I need a girlfriend.

I dont mind the drunk part but it's when she gets destroyed and isn't making sense and I'm just sitting there high as fuck (I dont drink) and she's blabbering on about how I should switch my shampoo.

 

just because theirs no gf bf label, deffinetely doesnt make it any less complicated then a regular relationship....they usually end up with drama.

fuck buddies..boyfriends...anything that has to do with men....just pretty much ends up in more hurt then good.

i just want to find a good guy, not argue everyday, and fall in love, lol...

 

I see some of my friends, with their girlfriends... and all I can think about is how I'd go completely fucken insane if I had to deal with them on an everyday basis.

If you really want a girlfriend... do yourself a favour... never settle for just anyone. Make sure it's someone you are actually fascinated with.

 

i hate the situation ay....it sucks and to make it worse most of my mates have girlfriends

 

No you don't.

You just need to get laid.

GF's want too much. Once you get laid and get your rocks off, you'll get over it.

Until you get horny again.

Then just repeat the process and everything will be fine again.

 

So, there is no need for emotional intimacy?

Jesis.

Anyway, immediately after I broke up with my last serious girlfriend-girlfriend, I was so disgusted by it all that when I'd see a couple together I'd get that horrible feeling again, of not having my freedom.

I'd shudder and go, "ugh."

Especially holding hands. I'm still freaked out by hand-holding just because that relationship was SO claustrophobic.

 

I think the one thing that kills all relationships is this cultural delusion of someone being someone else's property (which dates back thousands of years in this patriarchal dominated world), this creates a "property right" which leads to jealousy (and in extreme cases...spousal abuse, stalking, etc.)

This is why most of my friends who swingers or have an extremely honest role-playing sex life are much more intimate and closer.

They see each other as PEOPLE not property.

 

I understand.

BUT, all relationships also have some kind of commitment, not necessarily sexual, and you give emotional priority to someone over others.

Swinging is a great mystery.

I think I'd like to take breaks. Just take breaks and then get back to being sexually committed.

 

I also don't think I'd want to share an apartment with anyone. With the possible exception of raising kids.

 

Swingers are some of the most committed people I know.

 

Relationships are complex and don't always work out, for a lot of reasons. That point seems shallow to me.

 

I am really tired of relationships drama, you can't escape it really.

 

Of course you can AquaLight, as long as you are with a good person. The events that might cause drama will still occur. All that matters is how you and she deal with it. Just don't be a little bitch about things and things won't be little bitches for you.

 

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awsome, but it's okay you can lick my face.

 

to you? explain...

stamp collecting? train watching?

 

Then it's pretty clear to me what you must do.

Do you think you like her more then he does? If you do you're the better man.

So you have two options.

 

Even if thinks he does, he is not in a position to make this judgement.

I see pressuring girls who already have a boyfriend to go out with you instead as a bad way to start a relationship. When she is good and ready not to be with him, then is the time to let his feelings be known.

 

Hmmm I need a boyfriend...I think I'm finally tired of being single.

 

I need a fuck buddy, not a boyfriend.
I cant be in a relationship.