i think im gonna try to get pregnant

A girl I grew up with tried to get pregnant when she was about 16 or so. She had a terrible life. Abused at home, her mom pretty much just ignored her most of the time and the rest of the time she was yelling at her for some stupid shit...a fucked up home life all in all.
I asked her why she wanted to bring a baby into such a hostile environment and she said she just wanted something to love her. To love her and accept her. She was such a sad and lonely and unloved girl...and all she wanted was for someone to love her and need her and want to be with her.

You gotta have a baby for the right reasons. And you gotta get your shit together. No one gets pregnant and plans to be a bad mother, but it happens. It happens a lot more then people are willing to admit it seems.
Some people just SHOULDN'T have kids. It's a privilege, NOT a luxury. We have to have a license to drive...so why not a license to procreate?

 

I really understand where you are at right now. My husband keeps metioning he wants to have one. I am actually late right now, but took a test and it was negative. I don't think I am ready yet. I need to go back to school first, and well I dont really want to work either. So I see where you are coming from. But I was always told you can never plan for a baby. And if you try to plan, you will just wait forever. I know lots of people my age who would critize me if I was to get pregnant without finishing school or even having a steady job.But everyones life is different. But I also know lots that were my age and my position who had childern and are doing wonderfully. Every child is a blessing though my eyes. If you were to all of a sudden pregnant, no matter what bad habits you might have, would be surley kicked out for good because the care you would have for the unborn child. I know lots of people who had drinking problems and smoked and quit just like that, and never went back. Best of luck in what ever you decide to do

 

Yeah, i have known people like that. luckily for me... i have MUCH love for myself and I've been absolutly blessed with lots of loving people in my life.

I really just wanna give some love back.

 

thanks sweetsoul... it's good that someone understands. i have known lots of people like that too and some of them are the best mothers ever!

and retro... when ever i do have a baby, i will let you be an aunt. you're so sweet.

 

Welcome..I very well understand not being understood

 

ha! me too...

and colenzo...you're funny

 

I adore my children, but it's been rough trying to get back on my feet with them. I'm not telling you NOT to have one, because for all we know a baby might just be exactly what you need to help you get your life together. All I'm saying is try to make sure you're financially stable before you have one....babies get expensive, so if you're struggling now it'll be a real bitch trying to stay on top after it is born.

You wouldn't wanna end up moving back in with your parents or anything.

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck with it!

And enjoy sleeping now while you still can.

 

Thats cool but even thought kids are cool and shit. I here they can be a bitch and 1/2.