I told my selfish boyfriend im not having sex again unless I cum, am I wrong?

I'm sad to hear this, to bad I can't help.

 

Hi Sillysweet, how are you working on this?

best of luck!

 

Please don't stop having sex! Dump the selfish bastard, let him jerk for a while.

 

You are absolutely in your right to stand your ground with this. Your boyfriend sounds like he is very selfish and I would be surprised if this is the only area in the relationship that has issues caused by this. Keep it up, don’t let him bully you into missing out on sexual gratification. It’s a two way street, if he is not mature enough to understand that then abstaining should do the trick.

 

You are absolutely in your right to stand your ground with this. Your boyfriend sounds like he is very selfish and I would be surprised if this is the only area in the relationship that has issues caused by this. Keep it up, don’t let him bully you into missing out on sexual gratification. It’s a two way street, if he is not mature enough to understand that then abstaining should do the trick.

 

You already know that you should dump his ass. If it’s like this starting out, is it going to get better or worse? You can do a lot better than this guy, believe me!

 

You need to find one of the many men who love to lick.

Why any man would stick his penis in there without first enjoying it with his tongue is beyond me. When I am with a woman whose gaze tickles my spirit, whose voice soothes my heart, whose touch makes me tingle all over, I so look forward to feeling her thighs pressed to my ears, her labia pressed to my lips, and her clit pressed to my tongue. I long for it. And not out of a sense of duty, but because it makes me feel loved, as though she has cradled my heart in her palms. That it tends to make the possessor of that vulva climax (often more than once) — well that, to me, is just a very happy side effect. When I’m done, I feel as though I have worshipped at her altar. Her taste and fragrance lingering inside my head reminds me of how deeply I feel about her.

Why would a woman stick with a man who doesn’t feel that way about his going down on her? I don’t know. Why a man would refuse to take his pleasure in that way? The only legitimate excuse would be because he’s gay. The not so legitimate reasons are that he doesn’t value her, does not feel her soul touching his, doesn’t long for her presence by his side, just wants her as a receptacle for his jizz.

To the lady who started this thread, don’t stay another minute with that man. Don’t be satisfied with being his sex toy. There’s someone out there who will worship you and who will share all the abundance of joy there is for sharing.

 

You need to find one of the many men who love to lick.

Why any man would stick his penis in there without first enjoying it with his tongue is beyond me. When I am with a woman whose gaze tickles my spirit, whose voice soothes my heart, whose touch makes me tingle all over, I so look forward to feeling her thighs pressed to my ears, her labia pressed to my lips, and her clit pressed to my tongue. I long for it. And not out of a sense of duty, but because it makes me feel loved, as though she has cradled my heart in her palms. That it tends to make the possessor of that vulva climax (often more than once) — well that, to me, is just a very happy side effect. When I’m done, I feel as though I have worshipped at her altar. Her taste and fragrance lingering inside my head reminds me of how deeply I feel about her.

Why would a woman stick with a man who doesn’t feel that way about his going down on her? I don’t know. Why a man would refuse to take his pleasure in that way? The only legitimate excuse would be because he’s gay. The not so legitimate reasons are that he doesn’t value her, does not feel her soul touching his, doesn’t long for her presence by his side, just wants her as a receptacle for his jizz.

To the lady who started this thread, don’t stay another minute with that man. Don’t be satisfied with being his sex toy. There’s someone out there who will worship you and who will share all the abundance of joy there is for sharing.

 

Stick to your guns! If you stay with him, you’re just delaying the inevitable!

 

Dump the asshole and find someone that will eat you until you have a couple orgasms and then fuck you until he has his!! That's how I do it.

 

You’re not his masturbation toy. I loathe giving certain advice, having been through several heart-wrenching breakups in my life.

Let’s look at it this way- can you imagine living your entire life, growing old and everything, like this? Bad, fast sex where he gets off and you don’t??

If you couldn’t bring yourself to orgasm, it would be a much different story, but since it appears that you’re able to do that- and it also appears you are able to orgasm from sex when enough attention is paid- you earn the right to demand orgasmic sex.

Let’s face it, some guys are just Minutemen. They don’t last very long. But at least they can use their hands, their mouth, sex toys, etc. to continue and to get you off. It also seems like there’s a big disconnect between his words and his actions. Someone who truly loves someone enough that they want kids with them, loves the other person enough to want that person to experience as much pleasure as possible.

Him not caring about your pleasure is not only neglectful, it’s actually sadistic. It’s a power play, he keeps you around and uses you as his sex toy to get off, but you don’t get anything. He’s essentially telling you “you exist as my pleasure object”; whenever he is nice or caring to you, that’s just a “transaction cost” of keeping and maintaining the sex toy (you!).

It’s possible he comes from a deeply religious evangelical family or otherwise, where female pleasure is “wrong“ or “dirty”; so I would consider this before engaging in the line of thinking above. As it’s possible it’s not because he’s a selfish narcissistic bastard; maybe he was just raised really really wrongly.

If you know he grew up fairly normally, or just in a normal religious family, not a crazy one, it’s probably him. In that case, it seems like you’ve tried, you’re so exasperated you’re coming to total strangers on the Internet for help, which is fine, there’s nothing wrong with that. Some guys just don’t give a crap about their partners pleasure, and that sad all around. These people do not (truly) love their partners otherwise they would at least try. Some people don’t understand what love is, or they confuse it for affection, or liking having someone around for their sex needs. Remember- LOVE is patient, love is kind.

I don’t expect you’ll get much anything different out of him in the future, is what I’m trying to say. Even if he does one or two times try helping you. I’m just gonna tell you what other people might not, and attentive and loving sex is important to you, and it seems it is, you’ll probably want to start looking elsewhere to get that. While you’re still young and don’t have kids with him.

 

I am at the point where I wonder if there is anything new with regard to your sexual pleasure or your selfish boyfriend. If he is not selfish like he used to be with you.

 

Shit LOL that’s for the OP. Sorry

 

It's important to go to lengths to pleasure your partner: Even when I was in the latter half of 6th grade I was already starting to get into fingering and licking pussy. One technique I learned early on was to kiss my way down her body towards her pussy.

 

Think its fair as long as your still into it etc..nothing nicer that making a woman cum