'm going to a clinic monday to get the pills that'll make me miscarry.

The only thing that's bothering me now, is...I don't want to be with my boyfriend anymore. He's proven to me that he's unreliable and...I guess just through all the stress this has caused, I just don't love him anymore.
I mean, he knew the condom broke, didn't tell me. "thought it would be ok"
He told the boss of a cafe that he needed a job "because I have a little one on the way."
I was pissed. I don't want the whole fucking world to know my personal life.
He though it would get him a job faster.
Bullshit, he's still unemployed.
Then he freaked out because he sensed that I wanted to leave him, and he tried to propose to me! He's crazy!
And he wants to keep the baby. "I don't know how to prove to you that I can take care of it." he says.
He's made no attempt to get a job, except picking up a few applications. His friend's visiting right now, so they've been hanging out all the day. I just...I can't even stand him touching me while we sleep at night. I just want him gone. He's a burden, and I don't want to be with him.
And I know he can see it in my eyes, I just don't have the guts to break it to him. And we have to go get an abortion the day before Valentines, and then I want to break up with him. I don't want to be cruel, but it's just how I feel.
Now his friend who's visiting might want to live here, not in our place, but here in general. I'm like...wtf? What annoying timing. Now he might be crashing here for a while, whithout asking me.
I'm just over him.

 

You are not cruel. Think of yourself and kick the fucker into touch. Good luck!

 

umm.. well i didnt know that something like this might become something so big and break the love you had. Seems to me that you just care about the dude and he has been bothering you before and you have not been in harmony for a while before the condom thingy happend. You just need a reason to break up with him and he loves you. well I suppose you are old enough to handle your relationships on your own.

 

staying together would be cruel to yourself, when you don't want to be with him. Forget how he is going to feel about the breakup, because he will play your sympathy for all it's worth. Think about how you'll feel if you stay with him any longer. You gotta look out for number one. He's gonna try to make you feel like crap about it, but it's his problem not yours, if he has no job, nowhere to live, and no girlfriend. Stand tough, and stick to your guns. It isn't your place to take care of him, send him home to his Mama.

 

You are so right mamaboogie, only hope she's kind to herself.

 

Little One, it is better you found out now, rather than after years and years and a house full of kids, plus bills and a mortgage.

It is hard to end it with someone, but when someone let's you down, and love dies, it is better to get it over with than to try to force yourself to do something you feel is going to harm you. If he won't get a job, he will probably be like this always.

I helped my own daughter through a break up like this, her exbf was a a dude who just wouldn't go to school OR get a job, he just sat around making excuses for how hard his life was (she wasn't pregnant, but was feeling the same things you are) I asked her "Do you want to be living in a trailer park, with 4 kids, working two jobs, while he sits around, getting high and drinking all day, and your babies are away from you, because you are working two jobs just to pay the bills? Do you want to struggle the rest of your life? With a dude like this, you will. And you will be supporting him, and guys like this won't help with the babies, either. You need to make a choice, and just because you loved him doesn't mean you OWE him anything."

She broke up with the unemployed loser and has a wonderful young man now. HE will be able to be good to her as well as take care of a family.

Better to get out now, while you can. As soon as you are done with the procedure.

((((((((((Little One))))))))))))))

 

Listen man punt this guy out the door, and when someone else like this comes along, seriously reconsider sleeping with him.

 

TheLittleOne.

Not to act like your mother here but, I'm old enough to have changed your diapers when you were a baby so, here's what I have to say. First off, "abortion" as birth control? Well even though this isn't a birth control or abortion debate, I think abortion is total sin.

As far as being hypocritical about your boyfriend, your a little quick on that one. Instead, why don't you take a good look at yourself. Isn't it always so convenient to point fingers and the blame to the other, instead of examining all aspects and angles regarding the whole relationship and it's values, not to mention it's qualities and down falls.

Bottom line, your still very much a child and need to grow up, then maybe you will be able to enter into a "mature" and "meaningful" relationship down the road and better conduct yourself in a more adult kind of way. But as far as any sympathy goes, you won't get any from me.