I wanna ask out this girl...

movies are great for second dates... on the first it's awkward because you have two hours of not talking (unless you talk through movies, which always pisses me off, lol)

how about you do somethign fun and creative... teach her how to skateboard or play guitar or go swimming or something. Go painting together. Spraypaint something, or go to a pottery place. Fuck if I know, but something other than the standard set of things. I really like hte picnic idea though... the creative thing afterwards should be a backup in case the date goes well and ya'll wanna continue along with it, otherwise let it end after hte picnic and see if a second date is in order

 

Haha no not directly ...
I just saw for a second time , at some party last friday, a really awesome girl ...

And we ended up making out
So yeah, i talked to her on the phone and blah blah but i didn't find interesting to say

Anyway, i hope i will see her again soon ...

 

I have to say I agree with you about the movie. Seems doing something like playing miniature golf or ANYTHING interactive would be better than that for a first date. That is the shitty part, there isn't anything like that I can think of in our town.

Thanks for the suggestions! I will deffinately bring my acoustic guitar along "just in case".

 

Start a sing-a-long date
I mean you and yer date could sing around a campfire or something

(This advice comes from a guy who's never been on a date btw )

 

i dunno 'bout you, but around here there are a number of small cafes. If you're lucky enough to have 'em then just ask her to get a bite or some coffee with ya. It gives you plenty of time to talk and chances are if you look around there will be plenty of interesting things that will be good conversation starters/goers.

 

oooh, you could bring a book of art by some famousy folks (or non famous folks) and discuss what you like/dislike about it too

maybe
Might seem too snobby though, or something. *Shrugs*

 

man...this thread reminds me how nerve wrecking it can be to go out on dates and i have only gone out on a few in my life...

 

It's the butterflies that you will remember and cherish forever. And you will experience them again and again and again as long as you let wonderfulness into your life. You must live on the far side of the moon if you only hook up with her once a week or so. I feel for you. Sure this is a good one to start on? Must be if you're going to this much effort to work it out. Well, it sounds like you're got yourself pumped, psyched and motivated about asking her out. So, now you've just got to...do it! DON"T do it over the internet! This one has to be face-to-face. Me? I'd make the first date simple. Ease into it since you're not experienced at this sort of thing. Meet for a slider and planks and a cool flick. If you're sincere about her and it was meant to be, you'll figure it out. No good book has ever been written on this, so flounder around like the rest of us..and have fun. You have a lot of experimenting to do, and life is the perfect Lab. Enjoy!

 

Wow, profound statements! I wasn't planning on doing it over the internet, I was planning on doing it Wednesday (next time I will see her).

 

good luck brother

 

Thanks!

 

I would just ask her out if I were you because I mean your just asking her out on a date not like its a marriage proposal right? and you have to start at some point so go ahead take the plunge and ask her... and for a first date dont worry about going alll out like go to a park or something or a hike I dont know.. go to a record store and pick out cds and like create soundtracks to life in whatever town it is that you live in.. go sit in a coffee shop and sit by the door and trip people when they come in.. oh wait scratch that thats more of like a buddy thing ... hmm well anyways good luck

 

Learn to polka Good energy and really easy (all it is is "hop-step-step"). Waltz is the same but is a "glide-step-step"

And no, I don't think it is too intimate. If you don't know each other super-dee-duper well it give you a chance to talk which you can't do at a movie...

I like this idea. It is random and lets you know a lot about the other person...

Same here. I've only ever been on one, and that was to a movie. Well , I guess you *might* count skating with Sarah, but it wasn't intended as a date, we were just hanging out

 

I actually just remembered that my town has a bowling alley (I TOTALLY just forgot this, even though I was just there like, friday, hahaha). I think I would feel more comfortable as a first date going here for the following reasons:

To my understanding, this is a neutral territory for both of us, because I am no pro, and from what I understand, neither is she.
It gives plenty of oppertunities to talk in a lighthearted way but also offers chances of being close (if I could show her a better way to throw the ball, and the jukebox could give oppertunity for dancing).
It is a place that both offers the conveniances of a public place like other people being around, and there are many things to talk about, while at the same time no one cares what we are doing and will leave us alone.
It offers a few activities that are both fun and give us the chance to learn more about each other (game room, bowling, jukebox.)

Then afterwards go eat someplace.

How does that sound? any suggestions as far as that goes? criticism? Anything like that?

 

Oh and not to mention, it tends to get hot outside here, and I don't think getting all hot and sticky outside sounds like a good plan, does it?

Question for ladies: Does turning off my cell phone in front of her send the message: "Right now, I am interested in YOU and I don't care who calls!" or not? Or what if I had an incoming call and said, "Oh I forgot to turn this off" and ignore the call and turn it off send that message, or better than the other way, or what?

 

just turn the cell off ahead of time, no need to make a big show of it. It's basic politeness, and I'd be offended if someone left their cell on during our first date

bowling alley.... ehhh.... well, just remember I'm one of those nuts who really doesn't enjoy bowling

 

Thats rather lame.....but then again i cant talk

You should have to think about things like that

 

Don't do it! Women are like vampires, they'll suck every bit of life out of you then discard your remains.

 

but it's fun while we suck the life out of men :X

 

Oh, okay! Thanks for warning me!