I got so angry when he talked about 3p. really need your comments, thanks

Absolutely not true -- but a compelling psycho-insight into how men view women who like casual sex.

Look, no prostitute is going to accept spontaneous uncommitted talk of promises as a payment. And you know it. When someone is a whore, there is a specific trade discussed and tendered.

This woman didn't even say anything in response to the man. She just smiled. She didn't initiate talk of trade. She didn't respond to it. She didn't negotiate. Therefore there is NOTHING in this context that suggests shes' a whore.

Let me enlighten you. Since the beginning of time, men have been providers and flaunt their ability to provide as a way to impress women. That's exactly what he was doing. Let's stop being melodramatic.

 

Wait, you asked for money and didnt think he would assume you was a Hooker? .. Many many hookers give freebees to new clients. Its sounds to me like your first experience with the fella was just that. A free ride. Next time you want to ride the coaster bring tickets.. Here is when you made it official that you are a prostitute and may have other female friends..

 

Let me enlighten you.

Since the beginning of time, some women have been acting like whores while claiming they don't.

You are 100% correct that he was just doing what some men have been doing to women who would let them since the beginning of time.

Treating them like whores.

Here's a shocker for you... not all women depend on men to look after them and pay their way, and not all men are so shallow that that is the only thing they have to offer to women.

It's a good bet that someone who argues that doing such isn't being a whore, and then posts instructions on how to be a whore without getting arrested... is a whore.

 

Your reasoning is very melodramatic and general. I believe you try to avoid reason.

Men promising to give you gifts and buy you things is not an indictment of a woman. She did not solicit gifts. Do you see your reasoning errors. All she was doing is sitting in a car and he started spouting shit and now you say that's tantamount to prostitution and you presume that's what women have been doing for years.

No sir, you have not enlightened me.

A boast and promise on his part without negotiation from her does not a prostitute make. And no that is not what women have been doing for years.

You clearly don't understand women any more than you do reasoning.

A woman expecting a man to be a provider is also not tantamount to being "dependent" on a man as you claim. Trust me, in the real world, there are plenty of women with great jobs who gladly accept gifts. And no it's not prostitution.

 

I love this. This is symbolic of how you reason.
Laughable the leaps in logic.

And in debate, this would be called ad hominem. I can't even take your conjecture seriously.

 

Seems you can't have a conversation without making it an attack on me, I suggest you fuck right off troll.

 

Tom, you made the first ad hominem attack. I'm done interacting with you. Good-bye.

 

^LAST WORD lol


gaga,


If you and this man are real people and this story is true, you are both fucked up.


I think what you are calling "dignity" is SHAME, because whoring around with manipulative weirdos is not dignified.


That is probably the nature of the 'culture clash' you are experiencing.


You are ashamed of you sexuality and creeps like this will be drawn to you because you are weakened by it and they KNOW they can take advantage of you.

I'm certain that you are more beautiful and desirable than you see yourself.


You have sexual POWER.


No man should be allowed to make empty promises of gifts and then not use a condom after you requested him to (legally that's rape by the way, not suggesting you have him arrested, but he violated your RIGHTS).


He is using your weakness to make you powerless.


I don't think taking money from him for sex is the answer to taking your power back because you still have the underlying problem of shame.


You need to respect yourself and your sexuality.

KNOW you are beautiful and desirable.


Do not back down. If you want something, like for your sexual partner to use a condom, don't let him ignore it.


This sort of problem is going to keep happening for your whole life until you learn to respect yourself.


Go get tested for STDs.

 

"may have other female friends"

That is the one of the reason I got really pissed off. Please, there is nothing about whore things or prostitutes before he talked about my friends. He doesn't know my family, my school, my friends, so if he treated me as a whore just from my appearances, I think it is ok. But he wanted to involve my friends? Even in a talk.

I haven't see through every words people talk in this thread. I need to look up some words. LOL.

But I know people can only judge things according to what they have experienced. Try to picture that, you go into Harvard campus and talked to a female student that you want to take care of her. Does she not assume you are insane?

He think he can buy a girl from a UC system. I am fine with that. I don't love UC system although I spent many years here. But I came from a very very famous college in my country. I assume it better than Harvard. If I want any easy money, I can just marry some rich guys in my country (they are becoming extremely rich these years LOL), many many rich people want to marry a girl from my college just for showing off. LOL. That is the way I should do if I treat myself as a whore.

