I hate kissing

No disgust with oral sex at all, giving or receiving.

And he is not a bad kisser, I hope I didn't make anyone think that. He's actually one of the least sloppy kissers I have ever met Or maybe just the first to be cautious knowing that I might heave LOL

Open mouth is definitely my least favorite, but any mouth kissing is something that I don't really enjoy. Some more tolerable than others I suppose.

I had always just looked at it like I didn't like kissing like others didn't like broccoli or feet or long fingernails. Just personal preference, but as I got older and realized that I'm the only person I know that doesn't like to kiss. I'm not sure if it's worth changing or trying to change. If it ever came to a point where it was causing relationship problems, I would definitely try working on it, but like everything else, I wouldn't ever try to make my husband like something he didn't like just because I liked it. I suppose my confession is just that I'm different than most.

 

Well, your explanation has mellowed me out since my first post. I still find it pretty exceptional,but you and your hubby seem to manage ,soooooooo----OK.

 

The tongue down the throat is just way so gross and lots of salivating, if the french kiss like that, I'm keeping zipped- I met a guy awhile ago I gave a treatment too, after a few million phone calls to me I caved in and went for a drink with him. Cut a strange story short he was the worst kisser and at 40 something I was amazed no woman had taught or guided him,. So in a gentle kind way I told him it was not doing anything for me and it's just not how I like it. After him chasing me for a months we met up again and I decided I would teach him. He was really chuffed, I told him we are not gunna ever be together or have sex and he accepted that, I really hope he kisses more now with intent rather than just not feeling the energy of that person and ramming and dribbling all over the next poor girl!

I like to think I did it for woman everywhere mwhaaa.... :daisy:

Unless you can think of a reason, like an abuse that took place in your life I feel Meniai is right not everything is a psychological issue, just like I don't like certain sexual practices and others may love it..

You are a rare and beautiful woman azalea_mae its good to have a quirk!

 

Everyone's different from most. We'd be a lot more boring if we weren't. I don't think it could hurt to try to learn to enjoy it a little more, or explore why it bothers you so, as you are doing now. However, I don't know that I would say it's required, as you and your husband seem happy enough as is.

 

I'm sure every woman that he kissed from that day forward would thank you if they knew!

I don't think I've ever suffered from any type of abuse. Or at least none that I recall. Probably the worst thing that ever happened in my childhood was getting spanked, and it happened 3 times that I remember. I was taught to respect others, work hard, and enjoy life. My parents were divorced, but were amicable and I spent a great deal of time with both. I went to school, had friends, played sports, dated, worked after school and through the summer on the farm or at a second job in the nearest town. Pretty normal I suppose.

And thank you It's definitely not my only quirk, but probably the weirdest one I have LOL

 

That's unusual. Hopefully for him you make up for it with oral sex or something haha. I can't think of any advice. I would say maybe you two don't kiss right, but it sounds more as if it just repulses you, even thinking about it.

 

hahaha he gets all the oral sex he could ever want

 

How do you not like kissing? I've literally made out for over 3 hours straight, many times.. lol

 

Seems like anxiety problem to me.

I didn't used to like kissing either until I was with my current boyfriend. I feel butterflies and his love in every kiss.

 

well, some people have literally watched MTV for over 3 hours straight, many times, yet i don't like doing that..

 

I can't think of anything, other than sleep that I could do for 3 hours straight. I don't have the attention span required.

And it definitely could be anxiety issues, but I don't think I could ever feel butterflies when kissing anyone, unless it was nausea causing it. I feel his love in a lot of different ways....when he hugs me, or gives me that certain look, or when he completely stops watching a movie when I come in the room, and I don't even have to be naked LOL. I think there is more to showing affection/emotions than just kissing. Or maybe I'm just trying to justify why it's okay that I don't like it.

 

I usually can't do anything for 3 hours straight at all, but it never even feels like 3 hours...

We'll put in a movie, start kissing, then the next thing we know the movies over and so we just press 'restart'.. then the next thing we know, the movies over again... lol

 

I love kissing, we used to have kissing contests at parties and they were a blast. Great way to meet girls and break the ice. I have to admit I won my fair share of the contest. I can still remember some of the better kissers. There was one I could kiss for hours easily.

 

You know, I have had that same problem in the past. For me, it's the intimacy of it. Kissing is much more intimate than sex. I can put myself in another place in my mind while having sex...not kissing. I was like this for a few years, but I wasn't happy in my relationship, my husband refused to try to fix the relationship because he didn't believe anything was wrong. Seriously, it used to turn my stomach to kiss him. All of this, led me to kissing someone else, who I had no problem kissing. It caused a horrible time in my marriage, but it was the best thing that could have happened to us. We're together, we're happy and he now realizes something really was wrong.