Im gay, untill i cum... help plz

I knew guys who had similar feelings and talked about that maybe things would be better with a guy... and found out that things weren't that much better unless they were (a) the only one sucking cock and/or (b) bottoming, both things where performance isn't all that important except being able to give a good blowjob. Lying down and being fucked by a guy isn't (not particularly you soul) what I'd call a performance issue since, um, all you have to do is prepare to be fucked and assume the position. Performance, I'd say, only comes when you want to top a guy and kicking back and letting a guy blow you calls for zero performance on your part so what's there to be feeling inadequate about except women can make the best of us feel inadequate, to which I have said, "You might be right... but I got to have the pussy, didn't I?" Homey didn't really like the blowjob I gave him? "Okay, but I did suck your dick, and you did cum and it's not my problem if you didn't like it, is it?"

Whether you're having sex with a woman or a man, your performance is going to be whatever it is. Sure, there are things one can do to perform better but there's no guarantee that if you employ them, you'll perform better. Oddly enough, some guys perform better with other guys and most likely because guys aren't all that performance oriented and like women are. We're more like, "Dude, don't sweat it - just do your best!" I got to understand that women do put terrible pressure on us to perform and while some guys do this, not all guys do so I could see how a guy would feel less inadequate being with other guys.

 

I always knew that I was absolutely and totally gay but it still took me little while to find myself in a relationship with a man. Just be patient with yourself and allow yourself to be gay if that’s who you want to be! In this day and age your sexuality is what you want it to be.