'I like older guys'

Ha. Dudes like me?

 

PFft, you act like girls work with logic and reason.

 

Only the ones worth the bother

 

What does it matter what they say? Doesn't mean they won't fuck you if you have a place and a bottle of Red Label.

 

:frown:

 

what?..too cheap to throw in a bag of chips?

 

Sure, but so what? It is true, that older, mature men would prefer someone their age and experience, but that doesn't change the way people feel. I'll refer to the movie Elegy (although fiction, the characters are believable and appropriate for this conversation). An older professor falls in love with one of his students. This man is very stable, very intelligent, but he still feels love for this much younger woman (and she feels the same). I believe that such a thing is possible.

Of course, if you are talking about 15 year old girls talking about love in such a way, then of course, I can only agree with you. However, as stated earlier in the thread, they want that sense of comfort from the control the man will have. It's safe. Maybe the girls are immature, but who wouldn't want to be someone who offers that kind of safe place? Most girls want a man who is mature, who knows what they want in life, and so is more likely to stick around than younger men (mature or not) who still want to experience the world.

I, personally, would much rather be with a man my age who is mature. But it seems that even the more mature ones don't know what they want and act so. Someone who I thought was someone who I could trust, who I thought felt the way I did, disappointed me, so I know that I would rather be with someone older because they had their experiences and now know what they want. This may never happen for me, but that is the kind of man I want.

EDIT: I think I'm becoming that person you asked not to post, Zorba. Taking offense to it, when perhaps, it doesn't apply to me. However, like I stated, immature girls still have the desire for a man who feels safe. And perhaps a more mature man would not want to be with an immature girl, in general, it's still possible I think. One never knows.

 

Yes, but you forget that in Elegy the professor didn't know what he wanted. He was infatuated with the girl, she excited him, but he wasn't really in love with her. He still had strong feelings for his wife, and didn't know what to do. He was just as lost as she was; in fact, the movie presented him as being less sure of himself than she was. She comforted him, not the other way around.

And I see a bit of a problem with wanting an older man because he makes you feel safe. It's the old thing where a woman is looking for someone to be her father more than to be her equal partner. Wanting someone to take care of you is never a good thing in a romantic relationship.

 

I agree with this... regardless of age, you should be looking for a partner(s) in life, not a caregiver.

 

Dude, I can brood about the shortcomings of gender roles more than anyone on this Earth; to the point where I'll be close to suicide. They are like the matrix; women will see things the exact opposite way as we do, for the most part. For the remainder of your life, that will be the case.


However, we have a decision to make. Do we want to fix society, or do we want to fuck us some women?
If it's the latter you actually want, then know that it can be done without letting the social aspect get in the way. All you have to do is let go of their validation, and take the pussy.

Now, if it's a wife you want...then I feel sorry for you.

 

i dont give a shit what the reasoning is...if a young[more than legal] girl chooses to give me the ultimate gift....i am there

and i will treat her like a goddess until our time is done

 

I'm not interested in fixing society or fucking a bunch of chicks. Believe me, if it was just sex I wanted there are plenty of easy girls around. I'm more interested in connecting with people, which is something you don't seem to be able to relate to.

Regardless, this was meant as an observation about people in general. It's never caused me any problems in actual or potential relationships.

 

You're sounding very much like a pussywhip. What's all this stuff about ultimate gift and goddess?

Sheesh! It's just sex.

 

Alright, so my question to you is: Why women? Why can't you connect with men as friends and leave it at that if it's not sex you're interested in?

Edit: I do connect with women, just not like I connect with men. If I expected to connect the same way, I'd be even more unhappy than I am now. :biggrin:

 

Well I'm talking about romantic relationships here. A sexual relationship is obviously a big part of that connection, but by no means the definitive part.

 

well maybe he likes to pamper

 

I didn't read many responses but the OP is amazing.

I have had this situation where a girl who was 21 was dating this much older guy in a 'platonic relationship' and I came along being 23 at the time, i guess somehow didn't appear as mature as her. We were amazing together and i've rarely felt such a connection with anyone and it was one of those things i can't imagine it having gone one way. I would say we were at about the same physical attractiveness level (i've even dated girls fair amount better looking than her) and same socio economic status level and I don't know she just went for the older guy. It really does have to be a sense of security thing in that instance or some sort of unresolved daddy issue.

 

Aww. :biggrin:

 

It sounds like you're figuring it out as you go along. Nowhere in your original post did you mention romantic...

And, for your information, coming from a 32 year-old, young chicks don't want anything romantic from us. Just free drinks (#1!) and sex!

 

thats such bullshit. i dont know what kind of women you're meeting but id love to have a healthy relationship right now, its just so many dumb asses out there that just want sex