I have no idea what to do...

i dunno about that. and about the me being her only friend part... not really? i know she has other guys who she talks to and basically uses (as far as i know), but idk if they really care about her or if she confides in them or what ever you wanna call it.

 

By the looks of it, you are maybe 16-17, it seems.

So my advice to you is to just drop it, let her go. In five years you probably won't even remember her name or many details about her and you'll laugh at the experience. In the mean time, just meet lots of other people.

You are in the friend zone, at best, and she comes to you to brag about her conquests (other men). She knows you like her, and it is cruel and disrespectful to flaunt the names (and stories) of other men in front of you. This won't turn out good.

 

yeah idk. your probably right. ill have to wait and see i guess. :|

 

NEVER TALK TO HER AGAIN.

problem solved.

 

yeah thats probably whats going to happen. im just waiting for the opportune moment...

i will let her decide, and she will probably decide to never talk to me again.

 

nah, she'll let this go on forever. you're the one who's not getting anything out of the relationship.

 

no i mean, after school lets out and its summer time where im never gonna see her unless we intentionally call eachother to hang out... im just going to ignore her until she trys talking to me, and once she does im going to tell her that i dont want to talk to her until she decides if im worth her time or not.

and im 90% sure shell decide that im not and move on and never talk to me again.

but what ever. im not gonna let this go on.... i just cant do it yet because im still going to be seeing her alot for the next few days.

 

sound like a good idea? bad idea? idfk...

 

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It is a GREAT idea to not talk to her. Do it! But don't give her the power to decide anything, at all. That is a bad idea. If she calls you, tell her you are busy, simple as that, nothing more.

Maybe you can go travel somewhere else for a bit (like a road trip), go see something new, meet new people.

Summer vacation is the perfect opportunity to just get her out of your life.

 

.... why?

why wouldnt i let her decide it? its something i want but i cant MAKE her do anything. and i am going on a vacation eventually but im not going to be meeting new people. i dont even look for people. she came to me.

 

not a terrible idea, but i agree that you'll probably be better off just saying you're busy as cff suggested.

if you give her the power, she'll most likely just say what you want to hear and then keep on the same path.

 

Lmao guys still talk about this power bullshit? Its kind of funny. Seriously if there is gonna be a relationship there is no power, just two people working together. If a person is going for power, why not just try getting rich? It would probably be easier then trying to get power in a relationship.

It seems to me that she has already made her decision. She doesn't want to be with you, so give it up and start doing things for yourself. You are the only one who can choose to think about her, you're choosing it so you have to choose not to think about her. If something reminds you of her do something else. You have to act like she never even existed. Her name is no longer in your vocabulary. This is the advice I got from my friend after a rough break up. It works, but you really have to work at it or it won't.

 

My point is, don't let her be in control of anything. Be indifferent. I wouldn't even contact her to ask her what she wants. My advice is to cease all contact man.

Suit yourself dude.

My only advice is to do as much "New" as you can.

 

lmao girls still think they know anything about relationships?

 

well... i mean, i like her i dont just wanna never have contact with her again if theres something i can do about it...

i agree with sophie, as in here i dont see any "power" its making a decision. THE decision. i dont have any power to change it one way or another as i see it, she can only do that... and i dont think she will say what i want to hear becuase shes already told me what i dont want to hear....

I know im just really confused. She gives off different vibes. Sometimes it seems like she likes me other times she seems like she ignores me. I really think she has to like me but maybe she just doenst want to get into something and have to end it (well she thinks she would have to end it) personally i think we could work something out but i dont think she thinks she can...

 

there is something you can do about it: keep being her gayboy while she sleeps around with everyone else. otherwise, let her go.

i know "power" wasn't the best word to use previously; i was having trouble articulating myself on that post and that's just how it came out. the point is, you need to man up and make THE decision yourself instead of leaving it up to her.

basically, if you leave it up to her nothing will ever happen. if you make your own decision to have nothing to do with her, nothing will happen now and there is a very slight chance that something may happen with her sometime in the future, but only if you truly move on right now.

 

... ok if i leave it up to her nothing will happen...

and you think that me taking her out of my life and forgetting her will help me more in the future with having something happen... how does that work out?

-- and i just think my idea would be best for now. letting her think about it. whys it that bad. if she doesnt come out with what i want THEN is when i will get her out of my life... i should at least give her another chance?

 

i'm talking about if you run into her a couple years down the road here. at least she'll remember you as someone who takes his life into his own hands instead of just leaving it up to her.

it's your decision, if you want to let her decide then do it. honestly, i'm extremely bad at relationships myself. i'm just offering my opinions based on having been in similar situations in the past.

 

maybe. idk what shes doing. shes going "out of state" for college and may decide to stay there for all i know. its out of state yeah but not that far...
so its possible that id never see her if i forget about her. and if i forgot about her like legit completely forget about her it wouldnt be the same. cause i would have stopped liking her (if the whole forgetting thing works)

well thank you for you opinions. a friend of mine has also given me some input on it even though hes horrible with them too, hes still been in the same situations and kinda helped me understand some shit. or atleast feel better about it knowing im not the only one lol...