I Have No Friends

i always wanted to be a hermit, and live in the woods and make baskets and stuff. i used to dream that i dug a cave in this little embankment in my yard, but when i tried it it didn't work. now i have more knowledge, and i design ways of building secret 'caves' and buildings and other such things.
i can't help it, i am my best friend, because no one else understands me, and my mom is my #1 confidant.

and joker, i love that you used ignant, its one of my favorite non words!

 

well maybe there's one more that understands ya now

 

I am not a hermit!

I happen to possess some fine qualities, such as charisma and charm. Not to mention I am a stone cold fox.

 

aww, you are such a good internet friend joker!

 

Fuck that... Joker is a good human being. Who knows what peril the world may have been subjected to... had Joker not been born.

Thanks Joker.

 

it sounds like you took that as sarcastic, but it wasn't.

and the peril would have been much too perilous without Joker.

 

Me? Take things sarcastic?
Gosh, no... I don't even have the ability to amiably joke around.

 

I don't know if that's what he meant... Some of the posts seemed a little bleak and woeful, he was just trying to empathise, you don't need to jusitfy yourself or your choices I totally get where you're coming from though, I know quite a lot of people who I'd call friends but prefer to do my own thing most of the time. I actively enjoy going to pubs, concerts, clubs etc alone, you meet more folks and end up experiencing more than you might have done with the same old faces (and you get laid more hah). Plus the group mentality thing grates me somewhat, it's nicer to do your own thing as opposed to going along with the herd, less responsiblity, more freedom. Saying all that though, it's important to not shut yourself off from people entirely- there are genuinely nice people out there (honestly!) and spending too long without any real meaningful relationships (romantic or otherwise) or social exchanges and interactions can make a person bitter and cold, even if they don't realise it.

To the OP: I can't really understand where you're at completely because all I know of the US High School system is what a hundred 1980s movies have told me, but I understand it can be quite cliquey and bitchy.. Do little things, compliment someone on a feature about them, something they're wearing, a band you like in common.. Buy someone a coffee at lunch, if you eavesdrop an interesting conversation throw your two cents in and most of all smile If you walk around smiling and walking tall, acting confident etc it'll help no end. If people just see someone moping around, eyes on the floor, walkman on etc it makes people less likely to come up and talk to you!

 

^^ if all you know is from 80's movies, then you have no idea. the only way i got through high school was to act as though i was separate. no one would move aside in the hallways, so i developed a gliding walk that allowed me to move without being noticed. my HS was primarily gang bangers, morons, and latinos that acted better than me. maybe they were, but none of them ever deigned to talk to a ' white girl'. once, when i was called a white girl, i looked at my hand and when " no shit! i thought i was purple! thanks for clearing that up!"
i hate people who think they're better than me, they don't even KNOW me!

acting confident nearly got me beat up, twice, for no reason. acting invisible kept me alive.

 

Populartiy, look

Friends arn't that hard to make.

Look for people who do drugs (prefereably weed cus tweekers are tweekers), then buy drugs and share your drugs with them. Simple as that. Make friends through drugs, works for me. The good part is when people start becomming your friends and they give you drugs too.

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And yea I'm in highschool

 

Ooer, it was kind of meant as a tongue in cheek comment re: movies but I getcha...

My impressions of the US schooling system is very harsh, I have no experience but it seems really nasty and snide and full of pressure. That whole "don't back down to a fight" violent mentality and the whole sports aggression "be the best" thing being pushed seems like a terrible way to give your children a balanced start in life, as is bitchyness and materialism seemingly prevalent among the girls. No wonder many american kids end up shooting their schools up, the system and status quo has made them disturbed by its very nature.

Sorry if my advice was detrimental, I just thought things like smiling and acting confident might be a good thing... Maybe I was wrong... But I would never say to live in the shadows and be constantly scared or intimidated because that's you admitting they've won. Get your ass kicked and pull yourself back up and walk on, fuck 'em, it's not you that's got the problem or the idiocy, there's got to be some likeminded persons around? No?

Big love xx

 

If I were you I'd only go after girls. I find that girls are much more outgoing and like to be talked to even if you don't know them. Well atleast the ones I know do.

And besides, you can't fuck a guy.... Well you could but lets not go there.

 

Why dont you look up groups that revolve around your interests?
Like meditation groups, local music or art, gaming or literature etc.
I've met a ton of cool people going to deeksha and meditation sessions,
and playing in bands, helping set up for shows etc.
Though the only friends I have now are one I've known since I was born
and the other is my cousin lol, but that's because I had a child and
took the family raising route, having discovered that you are lucky to
even have one true friend, and the rest of the people are just fun to
get high and bullshit with. Trust me, they will screw you over sooner
or later, even extended family can be shitty to you if the situatiion
presents itself.

 

I have about 3 friends.

I'm happy with that though.

 

that's what hipchats for

 

I havnt had ALOT of freinds throughout high school but i go through phases with one freind or another... I go to parties and shit everyonce in a while cuz that shits fun but ussually just chillin with a few close freind is just as good... As for your stiuation i dunno what to suggest that hasnt already been said but if there are clubs and sports teams at your school i would suggest joining some of those to meet people

 

that was me too.. i usually just stayed non-confrontational with people.. though my school was a different mix.. mostly hicks, wiggers and jocks

 

we had a north parking lot (smokers and stoners, and druggies) and a south parking lot (gang bangers, jocks, and other ' better than you' people) then some asshole in administration got the brilliant idea to make the south parking lot for teachers only. so all of the jocks/ gang bangers who were already starting fights with the stoners had to be in the same area. it was horrible, everybody wanted a fight. at least the stoners fight fair.

and it is not a good way to raise kids. if i hadn't been ostracized before high school, i never would have made it. then when during the middle of my junior year, i decided i really didn't care what anybody thought. i started making my own clothes,i looked like a nut job, but they were comfy, and people stayed away from me. the problem is that being smart, or different, or talented has a stigma, everyone wants to be 'normal' and to fit in. most people are stifled in such an environment. everyone has a talent or an aptitude that could help them learn or be successful, but no one is around to help identify those aptitudes. everyone gets crammed into the same mold. and then those people who want to go to college can't always afford it, so when you have the choice of what classes to take, what field to embrace, you have to pull out your wallet or beg for money.

 

that's why if i have kids.. i will put them in a chartered school..

 

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