I'm a 21 yr old male virgin, how do I get over my insecurities?

Get a hooker? ffs what happened to the first time being 'special' awkward and complicated is a part of the experience embrace it!

Ive been with a big guy 23 stone and another who was a blonde dreaded surfer muscle bound dude

Guess which one was disappointing in the bedroom, its about loving giving and sharing thats sexy !

Communication and laughter is the best in the bedroom, if you have those 2 things in mind then you cant fail ....

Body marks and scars are a TURN ON! It means ur real, a little bit of nervousness and lack of confidence is ok, why come across all big headed and cock sure? Be yourself, because your beautiful
xxx

 

even with a hooker, the first time is going to be pretty awkward...

the first time being "special" is something stupid they tell little girls to keep them from having sex in high school. it's just sex.

besides, my first time was with some slut i never saw again who i had absolutely no feelings for whatsoever, and it was still special.

well, a vast majority of women, particularly women OP's age, decide who they're willing to have sex with almost entirely based on how confident the guy appears to them. getting the awkward first time out of the way with a hooker would be a great way to gain a little confidence and make him much more likely to be able to convince a non-professional woman to give him a chance.

 

Well hes already tried twice so shouldn't be that awkward, maybe 3rd time lucky??

As for that special bullshit agree with ya here its just sex, like driving a car for the first time, once you get used to the road its foot to the floor

 

Read all your replies guys and I appreciate it. This has actually helped with my mindset a lot regarding sex.

I've thought about a hooker, but honestly I don't know if that would help the situation. I think for me, I've been trying to just get it out of the way, and it's making matters worse.

I might have to consider just being in a relationship with a girl.

The thing is this, no girl have ever asked me that I was a virgin ever. I think they assumed it when I was fat and ugly, and now that I look pretty good assume that I'm not. So everytime I was asked about my history, I told the same BS story that i've made up.

Girls will say to be honest, but lets face it if I'm honest, they'll probably keep me as a friend then and I won't have sex, where as guys say to just lie and tell them after. What should I do? I've pretty much lied for the best several years so much that I've gotten good at it, but it eats at my conscience sometimes.

But thanks for the advice everyone, this thread has definitely given me a huge confidence boost.

 

i cant tell you how to do it but i can tell you how i did it... i used to be kinda the same. very antisocial and full of hate and mean, not wanting friends or any thing from anyone really... i am not the same anymore and that is due to me meeting my wife... also DXM use. also meeting some good people in the huge piles of shit that society generally consists of (hence the name) so basically all i can say to you is to try to stay positive and keep trying with hope.

 

i think you need to stop thinking about that shit , your letting your mind make your decisions for you

 

i prefer to let my mom make my decisions for me.

 

find a lady that dosent want u for ur looks.

ull have the best sex.