I need a reason.

You sound very secure and level headed!!!

 

Ms. Thang, I have been with women who were taller than me, independent, statuesque, and one of them probably pays more in taxes each year than you'll ever have in your bank account. Never abused, tried to control them or anything.

I remember your posts about your friend and how jealous you were of her. Even if a guy meets your standards, he might could be put off by your narcissism. Take it for what it's worth.

On the other hand, I do agree that perhaps most men might feel "intimidated" by a woman that earns more than them, or something. But I don't think it's just intimidation. It's the fact that men feel the social pressure to be stronger, and more successful than women.

And guess what, you contribute to the pattern of female inferiority when you won't date someone who's shorter and earns less than you, and yet you're ok with someone who's taller and more successful than you are.

 

I have no problem dating somone my height as long as they are secure with it. What I despise is guys who are so insecure that I am forbidden to wear heels and they always seem insecure with me in public. It's like hmmm...if you can't handle it leave because I am not ditching my manolos for your insecurities.

I don't think every guy feels intimidated by me. I just know that some guys need girls who are the same as them in terms of looks and such. I mean who can blame them? I would never date a guy who was way better looking than me. I just have a few exes who moved on from me with girls who are not so great looking and who are a bit more needy and will do what they say because they're just so happy to have a boyfriend. They're happier and more secure that way. I think it's great for them I mean everyone deserves someone. I just know I'm not going to be the kinda girl who is going to give up being fantastic just because I am dating someone who isn't.
And yeah I have quite a few friends who i am envious of. I don't let it dictate my life or my friendships. But yeah my friends who are taller than me, thinner, have the motivation to work out twice a day hell yeah I am jealous. I am happy for them, but would love to be that self-disciplined myself.
I'm not narcisitic. I just work hard and set the tone for how I want people to treat me. If I don't value myself who will? You teach people how to treat you.

 

Oh and concerning income. I am not too concerned over it. I just cut my hours back to 3/4 time. If I was really concerned about money I wouldn't have done that and taken a reduction in pay.

 

Have a look on eBay.

 

I have to say it: There is nothing wrong with being alone. Not being in a relationship is totally healthy and probably better for you than a dysfunctional one.

Meh. If you haven't found the right person, don't worry about it. It seems like you know what you want, so if I were you I would plan on making a life for yourself instead of dwelling on your past and your misfortunes with love and relationships. In the whole scheme of things, it's just not all that important as most people make it out to be.

 

Everything happens for a reason. All is good. Oprah gave me the secret
No I'm playing, kinda, that secret stuff is cool and I'm tipsy.

 

the first rule of oprahs secret is dont talk about oprahs secret