I finally lost my virginity. O.O

I live in Virginia and I don't think we're oppressed here at all. Most of my friends lost their virginities between 13 and 16, most at 15, early 16. I lost mine at 17, and that was "late". I think this whole country is oppressed but not in the way you mean.

People get called whores but its not because of how old they are but the amount of people they've slept with. I don't think calling people whores are limited to Virginia. However, I always make sure my opinion is thrown in there when I hear the word, which is I don't appreciate it because people's sexuality should be their OWN.

 

^ sounds like summin one of dem dere whores wood say +_+

 

LOL EasyE I was thinking the same thing.

 

You told your brother you were gunna have sex? When i lose it Im not telling my brother...

Yeah my best friend is a virgin but everyone calls her a slut/whore etc cos of the amount of bfs she has.

 

I must be way off on my calculations then, as I said, I've never done any of it. Nor have I even talked with a girl about this sort of thing in person. The farthest I have gone was grabbing the only true ex's butt I've ever had and making out with her. She probably dumped me because I was acting prude, which I most definately am not.

When I was in school, my belief was that the girls where all good, and only wanted sex after marriage. Even still, the ones that everyone knew where having sex, wanted absolutely nothing to do with me. If they did, they would show me at least a little hint.

I guess I have been proven throughout the years that I was way off.

 

Har-har-funny. I shouldn't have to defend myself as I don't think it matters but for what it's worth, I've been with the same boy almost five years - my first.

And I've never ever heard anyone say anything sounding like "dem dere". Hell Virginia isn't even that southern, it's right in the middle.

 

I've been to some real hick parts of Va.

 

Maybe so, but I've been in parts of Connecticut where people go SO OUT OF THEIR WAY to ACT *southern* that they have far surpassed most any backwards place.

 

I can understand being unwilling to submit to them, but to be actively opposed? I can just see the protest signs now, "Virgins *suck*, if that!"

Cheap is still worth less, regardless of how morals change. It depends on what kind of man you are looking for.

Having sex with someone that is not a proper energy match poisons your life force. For men it has more of an inner effect on their state of health and their overall emotional satbility, whereas with women it has a more direct effect on their appearance. I've seen some of the prettiest girls get ugly REALLY fast, torn up and haggard by 20, after sleeping around with every guy in sight. It is a well known fact that even guys that abstain from promiscuity have a strong tendency to age much more slowly, but it is particularly obvious with women. Real honest to God whores look hideously bad when they are only in their 30's and 40's.

I wasn't aware that things had changes so quickly, but I guess that explains why the world has gotten noticabily uglier in just my lifetime.

 

Well, I agree with this statement though I don't apply it to physical appearances as I believe often the "true whores" you speak of often have issues far beyond who they sleep with (for instance, nasty drug/alcohol problems, shady home situations at best, widespread abuse both physical and mental). While I do believe strongly that our inner self, or life force, is expressed through our physical appearance such as skin/eye health and general vitality, I think people can be at peace with sleeping around. I do not want to say it's rare for that to be the case, but I feel it may be rare. However, not unheard of. So often with women especially, being promiscious is just an extension of sexual abuse, which in and of itself is enough to wear on our outward appearance. Sexual confidence alone will not age you prematurely or make your teeth fall out. A history of sexual abuse, drug abuse, and promiscious sex may.

I believe people need to be insightful into whatever they chose to do, their life force is their life force and as long as they are no inposing on mine I'm cool with it, but I do feel it is pertinent to have them question why they feel or do the things they do. I am thankful when people take the time to say to me.."Mandy, why would you do that?" Because if I do know why, and it sits right with me, I can explain no problem and it still sit right. Perhaps I will have even educated someone, or made them question themselves. If it does not sit right after reflection, I'm glad I confronted it and someone cared enough to ask.

 

I don’t think sexual confidence or the lack there of makes any difference. Having sex, or to a lesser degree any kind of personal association with the wrong people can poison your life force all the same, confidence or no.

I once knew a girl with somewhat superhuman energy who made a collage of pictures of herself from different points in time, covering about 4 or 5 years, and it looked like more than a dozen entirely different women. That was precisely why she made the collage. It was so striking that I probed her for her life’s circumstances through the progression of pictures. It was also quite striking that in some of the pictures she look beautiful, but in others she looked decidedly unattractive (though I put it more gently to her). As it turned out, in all of the pictures where she look ugly, it was during a relationship, and in all of the pictures where she looked beautiful she was not in a relationship. She was like a chameleon, the changes were so dramatic.

I just moved into a place that I had lived in 6 years ago, and the same two sisters still live next door. They were both quite attractive and the younger sister still looks mostly the same, although she seems to have aged more rapidly than I would expect in 6 years, but the older sister has gotten married to a guy that is clearly a hideous energy match. She looks almost unrecognizable, and not even vaguely attractive anymore. She looks like her husband, much fatter than she was, and the sweetness of her face is entirely gone.

So even sleeping around isn’t so much of an issue here, the girl that slept around but never staid in a bad relationship rebounded and would go back to looking like her old self, but the one that married a bad match is, I suspect, hopelessly lost and will never look the same again.

It’s a basic fact of psychic bonding, it has an effect on a woman’s appearance and a man’s health. I strongly suspect that this is why, on average, women live longer than men do, but even though they die off quicker, in terms of appearance men tend to age more gracefully than women.

 

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