I fantasize about being raped.

Crayola....just back off the lassie a little...ok...

 

Ladies, there is no reason to fight. Let's just chill, OK?

This statement speaks much:

Obviously you are in a nonsatisfying relationship, with someone you would rather not be with. Perhaps the rough sex fantasy (I am guessing it is rough sex, and not real rape, where you would be humiliated, physically hurt and threatened with death or permanant harm, which is what happens during most real, forced rape) is to make you forget where you are, and who you are with.

You are too young to be forcing yourself into a relationship you don't want. If you aren't happy, end it. He'll survive, beleive me. Why be in a relationship, much less fuck with a dude you don't even care for?

You deserve better. Move on.

 

You're young and by the way you express yourself, I'm guessing you'll probably make a nice bottom/sub somewhere down the road. If that's your path, then learn this lesson now - selfishness has no business in play. You need to recognize when you're being selfish and stop things even though you don't really want to. This all might sound kinda wierd but if you can't do that with something like a relationship now where it's obvious, you won't be able to do it in play later on when things are tricky and perhaps even dangerous.

Just a couple of cents from left field.

 

huh? i wasnt fighting or anything, i'd like to kno where pple got that..?
or have u all lost your sense of humor? ugh

 

umm yea thats totaly outta left field & a complete misenterpretation of the situation..lol

 

I think your fine. Fantacies are just that. I don't think it will increase your chances of actual rape. Just don't tell to many people about it. If you tell the wrong person, he may get bad ideas.

 

It may completely seem so but a 17 year old having rape fantasy and who gets turned on by roughness is probably not going to get 'less kinked' as she grows up. She might as well have this lesson in mental responsibility (in this case selfishness regarding what she wants over fairness to her bf) equated to the realm of play. Even if it doesn't apply now, it's one of those things she might remember are tied together 5-10 years down the road if she takes that path.

 

Um, well, he's not my boyfriend anymore (and he was for over a year, but I had to end it), so I guess those comments don't really apply.

 

There are a ridiculous amount of definitions or the word rape. Rape, to me, is the absolute most violent act one human can do to another. So I too guess you don't want rape, but forcible sex.

I know a few girls who love it (not my thing). Nothing wrong with it, but you have to be very careful of who you choose to do it with. As a whole, most guys that are into it are very respectful of boundaries. That's the key, do it with someone you know and trust, and set your boundaries first.

 

Your 17, sexually active, enjoys sex obviously, and has a possible flavor to play out some rolls. Seems you already covered you know its not real rape your seeking but rather a little rough role playing. Seems fine enough as long as you keep your head and wit about it.


As for some of the extreme comments that to me bordered insults rather than advice, oh well there are people like that all over, sad you came here to find that out.

 

congrats!!! how are ufeeling now?