So, even I asked him for money in the text, that didn't make me a whore or any what. I just want to imply that he is pathetic. But if he didn't get it at all, it is fine, just leave him in his world assuming money can buy anything.

 

Thank you so much. Many many ``````````` thanks. Oh, don't know how to express myself at all.

Yes, it is not dignity. I used the wrong word but I don't know how to say it.

You think the problem is shame, yes, I must say you are right somehow. In my culture, girls have very strong sexual needs should be shameful of themselves. I always know I am more easy get aroused than most people but I don't know how to release them. All my ONSs went badly and stays as ONSs not friends with benefits.

But the worse thing is, I don't know how to say no to people. I always worried that I will hurt them. There should be a line. How can I not insist that he use condom? But in a funny way, any guy who want to have sex with me don't want to use condom, they just assume I am safe (but they used after I insisted in my last several ONS). If they have sex with some real prostitutes, will they want to do it without protection? These selfish pigs.

I should ask you guys ealier. He made me feel really bad when he refused to use condom and I almost lost my interests. If you guys told me that is how a manipulative weirdo acts, I will definitely never want to try it another time.

 

Thank you so much. You are really nice.

 

Happy to help.
The internet is a wonderful, screwed-up place. The better acquainted with it you are, the less likely you are to be hurt by it and the more likely you are to see it for the invaluable learning tool that it is. :sunny:

 

Thank you so much. You made me cry, for a little. I am so moved. Thank you again.

 

:sunny: I will ~~

 

In my case, no matter what he said in the car(unless let me pay him ), I will have sex with him. That is why I came out to see him.

And after the first sex, I felt bad and I decided not to have sex with him again. After what he said and offered~~~

The reason I tried it for second time is that I think I failed some way. I didn't ask people like right now. I just goggled oval sex and anal sex and I thought I failed to do them. I hate failing things, in any way.

But now I know I was wrong. He didn't use condom and lubricant, that is how a weirdo defines. Thank you guys and girls. I learned a lot.

 

Girl if u gone trick u best be getting paid never let no man just run up on u like dat dis america where bitches get paid fo Rollin in duh hay for yo lil asian ass u should be getting 3 tuh 5 hunned a hour

 

Never let his punk ass hit duh shit raw yo twat yo fortune make him wrap dat mess

 

Why don't I understand what you said? is it English? I really want to see every respond from any one. Would you please enlighten me in some simple English?

 

Don't have sex like a whore unless ur getting paid like a whore u can probably get like 3 to 5 hundred for an hour of ur time

 

Offers of gifts and making you feel guilty are MANIPULATION.

That means someone is trying to control your decisions.

Example: Two people are attracted to each other and want to have sex, they communicate it to each other and they have sex. This is not manipulation, it is natural attraction and healthy communication.

Now for another example (I will reverse the genders, but make it similar to your story)

A wealthy older woman sees a young man she's attracted to. She talks to him, but he is not attracted to her. She makes unwanted advances, touching him. He is not offended, but still not interested. She tells him she is rich and lonely. She's trying to manipulate him into having sex with her even though he's not interested.


While some people might enjoy getting gifts from a rich person and might be willing to give a little sex to get some nice things, you can see how the first situation is more healthy.

The first couple were EQUALS, they were both attracted to each other and interested in sex. Neither had to be convinced, how much money they had never came up in conversation.

When someone is trying to influence what you think, feel, or do; they are trying to manipulate you.

He wanted you to desire the gifts he was offering so much that you would do anything he wanted, even something that hurts like anal sex without lubricant.

He wanted you to feel guilty so you didn't feel like you DESERVED the protection of a condom.

A person like this will never be good to you. They will give you nice things, but only to get what they want and make you feel like you OWE them even more.

I had someone like this in my life. He didn't even want sex, he only wanted to be adored, get me to talk about my personal issues, and for me to feel like I owed him all for the price of a meal or a laptop or whatever little thing he knew I wanted or needed. Even though he didn't want sex it made me sick and I stopped talking to him.

Manipulative people love to manipulate. He probably got more pleasure from making you feel guilty and powerless and getting you to do things that you didn't want to than he did from the sex.

You need to empower yourself.

Say no, and say it again.